OK - so in my club, i sometimes wind up in the position of helping new dancers get acclimated and working on ways to get more money.
I had one recently who just wasn't going to cut it. He had no rhythm - his undies didn't fit right - he was basically just unsexy. Sweetest guy in the world, and huge potential to appeal to a certain niche, but unable to tap into it.
He had asked me for a critique, and i'm a good girl - if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. I basically said to him that he looked like he was really self-consciuos and maybe he should stop dancing and just try swaying and to drop his hands from his chest when he did that, and find his zone. I also had to help him look for custies, cuz he just seemed a bit oblivious. But I guess he had no game when i did point him in the right direction, because he was never able to close.
I realize that the gig can be overwhelming at first, particularly when you are a straight guy coming into gay culture, and also that it can be tough on your confidence because it's you that you are selling - but when asked for advice, just how real should I be?
I mean I wanted to give this guy a full out critique, and I think my subtlety did him no justice, because he didn't get it - but at the same time i didn't want to hurt his feelings.
When put in the position of helping someone is it better to be coldly analytical, or should I spare feelings? I mean, i feel if asked I need to be as helpful as possible.



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