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    As a dancer...

    When you approach a guy and he is not interested, would you rather...

    A. Before you even start speaking to the guy, or maybe even before you sit down he just says outright 'No thanks' really bluntly....which may seem kind of rude, but saves her wasting her time.

    B. The guy be nice, accommodating, hear the girl out. Get through the usual wishy washy crappy small talk the dancers always try and do, which bores the living hell out of me. Then finally when she hits the guy with the hard close, the guy just says No thanks and rejects her then after wasting a good 5 minutes.

    C. The guy kinda stops the girl mid-way through talking and tells her something like 'I only like short brunettes, can you send one over'...

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    None of the above... christ...

    Don't hear the girl out.. interrupt nicely and say, "Hey, sorry, not interested, thank you for your time."

    A is fucking rude, I hate it.
    B is wasting my time
    C is being rude, too.


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    Default Re: Which would you rather

    A is rude. You don't have to be that rude to avoid wasting her time. NO
    B is wasting her time. NO
    C is rude. NO


    Just tell her after she's introduced herself that you're not going to be buying dances - you don't have to cut her off or snap "no" or "no thanks" at her. You can even throw in that you don't want to waste her time so she can go make her money. She can move along quickly and you avoid insulting her by rudely rejecting her before she even gets close.

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    I am quite happy after an intro if a guy says "Hey I dont mean to be rude, but I really dont want to waste your time" sort of thing. But he should be polite about it.
    I bloody hate it when people cut you off mid-sentence or dont answer the question when you say hi, how are you today? Its like I am actually being friendly and polite, I dont expect everyone I speak to to buy shows but you could at least exersise the same amount of manners that you would anywhere else (-:

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    "I'm sorry, I don't mean to be rude but I'm not interested in a lapdance. Thanks anyway."

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    A. irritates the hell out of me.
    B. waste of time
    C. insulting. very.

    let her introduce herself. introduce yourself back. you know, kind of like a NORMAL polite way to treat ANY real person? then, if she asks to join you, say no thanks in a polite way. if she just sits right down and starts talking, talk to her for a minute or two (not much longer) and then bring up how you're not interested in dances. thank her for saying hi and just tell her you're not interested in dances. polite is the key word, yet again. you might even want to tip her a couple bucks for being friendly. many girls don't even approach customers because they think they're "too good" to do so. tipping someone who is actualy doing her job, being friendly, and is interested in you having a good time, is never a bad thing. i'm not saying you have to tip every girl who says "hi", just mentioning it as an option. you don't have to say anything about not liking her physicaly to tell her no. what is even the point in that?

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    bluntness is good, it saves time. But sometimes girls are just being chatty to fill in time or make her evening seem more fun you know. well i do. some guys its just not gonna happen but i like them and will chat for few mins!

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    Since I don't really care too much for the turn away, I typically tip 5-10 dollars for every approach to cover the chit chat time, since that will make or break my purchase.
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    I agree all 3 are rude.
    Just say no thanks in a polite way. I had a patron tell me last night after wasting 5 mins of my time that he only gets dances from asian girls. I said "well ok I can't help you out then" - I didn't try to turn it around coz his breath was so bad anyway. Then he suggested that maybe I could get my eyes changed to look asian!! haha yeh good one.

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    ^^^ I don't understand this mindset at all. "I only get dances from Asians;" "I only like short brunettes." WTF is that for? I mean, everyone's got a type, sure, but there are so many beautiful women in this world! Why limit yourself like that?? It makes no sense to me. I like Asians and brunettes too, and I have a fetish for long hair, and I like small breasts. But there have been so many beautiful blondes, so many cute bobs, so many large-breasted curves... I've enjoyed dances with them too. With all the wide variety of beautiful women out there, really, what's the point of setting such stupid limits?

    It's been my experience that only young boys do this because they think they have to lock into a type. Older men get a little experience and have more appreciation for the variety of female beauty that G-d has created.

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    A) Dont do that. Ill throw my shoe at you.
    B) Dont do this either. I'll probably throw my shoe at you.
    C) This ones kinda rude too. But, its better than the other two. You boys better candy coat this one before you deliver it.

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    maybe you could try 'I am currently waiting for another girl' she should leave you alone!
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    Like lux_44, I WILL throw my shoe at you... Hahha..

    1)RUDE.
    2)Just ignorant, don't waste my time, you wouldn't want me to waste yours..
    3)Isn't that more of the waitress' job?

    One guy actually told my friend (light skin Jamaican girl) after she asked him his name that he "doesn't like black girls." That's a little to far. She just shrugged it off like "Hah what a funny name! I mean who's to think? Mr.IDon'tLikeBlackGirls. Well have fun! I'd stick around and see things from your point of view but I can't get my head that far up my ass! Good night." I would have thrown shoes. All the shoes I could possible find. And bottles.

    I first thing I say is "Do you mind if I join you.." Use that as a time to tell me that
    1)Your waiting for a dancer
    Everything after that, I'll take as a lie anyway so don't say "On my way out" and sit there for hours. "Maybe later" will get you a dirty look and probably not another second of attencion after that. Oh, and don't look shocked when I wish you a good night and excuse myself.
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    I'd have to say "Maybe later". I don't say I'll brb if I don't intend on in. Oh no. I tell em straight up if their intrested they know where I am.
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    Hehe. I think "maybe later" and "be right back" probably occur about equally in frequency. I am not one of the girls who says "be right back" if I don't intend to go back, but I know alot of girls do. Or the "going to the bathroom" thing

    I'll never understand why people can't just say what they mean and mean what they say.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus View Post
    Since I don't really care too much for the turn away, I typically tip 5-10 dollars for every approach to cover the chit chat time, since that will make or break my purchase.
    I do this too for the same reasons. But, at times, it seems to keep them around longer. Some can't take the hint.
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    Totally agree with the rest of the girls. Your three options are so rude. Just like Lux, if you said any of that to me I would also love to hit you with my shoe.

    try this:

    "you're really sweet and I don't mean to be rude, but I don't want to waste your time either. I'm honestly just chilling and I won't be buying any dances right now"

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    oh, just say yes. We like that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Masscott View Post
    I do this too for the same reasons. But, at times, it seems to keep them around longer. Some can't take the hint.
    At the point of which you've given them money, you have the RIGHT to be blunt within levels of respect. I have no problems once I give them a five saying "Hey thanks for your time, but I'm just sitting right now enjoying myself trying to figure out what I want, I'll come see you if I want some company ok? Thanks"
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    Well the wishy washy crappy small talk dancers tried to do sounds very much like you need not be going to a strip club. Or You don't pay well perhaps and these are the only dancers you will attract, those who don't know how to market themselves very well.

    Deal with it. Your in a sales club!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sxc_gia View Post
    "Maybe later" will get you a dirty look and probably not another second of attencion after that. Oh, and don't look shocked when I wish you a good night and excuse myself.
    What's wrong with "Maybe later."? I often say this and mean it.

    For instance, when I first go into a club, I like to sit for awhile, relax, have a beer, enjoy the stage show, get a shot from the shot girl, etc. I don't want a dance right at first, but I will want one later.

    Also, I do not know when I first come in if the first girl who comes by is the one I want to have a dance with. I have my favorite dancers, but if they are not there that night, "maybe later" I will have a dance with you.

    Or, maybe the girl I want to dance for me never gets over to me, or maybe she sits down with her pals or her boyfriend. In that case, "maybe later" I will have a dance with you.

    If I DON'T want a dance with you, then I'll tell you "No, thank you." (like a dancer I've seen who has huge black spiders tattooed on her boobs. Looks like she is wearing an arachnid bra even when she has her bra off. Sorry, not interested in this one, although I notice that lots of guys are.)

    So, I think you are making a mistake and passing up some tips if a guy tells you "maybe later."

    Well, see you around. Well, maybe later
    Last edited by UtahMike; 02-03-2007 at 01:19 AM. Reason: inserted a missing word

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