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    What do you usually say to guy while giving him a lapdance?? When I have my lapdance last night I didnt really talk ( nervous) and plus I didnt know what to say. Also, when going about taking guys to the VIP section how do you go about that? Do you just say hey lets go to VIP or what? When dancing with one guy, how many songs do you lapdance to for that one guy ? I am new to this and trying to learn. Any suggestions and comments will help.

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    I can't help you with the VIP part, because I've never worked in a club that had VIP, but as far as private dances- I don't talk to the customer at all unless they start talking first. Some guys like to talk during the dance, while others like to just enjoy the dance and concentrate on that. So if the guy starts talking, I'll talk with him about whatever topic he happens to bring up, but if he says nothing, I say nothing. I just take my cues from him.
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    Men go to strip clubs to get away from chatty women. If he talks to you, then answer, but most of them just want to enjoy the dance without having to make conversation.

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    I've found the opposite to be true. I like to strike up a conversation because if you are having a great conversation along with the dance then the guy is more likely to stay longer instead of interrupting the flow of the proceedings.

    It's my key in how to keep them going for, at least, one more dance after the initial one.

    As for what to talk about, the same topics you would talk about on the floor. I usually start with the topic of music by saying something about the current song that is playing whilst I am dancing for the guy. It's a light-hearted topic and can lead onto other topics easily if need be....

    There are already a million and one threads about VIP hustling. Please just search thru Hustle Hut here. If you seek, you shall find!

    As for dancing for a guy, well I dance for however long he has pre-paid for me to dance for him. It works differently here in Australia, everyone pre-pays for the time based on actual time (10 min) or songs (3 songs). I never have to worry about being shafted as they guys HAVE to pay up-front or no fun for them.


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    I think a little convo can be good. Just keep it light. I think I do better when I joke around with the guy as i'm dancing unless he's one of the really into it pervy guys.

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    Some guys like to be talked dirty to, some guys like it when you make little "hiss" noises like you're getting turned on by giving the dance for him. Look in their eyes, bite your lip, -- it all depends on the place. is this a contact club, like you give a dance on the couch and is he allowed to touch?

    Also--I won't talk dirty to a guy unless he asks me too, and usually once I start he gets a few dances. Maybe a little "Oooh <customers name>" here and there, but I won't start going off at the mouch with explecitives unless he asks.

    To then sell a VIP (champagne room?), I just talk about how I am the best girl to take back there, that they will be satisfied, that I am the SHIT. Basically, if you come across with a huge amount of self confidence (without going overboard into arrogance) they usually are sold. Sometimes I think the satisfied part sells it cause they may think they will be satisfied in other ways, but I just mean satisfied with their time. And if they ask how they are going to be satisfied, I giggle and slap them on the wrist/arm whatever and change the subject.

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    i dont have a conversation while dancing with them, but im not afraid to say stuff and make jokes and laugh.

    last time i worked, the lamp behind my guy's head kept slipping and falling over and losing its shade onto the floor. it fell three times! we laughed and i said "i cant help that im so hot even the lamp cant handle it"

    he was an ozzie and kept saying "happy australia day to me!" cos he was loving my dances. he kept buying more and eventually had to stop cos he was getting too excited hehe.

    i always make a joke if i slip on my dress, or the tie catches or my thong gets stuck on my shoe or something, i say "oh no, wardrobe malfunction!" and it gets them laughing.

    i think laughing, smiling and joking during the dance keeps them enjoying it and often helps the nervous guys to relax. they are also more likely to buy another dance from me later wen theyve had dances from more serious girls and start to miss me.
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    ladies,
    Thanks You all of your comments and suggestions helped and I will keep them in mind.

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    Yeah, talking while you are actually dancing is about as cool as if you started talking about some random shit during sex with your boyfriend, lol.

    When I ask for a dance, I say, blah blah do you want a dance. When they say yes I smile and say great and ask if they know how dances work here? Generally, they say no and then I fill them in starting with the most expensive VIP first. Also, to not scare them, when they ask which VIP room is best (in my case 3 song, half hour or hour) I generally tell them hmm that the nicest room is the hour room but the 1/2 hour is nice too, and we can always add another 1/2 hour. I think that's less intimidating

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    Okay,Cool-Thanks 4 the advice VegasPrincess. I appreciate it.

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    how you act with the guy depends on what type of guy he is. you will get better at "reading" guys after you have more experience on the job. some guys are just pervs and you hardly even have to say a word to them, it's just like "wanna get me naked?" "sure!" and then you take them in the back and grind for a while. sometimes you can dance for a guy for an hour and he won't say a word to you... he'll just sit there and enjoy the dance.

    some guys are different and want more of a "girlfriend" experience, so they will ask you questions about yourself and try to get to know you. sometimes its weird when you are laying naked all over a guy and he's like "do you go to college? what's your major?" and starts talking about non-sexual stuff. but whatever, just go with the flow and answer their questions. try to reverse the questions and ask them what their major was in college for example. everybody likes talking about themselves and it will help to kill time and keep him with you for longer cuz he's engrossed in the conversation. i think that chatting REALLY helps you make money most of the time, cuz you want the guy to like you and feel like he is making a friend. this is how you get the guys to come back to the club and spend money on you next time!

    as far as asking them for a dance, i would say introduce yourself and chat with them for a song, and then pop the question. but don't pop the question like "hey, wanna go to the VIP now?". you have say it in different ways that sound more sexy and give them less of an opportunity to say NO. usually i will take their hand or grab their arm and be like "i think you're ready for some fun" or "i'm gonna steal you away for some naughty time". make sure you sound REALLY confident, and smile!!! if you want to dance with the guy for more than one song, just say to him "let's keep going!" and giggle. always act like you're having fun.
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    You don't usually talk during a lapdance - the guys are paying for a DANCE, not talk. A few might talk to you while you're dancing for them, and well, you talk back. But 95&#37; of the time, it's just dancing.


    As for getting guys into VIP, there's a metric ton of info here about that. Click here and read through these threads to start:

    FYI: there's 2 pages of threads there. Read them ALL.

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    Less talk and more eye contact. Guys love eye contact during a dance. Everytime you face him, look him in the eyes and give him a sexy smile. That seems to work well for me

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    eye contact DEFINATELY! it makes the dance SO much hotter and they are more likely to want to stick with you.
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