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    A few friends are throwing a bachelor party for a friend of ours who is very religious, doesn't drink, and has never been to a strip club. He is a great person, but can be a bit judgemental. We are hoping to get him in a little trouble during the party and after significant pressure from his friends he has agreed to visit a strip club (He says he will have one drink, but no lap dances!). He said he will try to "save" a dancer or two. We plan on visiting Vegas during March madness (He is a big bball fan) or Houston in late february during a family reunion. Any advice on the best club to get him into a little trouble? Any advice on how to get him to loosen up a bit?

    Sorry if this sounds like a crazy question.

    Thanks in advance!

    BTW...I think half the reason he is going is because his fiance said he wasn't allowed.

    Thanks again!

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    Oh great strippers love customers who come to drink and not buy dances!!
    Well I suggest u try to get rid of that idea from his head because that is how we earn money.

    Also he will not be met with a positive reception if he tries to save the strippers!

    I don't know what to suggest to get him to loosen up - alcohol.

    Just make sure that if he sticks to his plan not to get dances that he at least tips the girls.
    Alternatively don't take him to a strip club just take him somewhere he will feel more comfortable.

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    I don't see the point in taking him to a strip club if it's not his scene and he won't enjoy it. If he's not going to buy dances and he's going to try to "save" the strippers, all he's going to do is piss everyone off and no one's going to have a good time. It's HIS fucking bachelor party; why not do something he'll enjoy, like bowling or something?

    I have a good friend who's a straightedge Christian, doesn't drink, and doesn't mess around on his girl, and if he was getting married I can't imagine his friends trying to drag him to a strip club and make him drink when he doesn't want to. His ideal bachelor party would probably be a Christian punk concert where he could rock out and headbang.

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    Agreed. I really think you're barking up the wrong tree here. He IS going to be uncomfortable the whole time, and the dancers will be equally if not more annoyed at the waste of space, not to mention time and effort, your party will be.

    And trying to "save" a few dancers? Only if you guys buy him a Champagne Room for him to work his Jesus magic. I'd be willing to listen to this for an hour if I was getting $450 or so for it (though I can't promise a straight face).
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    Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it.

    If you're friends, do something he would enjoy, not something you "want" him to enjoy.

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    Agreed. Don't do it. Bad move. He won't enjoy himself, and he'll be saddled with major guilt resulting in unnecessary drama. Nobody will have any fun.
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    ...Those poor poor girls who have to deal with this.

    Why would you claim to be a friend, but then drag the poor kid where he seriously doesn't want to go? He isn't comfortable, he'll be upset and mad, the strippers will be upset and mad when they don't get paid, and none of the girls want to be told how they'll get saved. Leave the guy alone, take him to a regular bar

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    oh man, if you take this man to vegas he'll have a heart attack. LOL

    just take him out gambling or something instead.

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    It sounds like you guys are more interested in visiting the strip club than he is... As friends, you should understand it is his party - not yours. If you go to Vegas, why don't some of you go to the SC while others stay with him and watch hoops and then switch off. It's stupid to drag someone to a stripclub if he doesn't want to go. And even if you get him to do something, he's going to feel guilty about it later and resent you for doing it.

    Plus - once he tells his soon-to-be-wife (and he will) you'll never get to hang out with your friend again once he's married. Wives have a funny way of laying down ultimatums like that if they think a friend is a bad influence.

    So - unless for some reason you want this to be one of the last times you do anything with your friend, I say, skip the strip-club and do something else.

    Heck - watch the games at Hooters if you want to look at pretty girls. He'd probably be OK with that and his fiance can't get too mad.

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    if you want to stay friends with him: don't do it. He'll piss of dancers and staff, have a miserable time, resent you guys convincing him, and once his wife finds out (and she will), he has a very good chance to get the, "sure you can hang out with them, but You're sleeping on the couch".

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    Yeah, to be honest, this sounds like general sadness just waiting to happen.
    Though I'm sure that they're more exciting with nudity, bachelor's parties do not have to include it. Get him to press his boundaries, but in ways that he will enjoy-- gambling, you know. I have minimal Vegas experience, but could you try some sort of burlesque show with minimal dancer/viewer interaction? That way he could quietly gawk while not pissing anyone off with his sermons. Or, yeah, Hooters could work.
    But if you're going to insist on going to a strip club, you could try explaining the situation to one of the girls and tip her excessively. If you're going to make her put up with this, make it well worth her time. But you could work something out like paying her near the price of a dance for the time she spends propositioning him...

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    I would piss my g-string laughing if someone thought to have a stripper dress up as Salome & give her a prop mannequin head that looks like John The Baptist for a "Christian bachelor dance"... Just kidding.

    Don't make him go...I used to be that anti-stripclub ! A LONG time ago. He'll just be annoyed.

    Better yet, hire a belly dancer to come to a house party.. "For your friends, not for the intended..."

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    Seriously, listen to what everybody here has said, there is nothing positive that can come out of a strip club experience for a guy that doesn't want to be there. I HATE when people want to save me, especially if they aren't spending $$-your guy would be doing both things. Do something else.

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    Please don't take him to a Houston club. He might get exposed to sex in the club and that may ruin his opinions of clubs forever (He could become a club junky, or get a bad image of all strippers).

    Take him to a club that is relatively extras free.

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    I would recommend doing something else, such as a golf outing to a renown course, a sporting event of some sort.
    If you insist on something with strippers, I think a private party would be more in order. You could start out as a card game with the guys, and then have a couple girls show up. Private party girls are generally more apt to give the guy extra attention, and listen to any religious BS he might spew at them. They will dress in whatever theme you might suggest, catholic schoolgirl might be a good one for him, or nun. lol.

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    My best friend hates strip clubs. I love them (prolly too much).

    Too much of a Catholic upringing made him very, very, very uncomfortable around nekkid women cavorting all over the place. When he got engaged, the only way he was gonna let me be the best man was to absolutely promise on everything I hold holy that there would be no strippers at his bachelor party. I did and there weren't, much to my chagrin.

    Your idea: It's not funny. It's not cute. If you're going to Vegas, that means a $30 cover charge times the number of dudes in your party. And for what? So everyone can squirm while you and your buddies waste a bunch of dancer's time, and your friend demands to leave within 20 minutes? Sorry, don't see the humor or the point.

    This is a perfect "Bad Idea Jeans" ad, a la the "so when I am ever gonna be back in Haiti?" line.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Everyman View Post
    If you're friends, do something he would enjoy, not something you "want" him to enjoy.
    Well said. I was with a bachelor party group once in a similar situation. Everybody was having a good time except for the actual bachelor. You could tell it was just not enjoyable.

    As suggested, take him golfing, sky diving or indoor sky diving, hiking, etc.

    Then put him to bed and go have fun !

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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine View Post
    I would piss my g-string laughing if someone thought to have a stripper dress up as Salome & give her a prop mannequin head that looks like John The Baptist for a "Christian bachelor dance"... Just kidding.

    Don't make him go...I used to be that anti-stripclub ! A LONG time ago. He'll just be annoyed.

    Better yet, hire a belly dancer to come to a house party.. "For your friends, not for the intended..."

    I like the belly dancing idea better.

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    Anyone's troll alarm going off?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jimperson View Post
    He said he will try to "save" a dancer or two.
    How about now?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jimperson View Post
    We plan on visiting Vegas during March madness (He is a big bball fan) or Houston in late february during a family reunion. Any advice on the best club to get him into a little trouble?
    Vegas? Houston? Yep, thats where I'd start an uncomfortable newbie, in the deep end of the high mileage and high hustle pools. Why not just hit a local club? Even if "local" means a two hour drive.


    Any advice on how to get him to loosen up a bit?
    Yes. Skip the strip club, find the closest NCAA regional and take him there instead. Or fishing perhaps.
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    Don't bring him to Vegas!
    I dont need to be saved.

    You know whats going to happen? Your going to take him to a club, and he is going to sit there the entire time looking very uncomfortable, he is going to turn down every single dancer who approaches him. And if you buy him a dance...see my thread about the friend who buys a guy a dance, and the guy turns it down.

    Seriously, its his party. Why cant he do what he wants, and not what his friend want him to do? its supposed to be his last hurrah before he gets married. Its his night, and he should have as much fun as possible. If going to a strip club sint his thing, hes not going to have fun. Why not do what he wants to do?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post
    I like the belly dancing idea better.
    No! No! No! Don't hire a bellydancer for a bachelor party. That is extremely disrespectful. Middle eastern dance performance is family-oriented. Any girl doing it for bachelor party is just going to be regarded as a stripper, and subsequently harrassed.

    Just go to Vegas, watch the games, play golf at one of the resortys, gamble the sports book, see the sights, eat some nice food, and go home.

    Avoid Houston.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    No! No! No! Don't hire a bellydancer for a bachelor party.

    For my Bach party (by the way, from the subject line I thought this was a thread about a classical music party ) my cheap pals paid for very old bellydancer. She was awful. Awful. Fortunately, I was so drunk by the time she arrived--and, remember, I was dopey, 25 year old version of myself back then--that I blushed and smiled moronically during her performance. Then she huskily invited me to join her in the back bedroom for a "special private dance," which I declined, despite howls of disappointment by my friends.

    A couple of years later, I participated in a Bach party (again, NOT a classical music party) for one of the guys who had been at mine. This time, we hired a limo, there was porn playing on the little limo TV, and we traveled around to a variety of bars and SCs in N.J.

    That night grand fun for me, which I attribute to the simple fact that I wasn't the nervous groom at the center of the attention. Life lesson: Attend bachelor parties as a guest, never as a guest of honor.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    No! No! No! Don't hire a bellydancer for a bachelor party. That is extremely disrespectful. Middle eastern dance performance is family-oriented. Any girl doing it for bachelor party is just going to be regarded as a stripper, and subsequently harrassed.

    Just go to Vegas, watch the games, play golf at one of the resortys, gamble the sports book, see the sights, eat some nice food, and go home.

    Avoid Houston.

    Oh no, I know that. I was thinking more of taking him to a restaurant where they have belly dancers, not hiring them for a bachelor party. You're right, I should've been more specific. My mistake.
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    JESUS MAGIC! Classic.

    You know what. GO ALL OUT. Pool together some money, buy a Nun outfit, pay a dancer 900 to wear it and dance for him in champagne then take pictures (making sure not to ID the dancers) then hold on to em.

    Jesus Magic made me think of the time I got slapped by a nun in church for calling the wine Jesus Juice.


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    sounds pretty pointless to do a bachelor party for a judgmental fuck. if you must spend time with this douchebag, just play some poker at someone's house or something and have him tucked in at 10:30.

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