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    Default Lapdances..... where to draw the line

    I'm just curious to see what you girls do differently, and how it may or may not affect earnings. I noticed that I do a TON of showboating while giving a lapdance.

    It's kind of hard for me not to b/c I have a background in extensive dancing training, so I showboat alot during a lapdance ie: getting up to gyrate, flaunting my curves, turning around often, hell, what it boils down to is that I stand up an equal amount of time that most girls seem to be firmly planted in their customers laps!

    I haven't had any complaints, but I'm curious to whether others grind the entire song ( of course with the exception of changing positions) have seen the difference in tips as opposed to draging the grinding out. Part of me would like to blame slight burnout, but part of me thinks that I'm being too damn uppity.

    What is your lapdance technique to successful tips?
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    Default Re: Lapdances..... where to draw the line

    If it's a lapdance club, GENERALLY speaking, the more grind the more $$. But you need to stop grinding now and then and do something else to drag it out. Depends on the club/guy, but generally I'll grind for probably 1/3 - 1/2 of each song. It's more about how you do it than how much you do it

    At current club, there is NO grinding, so yeah, no grinding for me now.

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    I don't grind at all. I start out by removing my clothes very sensually and then put one knee on his stomach or leg and tease him, then slowly craw on top of him and slowly get my body real close to him. The first thing I notice every time is how much he just wants to reach out and grab me. The I just rub myself slowly all over him. Like I said, I don't actually grind (grosses me out) but I give a very sexy sensual dance. I usually only stand up once or twice to turn around and sit backwards on him, and during this time I'll move off a bit and shake my ass real quick before sitting down to make him wonder if that's it and the dance is over, what is she going to do now... then I sit backwards on one leg and bend over so he can admire my hair and back (and most of the time the guys start to rub my shoulders at this point which I wil let go on for a little bit unless they want to do it longer) Then most guys favorite part is when I lay back on him and touch my stomach and breasts a little. They get a great view and me touching prevents them from touching! The only thing is that when I do this my neck is usually in the right place for them to kiss it (which I hate!) so I try to make sure some hair is covering my neck so if they do try they at least wont get skin. I'll slide down their leg a little, then get up, face them again, blah blah blah. One thing the guys like that involves almost not contact is when I sit next to them and have my back to the side of the booth and stretch my long slender legs in front of their face and on their chest. Like I said, I'm really not even touching them and they love this ::shrugs:: Then I finish the dance with the typical facing them sensual, whatever.

    I've noticed a few girls at my club who dance just like this and lots of girls who just sit and grind. Some girls get on their knees and lean up on his legs and stomach and stuff. It looks very sexy but I haven't tried it yet.
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    Default Re: Lapdances..... where to draw the line

    we are not even allowed to do any of that!!
    A lot of girls at my club do the' sitting ona chair opposite them pretending to play a little' routine! To be honest though they came for a lapdance so why be so ar away!

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    You grind you make more $$$$$, it's that simple. Tease when you do it. Smile at him, turn around and give him a better feel while grinding, and turn back around. If you feel like he may cum, back off. Keep the dance bringing in money by making him happy feeling your body tight against his. Mix it up a bit, but not too much as to look like a dancer who can't make up her mind. Be smooth. Confident, and grind.

    I danced 2 clubs that allowed grinding. I had to laugh while other ladies are almost air dancing, knowing that was once me. I heard alot of ewwws...tough shit. I made better money. That is a fact!

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    i grind the majority of the song except for changing position. It is allowed at the club but a lot of the girls, especially might shift don't want to do it so it does make me money. However, it is not for every customer. Some will only get one dance with a grinder but will buy repeat back to back dances from a more dancing than grinding kind of girl. There have been customers that have actually asked me before "Is that all you do?" and "When are you going to actually dance?". But for the majority of the time the money is good.

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    Default Re: Lapdances..... where to draw the line

    I do a mix of grinding/standing. If he is a decent guy, I sit in his lap- lean back so my back is on his chest and my neck near his shoulders and I stay like that for a little while. So it's a grind, but still a little intimate.

    One trick I know the guys like is when the dancer puts her butt on the guys chest and does a split so her crotch is a couple inches from his face...they love that one.

    The lapdance queens at one place I've nbeen to just stay in the guys laps pretty much and grind the hell out of them- hardly any eye contact or anything....sometimes I wonder if making an effort to maintain eye contact is overrated.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette View Post
    If it's a lapdance club, GENERALLY speaking, the more grind the more $$. But you need to stop grinding now and then and do something else to drag it out. Depends on the club/guy, but generally I'll grind for probably 1/3 - 1/2 of each song. It's more about how you do it than how much you do it

    At current club, there is NO grinding, so yeah, no grinding for me now.

    I like that, "It's more about how you do it than how much you do it"
    That's very encouraging, I just don't want to come across as too prissy. I just can't seem to keep still, lol. Don't get me wrong, I have a routine way of giving a lapdance, but I just prefer to tease rather than continuous grinding. It seems too predictable.
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    I've noticed a few girls at my club who dance just like this and lots of girls who just sit and grind. Some girls get on their knees and lean up on his legs and stomach and stuff. It looks very sexy but I haven't tried it yet.[/QUOTE]

    I'm trying to get a visual, I'm sleepy as hell. But that sounds sexy, if I'm imaging it correct. But I'm always nervous to get on my knees b/c I'm fearful of getting instant ashy
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pamela View Post
    You grind you make more $$$$$, it's that simple. Tease when you do it. Smile at him, turn around and give him a better feel while grinding, and turn back around. If you feel like he may cum, back off. Keep the dance bringing in money by making him happy feeling your body tight against his. Mix it up a bit, but not too much as to look like a dancer who can't make up her mind. Be smooth. Confident, and grind.

    I danced 2 clubs that allowed grinding. I had to laugh while other ladies are almost air dancing, knowing that was once me. I heard alot of ewwws...tough shit. I made better money. That is a fact!
    LMAO, I remember reading some of your previous posts about your ability to lapdance, girl you know you wrong for causing men to almost bust nuts... LMAO.
    Damn, that's good hmmm, a lil too good j/k
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    Quote Originally Posted by PleasureVictim View Post
    I do a mix of grinding/standing. If he is a decent guy, I sit in his lap- lean back so my back is on his chest and my neck near his shoulders and I stay like that for a little while. So it's a grind, but still a little intimate.

    One trick I know the guys like is when the dancer puts her butt on the guys chest and does a split so her crotch is a couple inches from his face...they love that one.

    The lapdance queens at one place I've nbeen to just stay in the guys laps pretty much and grind the hell out of them- hardly any eye contact or anything....sometimes I wonder if making an effort to maintain eye contact is overrated.
    The split trick sounds kinky as hell too, I really need to up my lapdance shock value game!!!!
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    Making an effort to maintain eye contact is not over-rated as it is the main reason why I can keep a guy in the lap dance room or have him think that the $100 he just paid for a lap dance was well worth it (and usually gets another before he leaves).

    It is the grinding lap dances that bore the living snot out of me. I dispise them and the guys who want them. I make any excuse to end the dance early without them knowing.


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    Most of the guys at my club want a lot of grinding. It's the easiest thing for me to do so I'm happy to oblige!
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    I can't stand the sit and gridn dances, and pretty much refuse to do it. I like to give sensual dance...and yah, I do kind of a slow grind with one side of my butt, and look over my shoulder at him grinning like "we're doing something naughty!" but it last all of 10 seconds...and yet is VERY effective...and I do do the on my knees lean onto his stomache thing but I don't grind my chest into his crotch, instead I lift up his shirt (if possible, which it usually is) and will rest my chest against his skin for a moment..they go all goofy over that. So yah, I come into contact and all, but I'm not a pillow for them to dry hump like a dog....ick.




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    Quote Originally Posted by ExoticEngineer View Post
    I can't stand the sit and gridn dances, and pretty much refuse to do it. I like to give sensual dance...and yah, I do kind of a slow grind with one side of my butt, and look over my shoulder at him grinning like "we're doing something naughty!" but it last all of 10 seconds...and yet is VERY effective...and I do do the on my knees lean onto his stomache thing but I don't grind my chest into his crotch, instead I lift up his shirt (if possible, which it usually is) and will rest my chest against his skin for a moment..they go all goofy over that. So yah, I come into contact and all, but I'm not a pillow for them to dry hump like a dog....ick.
    That's similar to what I do. I won't sit and grind and if that's all the guy wants I won't do it, but I will tease him a bit, kind of like what you said. Most guys like my dance and get a few. Every so often a guy wants more and tries the whole, "Well other girls let me do this..." thing and I'd rather loose the extra dance or two and find a better guy. I got a great compliment last night though. The guy wanted to touch my breasts and wanted me to give him more than I was willing to, but after the end of the first dance, he was kind of like, I'd like another dance if I can do this... and then he was like, okay I'll have the second dance anyway because you are so wonderful. And he behaved for the second dance and when it was done told me how I was the best dance he ever had, his perfect woman, etc. Then later in the night he asked me for 2 more dances and after that told me he wanted to do a champagne court with me next weekend, so hopefully he'll show up. I was flattered because he liked me enough to continue the dances and play by my rules. We talked about the champagne court as well and I told him my rules and he seemed okay with it. I just didn't want him thinking that things were going to drastically change in there...
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    I would say this: feel out the customer. some want the sensuality that EE and Piper Eve are talking about and others want the sit n grind. with the latter, i'd say to mix it up, give them about 1/3 to 1/2 of grind but the rest sensually moving.

    some guys don't want a grind dance, and with them you can make a LOT of money doing sensual stuff and telling them how much YOU are enjoying spending time with him. he will stay there all night because if he likes the sensual im 99% sure he likes the woman to be satisfied. and if that's the case, he will stay there as long as you look like you are genuinely enjoying his backrubbing etc. (i find it's best to say stuff like, "ohhhh you know just how to treat a lady," or "ooooh, i melt for a guy who rubs my back!") and if that's the kind of guy are dealing with, PUSH VIP.

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