Hello all,
After years of stripping and studying sales, here is my analysis:
An exotic dancer sells a fantasy by creating value (desire) and gaining trust (belief.) In other words, a man in a strip club spends money on a dancer because 1. he likes her and 2. somewhere in the back of his mind he thinks there is a possibility she might someday sleep with him. OR he spends out of a sense of obligation.
I have heard it a hundred times, we are selling a fantasy, but I never quite understood what it meant. This is how I would define fantasy: The belief in his mind that she is authentically interested in him personally and possibly intimately.
Value is based on his level of interest in her. Is he attracted to her? Does she seem obtainable?
And belief... he needs to believe that her interest in him is genuine.
Many a customers have told me, as soon as they sense that a dancer is only after money they are turned off.
They hate that word, too-- customer.
They prefer to be called "friends." My 'friend' comes to the club to watch me dance naked and pays money to converse with me. Yes its irrational, but men don't spend money on dancers because its logical. Their motivation is emotional. The "sale" (a dance, or a vip, or even a tip) is closed largely for emotional reasons which are BTW SUBCONCIOUS.
That is the theory. Now as far as application...
EYE CONTACT. It has been said that eyes are the window to the soul, and in humans eye contact indicates interest. We are an extremely visual species and when you look at someone it means that you are paying attention to them which means they must be important. All of this we process and "know" on a subconcious level.
CONFIDENCE. Confidence (expressed through posture and behavior) adds value and creates belief-- belief in you.
APPPEARANCE. Beauty and cleanliness are commodities.
Anyway I would write more and this hasn't been edited, but I thought I'd post it in case it is useful to anyone else. Also, I am open to everyone else's opinion and additional input... what do you think? Am I accurate?



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