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    Hi i just turned 18. I am VERY curious about dancing. There's only one problem, I don't even know where to begin in exotic dancing. I'm also married. my husband is now deployed but when he returns I want to be able to do 'new' things. Someone please help me.

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    Buy an outfit or if you have some lingerie or something use it and just get the legal thong ranges from $5 -$30 dollars and go audition. Watch the girls on the stage while filling out your application or just go in one night and see how the girls move .Its not that hard read as much as you can here and it will help you out big time.

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    Ok, if I go in one night just to see how the girls dance, will people be wierded out about why I'm looking at other females?

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    Well, it doesn't really matter if other people wonder why you're checking out other chicks, but to a lot of people its obvious that you're checking out the club. I went last night out of curiosity (by myself!) and just acted like I belonged there as much as any of the guys. A few came over and asked me if I was planning on auditioning so I think they can tell the difference between research and play. Either way, you have nothing to lose and it will make you waaay more comfortable with dancing there. Good luck!

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    Hey don't worry what people think or don't think about you "checking out the dancers" Dancers are there to be looked at

    No matter the club I go to I am on what I call "ultra scan"...I am seriously watching the dancers to see how they move, what they do, how they interact with the customers, how their make-up/hair is done, what costumes they wear, music they dance to.................

    You get the point.

    I would love to be a dancer, and have stripped for strangers OTC not for money but for reasons given elsewhere in the forums.

    When I could and not interfere with a dancer earning her pay I struck up converstations with them and asked questions.

    Unfortunately I am unable to dance right now...I am still dealing with baby weight and as such would be more of a turn off than a turn on. That doesn't stop me from dreaming or coming here to SW.

    It also gives me a goal to strive for....in my weightloss efforts, gaining upper body strength, getting into a Stripper's Grooming regime, and sitting in awe of the dancers that have made an impact on me...making me dream of dancing and thinking "Yeah, I could do that!"
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    Iam in the same boat as you sultry siren, although I guess you probably have gathered that from our PM conversations...lol

    I asked a friend of mine last night if she would go out with me to some strip clubs in Edmonton...she flat out said I am weird, why would I want to go gawk at some naked chicks...etc..

    I am not a lesbian, I dont even remotely have a sexual intrest in other women(there was some experimenting in University...but that is whole other thread..lol) I just admire them, love to watch them, and I want to do it!!!

    Some of my girlfriends just dont get it They are too intimidated and threatend by the whole atmosphere of strip clubs and refuse to go, wont let their man go...etc

    I would go by myself, but I am afraid that is kinda risky...Im not used to the city, and I would be a an easy target for any sorta pervs/lunatics

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    Are there any specific exercises I should be doing to keep in shape? Also, I saw some really nice pictures of girls doing pole work and stuff, ho wthe heck do i even begin on that!?....lol

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    You will tone up very fast when u actually start dancing, it's very good exercise.
    Otherwise check out http://www.thepoledancedirectory.com/
    u can find some pole dancing classes in your area.

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    Thank you all so much. Now I just have to actually do everything you all suggested. I hope I dont embarrass myself...lol

    Lyric

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    Goodluck...you can do it

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    Thanks...I hope so.

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    Curiosity is also the beginning to self discovery.

    I was brought up in a home that was very anti-stripper/exotic entertainer. Strip Clubs were places you were supposed to pray would close down as they were places with no morals and they contributed to the downfall and degrading of women.

    Because of all the hub-bub and my already entrenched (though secret) love of Burlesque I was insanely curious as to what the inside of an SC looked like and what went on inside those dens of iniquity and sin.

    FFW to a few years ago...

    My hubby suggested going into a SC when we were in Edmonton for a "Dirty Weekend" I flat out refused and let him know I was extremely angry at him for suggesting such a thing....a little later and another "Dirty Weekend" we were in West Ed Mall and my curiosity won over my indignation and upbringing. I surprised him by asking him about going to a SC.

    We went to Diamonds Gentlemen's Club on the South end of the city. I was nervous going in having thoughts of 1970's porno theatres, messed up dancers, and you know the drill by now....

    When we were in the club I was surprised at how many women were there as customers...that the place was clean and actually nicer than I thought, and there was not cum splattered all over the place and gumming up the chairs!!

    It took me a while and a couple of drinks to get comfortable...all the while fighting the voices in my head telling me that I was in danger of going to hell for being in such a place.

    When I did get comfortable I thouroughly enjoyed myself and began a journey of respecting and sitting in awe of the dancers and their athleticism.

    As you can tell from my previous post it has gone well beyond that now and I discovered a part of myself I never knew was there....DAMN THERE IS A STRIPPER INSIDE OF ME JUST DYING TO GET OUT!!!!!

    I prefur going to SC's vs the regular bar scene and the bouncers in the SC's I've been in seem to be more concerned about what goes on in the club vs a regular bar.

    When we go away on holiday I am the one now who checks to see if there is an SC in the area we are going and try to get to at least one.

    There is a book I highly recommend for anyone seasoned or curious about dancing. EXHIBITIONISM FOR THE SHY ~ CAROL QUEEN This book can launch your exhib self and some of her stories are humerous. The book also helped kill some of the guilt I felt regarding my exhib nature vs my upbringing.

    Pursue your curiosity because it can take you to some very delightful and liberating places!!!
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    I wouldn't worry about pole stuff. The club you work at may or may not have a pole. Anyway, that stuff will come.

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    Ok, so basically just go to a SC first to see how the dancers dance and then just learn from there? I'm very shy when it comes to dancing so there is no experience here at all.

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    Yep, that's right. I was shy too but you do get over that. Quickly.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_Luscious View Post
    Yep, that's right. I was shy too but you do get over that. Quickly.
    How do you get over being quickly? Wouldn't that like mess up the audition? I just ordered some shoes so I told myself as soon as they arrived I would go audition. I think I'm gonna chicken out though. When my hubby aske me to dance for him I get VERY nervous and end up not doing a good job so I'm really not sure on what I will do. Is that a bad thing?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lyric View Post
    How do you get over being quickly? Wouldn't that like mess up the audition? I just ordered some shoes so I told myself as soon as they arrived I would go audition. I think I'm gonna chicken out though. When my hubby aske me to dance for him I get VERY nervous and end up not doing a good job so I'm really not sure on what I will do. Is that a bad thing?
    I just made up my mind to do it and i went. Like anything you do for the first time, you suck. Then you get better. Believe it when i say it will be "just another day at the office" after awhile.

    it will be easier to dance for joe blow, who you will never care to know than it will ever be for your man. I still wont dance for my boyfriend.

    you may loVE it or you may find that its not for you, but you never know til you try, right?

    i personally think 18 is a little young to dance though. it aint high school, you know. You should be able to hold your own when conversing with customers b/c your gift of gab is what makes you the money. You also need to have a clear head when dealing with asshole customers, annoying gossipy strippers, and moronic managers. Few 18 year olds have good coping skills. Not trying to say that YOU cant be poised, intellegent person at that age, but certain things just come with experience. thats just my personal view, but there are gals on SW that have danced since 16 so they may feel differently.

    but fuck it, we all need money, right? you will be the only 18 year old on your block that is making a REAL, livable income while everyone else slaves away at burger king for 5$ an hour.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AkashaM View Post
    I just made up my mind to do it and i went. Like anything you do for the first time, you suck. Then you get better. Believe it when i say it will be "just another day at the office" after awhile.

    it will be easier to dance for joe blow, who you will never care to know than it will ever be for your man. I still wont dance for my boyfriend.

    you may loVE it or you may find that its not for you, but you never know til you try, right?

    i personally think 18 is a little young to dance though. it aint high school, you know. You should be able to hold your own when conversing with customers b/c your gift of gab is what makes you the money. You also need to have a clear head when dealing with asshole customers, annoying gossipy strippers, and moronic managers. Few 18 year olds have good coping skills. Not trying to say that YOU cant be poised, intellegent person at that age, but certain things just come with experience. thats just my personal view, but there are gals on SW that have danced since 16 so they may feel differently.

    but fuck it, we all need money, right? you will be the only 18 year old on your block that is making a REAL, livable income while everyone else slaves away at burger king for 5$ an hour.
    That's right. I probably should have added this before, I have a son.(Yea, I know I'm too young) Though my husband is in the military we still sometimes find ourself in financial need. Nothing bad but I prefer to just make good money instead of like you said, slaving for $5 an hour at a fast food restaurant. Who the hell feels sexy in a Burger King uniform? You said that you thought 18 was probably too young to start dancing? What kind of things do you have to know to be able to deal with the customers, other dancers, etc.?

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    Lyric one thing I would suggest for you to consider is that you are dancing FOR YOU first...the custy second. If you have to in the beginning sort of dissasociate yourself from the moment...go into your own fantasy if you will...and do what feels sexy for YOU...your moves must feel sexy in your own mind or they won't come across that way towards customers.

    I as of yet have not danced professionally (for profit) but I have danced/stripped for strangers and the feeling is amazing when you really get into it! The first few times I was nervous as all hell and had a knot in my throat so big I thought there was a baseball in there However I am such an exhibitionist that the rush took over and it became fun....

    In public school I was the girl none of the guys wanted to date, and although I was/am not ugly, I thought there had to be something terribly wrong with me that I couldn't get a date!!! So to now be the object of men's fantasies and to have my hubby getting off on seeing how other men want me makes me feel sexually powerful and way more confident than I ever dreamed possible....

    I've seen in clubs where customers can make or break a dancer's night...and even though you have to have soft and sexy skin it has to be tough and thick as well.

    For every cluster of customers that tell you how amazing you are and how sexy, beautiful, etc. you are there is going to be one who will say something degrading, mean, or disgusting about you within your hearing. You have to be able to let that stuff roll off you or you'll be a mess.

    As far as VIP sessions go there are many stories here about bad custies and the other women here can fill you in on their experiences, with the VIP's from hell or the ones that just pissed them off.

    Honestly the BEST way to know the score is to go into the club(s) in your area and observe...ask questions of the dancers...just don't interfere with their earning potential It could be your market research...find out the pros/cons for yourself see what other dancers do, how they act, and tailor it for yourself and your personality.

    I agree that 18 is pretty young to be dancing but hey what do I know
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lyric View Post
    That's right. I probably should have added this before, I have a son.(Yea, I know I'm too young) Though my husband is in the military we still sometimes find ourself in financial need. Nothing bad but I prefer to just make good money instead of like you said, slaving for $5 an hour at a fast food restaurant. Who the hell feels sexy in a Burger King uniform? You said that you thought 18 was probably too young to start dancing? What kind of things do you have to know to be able to deal with the customers, other dancers, etc.?
    I didnt mean to sound preachy or screaming, "oh nooo, youre waaay too young!" Its just that in my experience, 18 year olds that I have met at work tend to not take the work seriously, worry too much about "fitting in" and all the stuff associated with "being 18."
    As for customers, they sense naivete and feel that 1. its ok to try to get over on younger dancers. or 2. may want to converse with someone "more mature." Life experience plays a role when dealing situations that require certain responses; ie. negotiation, damage control, maintaining a calm demeanor etc. In essence, will you be able to handle the good ($1K nights, money managment) with the bad? (solicitation for sex, aggresive customers). I'm not trying to put you off, but you are considering dancing and I wonder when 16, 17 & 18 year olds say they want to dance. Granted, I know 40 year olds that act like 10 year olds.

    Obviously certain factors in your life have made you come to this desicion (you have a child, a husband who is away, and you guys are having some $ troubles and responsiblities) to dance. Because you have responsibities that most people your age dont have, I assume that you are more mature than most 18 year olds. I've been on my own since 16, but I am not the same person I was at 18.

    young? yeah. too young? depends who you ask and how you handle youself, thats all. i don want to turn this into a thread into "no teen strippers!" in a motherly voice.

    as for everything else...you go to a SC, sit down, watch, have a drink (no, you cant, can you? lol) and if you like the place--audition. Dont worry about the pole tricks. Many dancers have danced for years and have never done a pole in thier career.
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    Lol.....no I can't drink. I understand where you are coming from now. I guess I never really thought about all that. Only the looks and the money. I can say that I am more mature than most 18 year olds. I guess for now I'll just watch to see what goes on so that I can know somewhat of what to expect. I will ask this. When auditioning, do you just dance for the manager or you're actually in front of everyone? If I do decide to dance, what is the most appropriate age to start?

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    It depends on the club...I think for the most part it is management (maybe DJ) only but I have heard of clubs where you audition when other dancers are present...and some in front of an audience.

    Maybe if there is a club that has an amature night near you, that would be something to check out too.

    In Victoria BC Canada there is a club that has an amature night (or is it week???) and women "compete" the winner or the dancer chosen gets a $1000.00 purse and the experience of dancing without having to commit to it.

    That club has launched some careers doing that!

    As for the age thing WOW! I only contemplated dancing when I hit my 30's. I'm no longer self depreciating and comparing myself to other women as I was in my teens and 20's. I am more confident, love my body now, and know how to handle difficult and obnoxious people for the most part. Kind of the I am not going to take crap from anyone but I can be sweet about it without resorting to bitch mode all the time...Wink and a smile can go a mile.
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    Ok I see. I think what I will do is look for a minute just to pick up new things and once I'm comfortable enough and build enough confidence then I'll audition. Thank you all so much. It really saved me from just jumping into it without seeing all the other possibilities that could happen.

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    Aww I would like to do an amature night!

    Lyric, I wasnt trying to scare you, I am just an overly cautious person...sometimes to a fault.

    As for auditions...like sultry said, everwhere is different. where i live, most managers throw you on a side stage (but it is in front the custies and other dancers) they watch you take your dress off and they hire you if they like you.
    Come to think of it though, I didnt audition when I first danced, I didnt know how to yet, so they said I would learn eventually.

    OR They may not even make you audition, but want you take off your clothes in the office so they can see you body. Ive done that too at a couple of places.

    I know you live in GA, where do you plan on dancing?
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    Well, one of the ladies from here you use to live wher I am and she said it would be best if i go to a club called Temptations. It's in Savannah. She said that one of the clubs was nude and that i should start off at a topless bar first. I'm not sure of any other ones yet.

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