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    Hello all,

    After years of stripping and studying sales, here is my analysis:

    An exotic dancer sells a fantasy by creating value (desire) and gaining trust (belief.) In other words, a man in a strip club spends money on a dancer because 1. he likes her and 2. somewhere in the back of his mind he thinks there is a possibility she might someday sleep with him. OR he spends out of a sense of obligation.

    I have heard it a hundred times, we are selling a fantasy, but I never quite understood what it meant. This is how I would define fantasy: The belief in his mind that she is authentically interested in him personally and possibly intimately.

    Value is based on his level of interest in her. Is he attracted to her? Does she seem obtainable?

    And belief... he needs to believe that her interest in him is genuine.

    Many a customers have told me, as soon as they sense that a dancer is only after money they are turned off.

    They hate that word, too-- customer.

    They prefer to be called "friends." My 'friend' comes to the club to watch me dance naked and pays money to converse with me. Yes its irrational, but men don't spend money on dancers because its logical. Their motivation is emotional. The "sale" (a dance, or a vip, or even a tip) is closed largely for emotional reasons which are BTW SUBCONCIOUS.

    That is the theory. Now as far as application...

    EYE CONTACT. It has been said that eyes are the window to the soul, and in humans eye contact indicates interest. We are an extremely visual species and when you look at someone it means that you are paying attention to them which means they must be important. All of this we process and "know" on a subconcious level.

    CONFIDENCE. Confidence (expressed through posture and behavior) adds value and creates belief-- belief in you.

    APPPEARANCE. Beauty and cleanliness are commodities.



    Anyway I would write more and this hasn't been edited, but I thought I'd post it in case it is useful to anyone else. Also, I am open to everyone else's opinion and additional input... what do you think? Am I accurate?

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    Thank you so much for putting this up! I have been trying to pin down the wealth of observations, ponderings, experience, theories and techniques in my head and you have just done that.

    Ive also taken from this that maybe I find it harder to GET the dance than to KEEP the dance because i should be using eye contact while talking and not only during my dancing.

    The other problem I am finding is trying too hard to not make the men feel like a walking ATM and ending up talking for too long and being too nice and not pressing for the dance. This is why so many girls are taking home £300-500 per night and Im only taking home £150. I feel like Im too honest and too nice for this job because Im too careful to not bruise any egos and its not earning me money.

    Its trying to find that balance between being beleivable and making your money...

    But I am sure this will come with experience. Maybe I should experiment with being a little less easy on the ego while still being my usual charming and entertaining self
    "Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it?" - Lily St Cyr (40's burlesque dancer)

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    PS: while i love this job, i cant help coming home with an increasingly unshakeable feeling that i should intead be a Dominatrix. Even the bouncer who drives me home says my eyes sparkle and i am much happier talking about being a Domme than when Im talking about being a Dancer.
    "Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it?" - Lily St Cyr (40's burlesque dancer)

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    I wouldn't agree that your assessment of the men is true of all of us. Or maybe even most of us. I for one have zero interest in OTC contact, so a dancer who tries to persuade me that she is available OTC would just register as cheap in my eyes.

    That said, the eye contact/confidence/appearance stuff works just as well for those us who are only looking for a fun hour in the club. I am looking for that dancer that I think can create a fun time. (A dancer last week told me that she "does a job interview every five minutes" -- that is exactly right, I think.)

    If the club is not so busy that it has entered a "wanna dance" phase, I would add "fun conversation" to the eye contact/confidence/appearance mix.

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    Default Re: Commentary on stripper salesmanship

    ^^ agreed. fun conversation, and GOOD conversation (-alist) (not so hows the weather type of convo) (also helps to do while seductively looking in his eyes, lol.)

    i also agree that not every customer wants OTC. in fact, most of mine do not as they are married or involved, or even just realize it's a fantasy and they enjoy that.

    Love it!

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    ^^^^ I agree also. The value needs to be built of the fun in the club, not out of the club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chrissy68 View Post
    (also helps to do while seductively looking in his eyes, lol.)
    You've got this guy's number!

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    Default Re: Commentary on stripper salesmanship

    Lucky One you hit the nail on the head. And DW I agree with you too, although nowadays the vast majority of clubs have lost their fun or party atmosphere. And dancers alone no matter how great they may be saleswise and personalitywise cannot make the guys intentions less serious. Many clubs are just as bad as working for large corporations nowadays with the high expenses passed on to the dancers by the owners to work there. This causes the dancers to be more cutthroat with the customers (oops, "friends") in order to maximize earnings.

    Instead, the strip club over the last 15 years or so has evolved into a tourist trap of sorts with high priced trappings. And the more the cost of something increases, the more the purchaser expects more in return for his money. High priced private rooms coupled with a scantily clad sexy looking woman in heels = a man's increased hunger for sex.

    Can the strip club business revert back to a place where the majority of guys will enjoy going there just for fun, and not to engage in the serious business of finding a girlfriend or getting laid?

    Thus the names Teaser's and Heartbreakers are synonymous with the strip club business, and work on most men's personnas in that order.The guys become aroused, and then get let down.

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