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    Hey Ladies,

    I just wanted to share with you all that I started dancing last night at the local stripclub. I was SO nervous, I didnt know what to do. I did my first stage dance and my first lapdance- The girls at the club were trying to get me to move like them but It was hard and I dont feel comfortable doing everything they do. When I got on stage I twirled around the pole a few times, took of my top and shook my ass a little bit. I felt like I was doing horrible but I guess i did all right because I got a few dollars. I didnt make as much money last night as I would have liked. As a newbie I am not sure how exactly to dance on stage because at my club all they play is booty poppin music and I feel I should dance fast and not slow and seductive. Its kind of hard. Tomorrow night I go in for a "training session" and a few of the girls I work with will be teaching me tricks and dance moves. When i did my lapdance I was more nervous, the guy was all touching and feeling me and I thought that wasnt allowed. I didnt say anything though I just let it go. He kept trying to give me a ride home and get my number but I resisted and he got upset. If you girls have ANY advice for me in terms of stage dancing, lap dancing, hustling or anything at all I would TRULY appreciate it. Hope to hear from you all soon.

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    Congratulations on your decision to dance! I know the first night is never easy, but things will get much much easier. Is there anyway you could talk to the dj and see if he can play you different music? I have a miserable time dancing to the booty music, and move much better to rock or metal.

    I've been dancing for quite some time...and I still have a hard time not sweating my butt off on stage. But then again, I am probably the top tip-getter on stage...so I think the guys apreciate when a girl puts some effort into her performance. Try looking in the mirror and moving a bit. Put on the music you want to dance to and see what looks good. And most importantly, do what is comofortable to you. Pulling and tearing muscles is neither fun nor sexy.

    And as far as the guy you were talking about, fuck-em. Assholes are a common thing in our job, and you have to learn to roll with the punches. What I mean is, don't feel bad or rude when you refuse to take/give numbers or a ride home. He knows exactly what he's doing and how he's acting. Assholes are continuously trying to push the limits and see what they can get. Set limits for yourself and don't let anyone cross them. If he's doing something during the dance to make you uncomofortable, simply tell him "sorry, I don't allow that." Don't let them get to you.

    Well, hope that helps!
    I'd grab my trumpet and I'd do a stripper sound, like the old Louis Armstrong, real raspy. And the people would go nuts! Then I knew that the sexual, sensual, guttural sound, that throbbing sound, is where it's at.

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    Hey Girll!

    You did good and you looked cute. Plus you got a lap dance. Just keep being you and we will learn how to make money like the other girls. See you tomorrow night.

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    Hey Aries,
    Thanks 4 the compliment- You too did well you looked sexy!!!! See you tomorrow night.

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    Absolutbliss,
    Thanks so much for you advice and I will take what you said and use it. I will set limits and try my best not to give in and let the guys get the best of me. I will ask the dj to play some slow songs 4 me and c how that works out. I will do what feels comfortable to me as well as try to incorportate with the girls teach me.

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    First of all, never do anything that makes you uncomfortable. If you don't like the way a guy is touching you tell him to stop. Make sure you know hwat the rules are for LD's. If the guy isn't supposed to touch you than don't let him. Richmond and Hopewellclubs all have different rules when it comes to contact. In fact both Paper Moonclubs have different rulesabout what is allowed. Remember, YOU are in charge.

    As for the guy asking for your nmber, get used to this. giving out info is your own decision. If you don't want to tell them that it's not allowed, if only I'd met you outside of the club, or get theirs and that doesn't mean you have to call them. Tell them you don't have a phone even.

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    Collect up front too. Then if a customer won't stop doing whatever is making you uncomfortable, you've got your money for the dance and he just saved you some time and work. Get up and leave. You're an independent contractor and don't have to dance for anyone you don't want to.

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    I'm with all the others on knowing your comfort limits and keeping them set. Strangely enough you will actually make more after this because cause will respect you more professionally and with respect comes $$$! DON"T EVER feel bad for enforcing these limits, or feel like you are missing out on money... assholes who press them are never ones to spend anyway (as I've often found), so feel proud that you are sticking up for yourself as you walk away (or reprimanding them in lap dances). Those who appear exclusive become exclusive. It is a privilege to be your spending customer... not a right... this is a crucial dancer's mindset.
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    Thank U ladies

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