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    Today I had an interview and I failed it bascially and I was quite upset afterwards because everything now is about confidence which I just don't have.

    I was wondering from everyone who dances "Has stripping made you more confident in yourself?"

    I've thought about doing it but always chicken out because I have low self esteem, no confidence and gets quite shy or nervous around people I don't know.

    I am unemployed at the moment for too long now and I've been really depressed.

    Enough of me chatting on...

    Back to the question has stripping/dancing made you more confident?
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    stripping can help you feel more confident because you realise a lot of what you were stressing about doesnt really matter, but it can also make you feel less confident, depending on where you are on the self-esteem ruler.

    the point here is tho, nothing will MAKE you feel more confident. you cant find self confidence from outside of yourself and especially not from other people. thats why its called SELF confidence. you have to take the time to be good to yourself and let yourself think highly of yourself. you have to know that it is ok to look in the mirror and like what you see. you have to start small. look in the mirror and tell yourself, for the next 5-10 minutes, i am not going to take notice of the things i dont like, only the things i do. find what you like about yourself and remember the compliments people have given you and feel ok liking all those good things. learn to focus on them because the more you focus on what you DO have, the less youll notice what you dont.

    remember, your thoughts are things. its like that old saying "you are what you eat". well you are what you think. everything that you think about yourself and your life, if you constantly think it, will eventually become real. its like thoughts are magic in slow motion. so, this goes to show that those things you DO want in your life, you only need to imagine and think always about.

    let yourself feel good about yourself. its up to you. because even if you rely on someone else to make you feel good, youre never really going to trust their opinion. it always starts with you. everything you think, do and live is YOUR CHOICE.

    so, choose what you want and decide to live it. it really is, up to you.

    good luck honey xxx
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    maybe more confident in my ability to make a make a guy to want me to rub my boobs in his face, but it hasn't made me feel more capable in another industry. I'm still quite shy OTC.

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    I've become more confident in myself.. im weird though... I can get on stage in super goofy costumes... make a complete ass of myself and torment the guys in the bar.. yell at them and put a show on... the second I step off stage im super shy and have a hard time talking to anyone...

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    more confident? sure...although I can still spend an hour categorizing all my flaws....
    I've also become WAY more ballsy....I have no problem telling people EXACTLY what i think. I've learned that holding my tounge and letting people treat me like crap is NOT the way I want to be.
    People always ask me, did I ever learn anything when I was a stripper? Yeah, I did. One man plus two beers equals 20 dollars.
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    Just thought I should share my thoughts, completely in the same boat! Unemployed at the moment, been through this wierd phone interview with a bank yesterday and completely blew it! My self confidence went from sky high to an all time low...must be time of the year. Funny enough, I've been doing sales all my life and that I think takes a lot of confidence in dealing with the public daily..but right now, it's hard to find any motivation to try other jobs other than trying to get into dancing!

    Just lost 1/2 stone in 2 weeks and thinking of going for audition next month, I'm in the UK too, where about are you? PM me if you fancy talking and we can boost our self confidence up together!!

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    I think that stripping can bring your self esteem really high, but then it can knock you down. You could have an incredible night where it seems that every customer wants you, and the next night you're being told your tits aren't big enough or you're too fat. And trust me, guys will say this shit. I'm sorry but I don't care how tough or thick skinned some people may think they are, these comments will affect you at times. So yes it can make you really confident but there are going to be times you're knocked off that pedastal, and it sometimes makes your esteem alot lower than it was when you started. At least in my case it does sometimes

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    Loving and accepting yourself is difficult for most women these days . We are conditioned at a young age to compare ourselves with others . Accepting what I have has been a struggle my whole life , and is still a work in progress. At times I feel on top of the world but it doesn't last long and then the pedulum swings to the other side. This happend daily, weekly ,monthly and these thoughts send conflicting messages (emotions) throught my brain . But with the help of my theropist I am able to try and make some sence of it. One tool that has helped me is creating a vaules sheet or goal sheet. It is simple write down what you value in the LONG run , what you what the most from life. And when negative thoughts pop into your mind ask yourself how it servers you ?You become an observer of your thoughts instead of acting from them. I have to practice that one myself because I often get distracted. Yoga /Pilates is wonderful because it also conects the mind to the body. You should know that many women have self confidence issues and you are not alone. As for dancing ,if it interests you try it. You might find you enjoy it or you might realize it is not your cup of tea. Live your life because you only have one.

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    Yes, stripping has given me a self esteem boost.

    However, if you have low self esteem and a victum mentality, stripping can lead to disaster.

    If you want just a self esteem boost from stripping, try some ametuer night contests.

    The contests are NOTHING like what it is to work as a stripper, though. But they are good for a self esteem boost.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    I think stripping helped me learn the power of "fake it til you make it."

    I learned that, even if I was feeling like total crap, if I could just force myself to go out on the floor and fake a friendly confidence, people would respond to that--and before I knew it, I'd be feeling pretty good for real.

    This has carried over into real life for me.

    ETA: It probably took a few years of dancing before I really learned how to do this. It didn't happen overnight by any means.
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