I'm not scared about being pregnant or giving birth. What I'm scared of are birth defects, mental retardation, child developing severe autism, etc. I've aken care of people who had severe disabilities, and my boyfriend's brother has Down Syndrome. While I loved the people I took care of, it's still a huge strain on everyone. You can judge me as you wish on this but I know that there is
ABSOLUTELY
TOTALLY
NO WAY IN HELL
that I could ever bring a child into this world who would never grow up. It's hard enough to take care of a normal kid. A kid with disabilities is as difficult as taking care of multiple children at once, plus you'll have to take care of it for the rest of your life, and eventually have to entrust care to other people when you can no longer do it. Other kids are deprived of attention. It strains marriage so much that the birth of a disabled child often spells the end of a marriage. Even if they do stay together, Golden Years go bye-bye. I see absolutely nothing wrong with aborting a baby who will be a strain on everyone. When I get pregnant, I will have the full battery of tests (genetic counseling, chorionic villli sampling, ultrasound, etc), despite the risks, because there is no way I could subject myself, the kid, and my other kids to that.
I had an uncle with severe schizophrenia. He eventually committed suicide. His mother was devestated of course, but she's also a wonderfully wise, pragmatic lady who said, You know, it's kind of a relief that he's gone. I know that he's no longer miserable, and I don't have to worry about what's going to happen to him once I'm gone." I have a cousin with severe Asberger's who's parents will have to worry about her their entire life. There's no way in hell I could do that.
Those stupid Biblethumpers and "Human Rights Activists (I'm not talking about real ones, I'm talking about the ones who saw Terri Schaivo's allowance to die as cruel)" who claim that every child has a right to be born need to walk a mile in someone else's shoes for a bit. They have the luxury of being backseat drivers who can ask theoretical questions. People with disabled kids live in a very REAL world, where they have to deal with things accordingly. If you have a kid with a disability, you're stuck with them. While I don't condone sending them off to a facility to be forgotten (in the old days, they'd send them to these facilities, where they'd die of pneumonia epidemics because antibiotics hadn't been invented and there were close quarters that ensured spreading of the disease), it's still not fair to be stuck with them.
I don't mean to prod, but how did you prepare for this? Prevent it? Has anyone terminated a pregnancy because it would have resulted in a kid who would never grow up?



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Then the last pic, she was in w/ him. Dude, chick was like, almost 50!!! Anybody knows you're taking a big risk having kids over the age of 40. I thought, what a selfish bitch, seriously!!! And she already had, like, 5 or 6 kids. I wanted to im her sooo bad, but ultimately in the end, it is none of my business.

but also know that my time is running out and want to have another before I hit 40. 
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