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    aussiepunkshocker
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    referance for a submissive help!

    I have recieved the following email and I would like to help but have not got a clue of what to write or how it should be written. Can anyone give me some tips / help please? This is a guy I just played with a couple of times - we both switched and I also accompanied him to a session with a professional domanatrix. It was a while ago now and generally Im not dominant and when i am Im much better at the physical stuff rather than the verbal so I am finding it hard to get started as Im not in the right mindset either. yeah so I need help with what to say and how to say it...

    >>i hope You are well! i need a favour if you can supply it to me? i have
    applied to serve as a sub to a couple of lesbian Dommes. However i need
    a
    referance from a Domme i have previously served? Can you supply me one
    in a
    written form with Your email contact details if they wish to get in
    touch?<<

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    Well, if you can make a list of this person's good qualities when it came to their submissive-ness, as well as what you personally have seen him do/go through, I could write something up for you? It's hard to suggest what to say when I dunno the person...
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    And i get many subs doing phone daily...but don't know what to tell you due to not knowing what the person is into or not...lots of if's when it comes to Dom/Sub play. I do verbal alot. But i have to ask them first what they want, soft or hard, what they will "take" or not.

    Good luck

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    Default Re: referance for a submissive help!

    Hey there. I've finally found a thread I can contribute to! 1st post!

    I wouldn't stress too much about what to write. Just by being willing to put something in writing you have already vouched for your friend by proving that 1. he has subbed before and 2. he has subbed with a Domme who is willing to vouch for him.

    Aside from that, perhaps focus on the kinds of things a regular job reference would cover - like he's punctual/reliable/well presented/hard working/willing to please/enthusiastic. If the Dommes he's looking to work with want a certain style of sub they'll let him know and he can adjust accordingly. I imagine the most important things to them would be that he will be keep appointments, be available when they want him and be on time!

    If you want to get specific you could let them know if he has a high pain threshold, if he's good at role play, if he's happy to cross-dress etc, but only offer this information if you know it for sure, no point making it up! If you don't know then no worries, they will already have heard this stuff from him anyway and if they have any other questions they can always contact you directly via email afterwards.

    As for format, I'd say go for the traditional "normal" reccommendation letter, no need to try to sound Domme-y - here's one I found on the wwww:

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    Date

    To whom it may concern

    I confirm that I have known (name) for (number) years.

    (State relationship - social, business, working together in some other capacity, club, activity, project, etc.)

    At all times I have found (name/him/her) to be (state characteristics - eg, dependable, reliable, hard-working, conscientious, honest, peace-loving, courteous, etc - to be as helpful as possible think about what the reader will most prefer to see, in terms of satisfying concerns, or seeing evidence of relevant required skills or characteristics).

    I'm happy to provide further information if required. (optional)

    Yours faithfully, etc.

    -------

    Hope that's helpful!

    xxx Sin

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    aussiepunkshocker
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    Default Re: referance for a submissive help!

    Paige, Pamela - thank you both for your imput and help! That was really nice of you to offer to write it for me Paige! I just wasnt sure what tone to use for the letter and how I should describe him, but the above post is very helpful! Once i get started i should be able to write it. (-: Thank you Sinia - and welcome to stripperweb!

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    Pamela
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    Good luck hun!

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