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    ok, so im never the one at work who gets lucky with the group of high spending guys, after last night, i think im glad im never in that position!

    im confused about the protocol when guys are spending fuck loads of money (ie these guys brought every single bottle of cristal the club had between the 4 of them and us girls- most of which got tipped over us!) they also booked 6 girls for several hours.

    so when they start pressuring to touch further or they break rules a lil here and there, wtf am i ment to do?

    my natural reaction is to slap them, and walk away. ya cant do that in this case. id have gotten in a fuck load of trouble if id done that and caused them to leave. but at the same time, it was draining to sit there for so long, and have to constantly slap their hands away, but still smile and be playful about it.

    i seemed to be the only one treated like that in the group too- no one else complained after they left about it.

    how am i ment to deal with guys like that, without ruining the night for everyone, and without it being so damn draining on me!?

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    Oh that sucks! I do believe its still ok to walk out in this situation regardless of how much money has been spent and how long they have booked you for. They know the rules, they should know the consequenses if they try to break them. However I know that if other dancers are involved and they're not on the same wavelength as you it can create an awkward situation with management which sort of sucks.
    When all else fails though a cheerful reminder that any unwanted touching is sexual assult usually works for me. I say it sort of smiley like so I dont totally kill the mood. For the customer who this didnt work for I resorted to tying his arms and hands up with my bikini string and kicking him hard in the shins. I could have walked out of the show - and I have sometimes, but I thought tieing him up was way more funny! I was also quite pleased when I kicked him - it was just a reflex action and a bloody good one at thet (-: With some guys you can make them sit on their hands or punish them every time they try to touch by stamping on their toes or poking them hard in the ribs as most dont like it enough to keep persisting although its still mentally tireing for you having to bother to keep fixing the problem.
    Sometimes I make a point of moving so Im out of arms reach - if its a group and theres one or two that arent rude and grabby Ill go sit with them and let the grabby guy/s know why, if not Ill go sit on the floor and yell the conversation if I have to. I also have no problem being rude to customers and telling them what I think, it can be done in such a way that its not totally offensive but does get the point across. Often people will respect you much more when youve done this, you can also make it funny. I almost always get appologies from people too and I dont think Ive ever lost $ from doing so, nothing worth mentioning anyway.
    You shouldnt not ever stand up for yourself just because guys have spent alot of money. People need to know that money doesnt buy everything!

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    If you ever feel that you're in a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable, no matter what GET OUT!!!! Don't worry about the other dancers because I promise you, they'll turn on you in an instant! That happened to me one time where I was in a group VIP room for 2 hours and my guy kept on grabbing me, he bit me several times, kept trying to lick me, etc. I was actually physically hitting him back and kept on telling him to knock it off, the other girls saw what was going on but didn't say anything. This went on for an hour and a half and I finally said to him "the next time you touch me, it'll cost you $100 each time you do that" well needless to say, he wasn't happy about that and got up and left the group. To make a long story short, the main guy who was paying and the other girls blamed me for him leaving!!! I was so pissed because I was like if it weren't for me, the party would've ended a long time ago so do what's best for you no matter who's in there and how much money they're spending! I guarantee you they won't look out for you because I was the victim in the situation and was the one who got blamed for it and what doesn't make sense is the girls all got their money so I don't know what their problem was! When you're in a bad situation, worry about yourself first!

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    This is why I am careful about the groups I get mixed up with. If the other girls are good about keeping the guys in line, it's easier for you to keep your in line. But if others are letting guys get away with crap, it'll just make things hard for you - usually.

    There's really no easy answer. I have learned to watch who I get stuck with, and if I know certain girls to be dirty I will avoid their groups as well as try to get my friends involved instead of (or at least along with) them

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    I don't really think there is a way; it's going to be draining. I think you did right - essentially trying to diffuse the conflict and promoting enjoyment of hte experience, but there is no way of doing it that is going to be "easy" for you.
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    the group of girls were great, they just didnt seem to cop any shit hah im sure they would have totally understood if i had walked out.

    i like the idea of 'touch me again, and it will cost ya ' haha

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    Edited.

    Nevermind (-:
    Last edited by aussiepunkshocker; 01-30-2007 at 07:03 AM.

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    Just turn into the dominatrix. Smack them around, make them get up, bend over, and spank them in front of their friends. Pin their hands. Put your knee in their crotch and apply pressure if they are too handsy. But keep it light, and keep them laughing.

    If they try to bite your crotch when its near their face, try "crotch-butting" your pubic bone against the bridge of their nose. Its a quick move, but the cartilage in their nose is sensitive. This also works with a hip bone. Pretend it was an accident.

    I learned these many tricks from dancing in Houston. The one thing not to do is just take it, and try to get drunk so you don't feel the humiliation. I've done that before, and it just led to worse things.....

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