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    what do you do?

    i don't want to get into details about how it happened.

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    Oh, come on!! I beg!!

    This happened to me once. Well, I wasn't hated, but I was embroiled in a huge drama that divided the club. I left. I can't imagine staying in an environment like that. Strippers are fucking vicious creatures. They're going to start fucking with your money and doing all sorts of things to make your life miserable. And if the management hates you, too, you'll have no one to defend you.

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    How can we help you if you don't tell us the circumstances in which you found yourself hated by the entire staff of dancers at the club?
    "A stupid man's report of what a clever man says is never accurate because he unconsciously translates what he hears into something he can understand." - Bertrand Russell

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    Ya'll bitches need to calm down. Cerously.
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    yeah, you gotta tell us. maybe it's something that'll blow over. and if not.. you have to decide whether to say fuck em or whether you should leave. personally i dont know if i'd want to work in an environment where everybody hated me, i'd feel awkward. but on the other hand, i had a friend that didn't give a shit. we arent friends anymore for reasons that have nothing to do with work, but i know she still goes in to work and doesn't care what the other girls think.

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    when I first started, everyone hated me, even the housemom! It wasn't in my head either because they later told me they did. I stuck it out and stayed there because I liked the money, but it was annoying. I think if some of the queen bees don't like you, they will make sure all their minions don't too.

    They'd constantly be mocking me, laughing about me behind my back, trying to start fights, telling on me for everything (even stuff I didn't do!)

    Eventually (like after a year or two), they came around.

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    Happened to me a few times. I think my conclusion to that problem was to stop socializing with the girls. I'm not there for that. They don't pay my bills. That's when you realize the less they know you, the less they can say about you.
    Tell us what happened though, you'll get great advice!
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    I had this happen to me. I switched clubs. I can't stand drama, it fucks with my money.

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    It all depends. You have to look at it this way...

    If you did not do anything deliberate to piss anyone off, most likely they hate you out of envy or jealousy. Jealous evil strippers will do anything to fuck with you and your $$$. They may mock you to your face or behind your back. They'll try to make it so that you can't make $$$. They'll lie to your regulars about you, spread false rumors about you, or try to team up so that you can't make $$$ with good regular customers. They'll play mind games with you. They may even bribe someone in the audience to throw insults your way so that your evening will be ruined. Don't be so naive as to buy into all of this. They are just trying to piss you off. Watch out for your personal safety outside the club too. Park your car in a public, well-lit area. Watch your rearview mirror and routinely check the locks on your car and your home. Some of these idiots will stop at nothing to try and hurt you. But guess what? ALL THIS SHOULD BE TAKEN AS A COMPLIMENT. You must really have it goin' on if they go to such lengths to try and piss you off. The best way to deal with it all? IGNORE THEM!!! You are above all this shit, right? So why even bother to give it the time of day? If you go in there and have fun, and remain positive, these bitches will see that nothing they do can get to you and believe me, that will make them feel pissed off, powerless and foolish. Which, of course, they are. Do you really care what these immature little girls think of you anyway? Don't feed into their drama. Don't lower yourself to their pathetic little level. Be strong and show these people that whatever they do, they will never get you down. So ignore them and have a blast and make your money. They'll self-destruct eventually anyway and you'll have nothing to do with their downfall. And since you will have respected yourself, karma will have her way with these losers. What you throw out there, you get back.

    How is the $$$ at your club? Now if you feel like you wanna crack emotionally and your income has taken a serious hit, it may be time to go to another club. But do not tell ANYONE where you are going. Chances are though, the B.S. may follow you there too, because you know how word travels in this business.

    AND Emily- sorry to get off track here, but I love the ferrets!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sunshine73 View Post
    AND Emily- sorry to get off track here, but I love the ferrets!
    Agree. Your ferrets and my ferrets should have a playdate.

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    Yea Em, the one on the right looks like my own Pookiekins!

    Mina, it depends on whether you did something to deserve it or not... That way you can predict how long it would take to blow over. If it's really bad, you might want to consider another club for awhile.
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    Hey, sorry to hear about this.
    I can def. relate. It's like this where I live, unfortunately, including (especially! the management). I have gone really out of my way to be kind (Biig Mistake), but now I just basically have to completely ignore everyone. A real odd ball drunk troublemaker moved in 2 doors down (I call him Deliverance). There's a few ok ppl. I greatly worry for my safety too.
    I think Sunshine had some great things to say. I guess you'd have to weigh the pros & cons of staying there vs. going to another club. Good luck.


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    ^^ Why thank you.

    Yeah, if you did something deliberate to piss off the other dancers, I'd run to another club and start over.

    But if you didn't do anything and they are just being jealous, it's another story.

    Either way, be on your guard. And pray for protection.
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    Maria Callas said it best: "When my critics stop hissing, I shall know I'm slipping."

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    what happened was i unintentionally let it slip out to a customer some personal information about another dancer. now this customer has fled, messing up this girl's "money" (he stopped spending money on her), which she desperately needs in order to care for a new baby.

    the dancer was saying i was lucky i wasn't getting pushed down the stairs or having my head shoved into the toilet.

    ugh. i feel awful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mina loy View Post
    the dancer was saying i was lucky i wasn't getting pushed down the stairs or having my head shoved into the toilet.

    I know it's hypocritical to say this... but why are strippers so crazy?

    Girls where I work are so ghetto and violent that on Saturday night a BOUNCER had to sit in the dressing room because so many fights were breaking out!

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    yeahh.. that's not cool. i might try a new club if i were you. if you do decide to stay, DO NOT EVER SHARE PERSONAL INFO ABOUT OTHER GIRLS AGAIN. make sure you learn from this mistake, wherever you end up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    I know it's hypocritical to say this... but why are strippers so crazy?

    Girls where I work are so ghetto and violent that on Saturday night a BOUNCER had to sit in the dressing room because so many fights were breaking out!
    i wanted to question them as to why they thought being violent was a-okay. yet i left the club feeling so terrible i felt like i deserved whatever violence they wanted to dish out.

    weak, huh?

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    yeahh.. that's not cool. i might try a new club if i were you. if you do decide to stay, DO NOT EVER SHARE PERSONAL INFO ABOUT OTHER GIRLS AGAIN. make sure you learn from this mistake, wherever you end up.
    of course. yet that doesn't help the fact that other dancers seem to hate me because i sell more dances than most of them.

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    huh--- well......it does sound like you screwed up, maybe by telling him that she had a kid? Never EVER get into another person's information. that's just WRONG. That's why i even refuse to tell the girl's what my real name is, or why I'm really careful about my phone number.

    why not talk her up to customers for awhile and try to get her more business--obviously you have to take care of you first, but if you do this for two weeks maybe she'll chill and realize you didn't have bad intentions.

    And if you don't want to fuck with your money, then just talk her up to the guys who make it obvious they aren't into you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fancygirl View Post
    huh--- well......it does sound like you screwed up, maybe by telling him that she had a kid? Never EVER get into another person's information. that's just WRONG. That's why i even refuse to tell the girl's what my real name is, or why I'm really careful about my phone number.

    why not talk her up to customers for awhile and try to get her more business--obviously you have to take care of you first, but if you do this for two weeks maybe she'll chill and realize you didn't have bad intentions.

    And if you don't want to fuck with your money, then just talk her up to the guys who make it obvious they aren't into you.
    i've considered doing that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mina loy View Post
    what happened was i unintentionally let it slip out to a customer some personal information about another dancer. now this customer has fled, messing up this girl's "money" (he stopped spending money on her), which she desperately needs in order to care for a new baby.

    the dancer was saying i was lucky i wasn't getting pushed down the stairs or having my head shoved into the toilet.

    ugh. i feel awful.
    Is it at all possible to apologize to this girl?Maybe offer some gesture(lame sounding I know, but sometimes the cheesy stuff works) like bring her flowers.....even a ghetto bitch might laugh and forgive if you walk in the next night you are both working with a big bouquet of flowers and an "I'm Sorry" balloon...or something like that. Sometimes it's the silliest things that will work. At least everyone will see that you made an extreme effort to make nice.....or is she just a ghetto bitch who will try to start a fight no matter what?

    Either way....you know that you screwed up...whether she over-reacted or not this is because of something you did...so if you havent already...say you are sorry..and mean it. And hope for the best.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cameronfl View Post
    Is it at all possible to apologize to this girl?Maybe offer some gesture(lame sounding I know, but sometimes the cheesy stuff works) like bring her flowers.....even a ghetto bitch might laugh and forgive if you walk in the next night you are both working with a big bouquet of flowers and an "I'm Sorry" balloon...or something like that. Sometimes it's the silliest things that will work. At least everyone will see that you made an extreme effort to make nice.....or is she just a ghetto bitch who will try to start a fight no matter what?

    Either way....you know that you screwed up...whether she over-reacted or not this is because of something you did...so if you havent already...say you are sorry..and mean it. And hope for the best.
    i apologized and meant it. and yes, i know that i screwed up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mina loy View Post
    i apologized and meant it. and yes, i know that i screwed up.
    Well...either she will forgive or she wont. Dont kill yourself over it. People screw up...you're human. You didnt do it on purpose.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cameronfl View Post
    Well...either she will forgive or she wont. Dont kill yourself over it. People screw up...you're human. You didnt do it on purpose.
    of course i didn't do it on purpose. the trouble is regaining that trust and respect of the dancers. on one level i want to be "accepted" by the other dancers so work can be drama-free and on another level i have the "screw you, i don't care what you think of me" attitude. what would you do in this situation?

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    Mina, I actually did the same thing one time, stuck my foot way in my mouth....and said something to a custy that should nto have been said. It sucked....I screwed up and totally blew it, and I told the girl the exact same thing. I went right to her, apologized, told her I f*cked up huge and that it was an aweful thing to do (even though it WAS by mistake) and that I was SO SO SO sorry. It took about a week for her to cool her heels and get over it, by then every one else had forgetten as well, especially once she found another spender, it was water under the bridge.... hopefully this girl can be as adult. Try to ride it out for a bit.... if it gets too malicous then yah, maybe move on....




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    p.s. Having talked to the girl in front of other girls helped as well....it at least made me feel better and showed the girls I wasn't hiding from what had happened, I owned up to it...that gave me a little backing. Plus it was hard for her to rip me a new one after saying all that in front of people.....eh, kinda.




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