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    OK - so in my club, i sometimes wind up in the position of helping new dancers get acclimated and working on ways to get more money.

    I had one recently who just wasn't going to cut it. He had no rhythm - his undies didn't fit right - he was basically just unsexy. Sweetest guy in the world, and huge potential to appeal to a certain niche, but unable to tap into it.

    He had asked me for a critique, and i'm a good girl - if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. I basically said to him that he looked like he was really self-consciuos and maybe he should stop dancing and just try swaying and to drop his hands from his chest when he did that, and find his zone. I also had to help him look for custies, cuz he just seemed a bit oblivious. But I guess he had no game when i did point him in the right direction, because he was never able to close.

    I realize that the gig can be overwhelming at first, particularly when you are a straight guy coming into gay culture, and also that it can be tough on your confidence because it's you that you are selling - but when asked for advice, just how real should I be?

    I mean I wanted to give this guy a full out critique, and I think my subtlety did him no justice, because he didn't get it - but at the same time i didn't want to hurt his feelings.

    When put in the position of helping someone is it better to be coldly analytical, or should I spare feelings? I mean, i feel if asked I need to be as helpful as possible.

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    Well, if by sparing his feelings you didn't help him...what's the point. He's into this to try and make money right? If you can in fact point him in the right direction...I say do it...he may feel insulted at first, but once the money starts rolling...he'll thank you.. (maybe not to your face, but he'll realize you helped). Remember too we're not at work to make friends.

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    point taken Lyssa Lynn. And I was thinking about it - if he was selling anything else, and wanted me to train him I would have read him and wrote him, chapter and verse - so that he could get that money.

    So i think if asked again, I will be as nice as possible, but as honest as possible too. why ask, if you don't want the truth?

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    I have always known gay guys to be brutally honest. Surely one of them will tell him the truth.
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    or just talk about his ass amongst each other. *lol*

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    Quote Originally Posted by ChinaJones View Post
    OK - so in my club, i sometimes wind up in the position of helping new dancers get acclimated and working on ways to get more money.
    Aren't you a club regular customer? And aren't most of the clientele other men? Perhaps another dancer may be better at training these new guys?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    Aren't you a club regular customer? And aren't most of the clientele other men? Perhaps another dancer may be better at training these new guys?

    yeah probably so - and i'm sure they help them out, if and when they feel like it. But he asked me what I thought so i told him, and it just progressed into a conversation from there. that's usually how it happens. it's not like my aim is to turn anyone out. i just become the cheerleader.

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    If you weren't going to properly help him with advice, perhaps you should have bought a dance and sent him on his way. I think that would be the best way to give him confidence. Put a little money in his wallet.
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    Main thing I learned: Only try to help those who listen.

    Start small.. work your way up.. if they don't get it or want it.. back off.. 'cause they never will.


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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan View Post
    Main thing I learned: Only try to help those who listen.

    Start small.. work your way up.. if they don't get it or want it.. back off.. 'cause they never will.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kali Doom View Post
    If you weren't going to properly help him with advice, perhaps you should have bought a dance and sent him on his way. I think that would be the best way to give him confidence. Put a little money in his wallet.

    i took care of him - that's a given.

    lilith - i tend to act as you say - and that's sorta what I did this time - I mean he did try to plant himself and sway the next time he was on stage, but it wasn't enough.

    (I should mention this was his last night to get it together)

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