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    Default I am never happy with what I make

    I could have a really good night and I am still disappointed at the end of the shift. I'm always thinking I could have gone on the back stage more or went around the room again to see who wanted dances or maybe I didn't talk to the right guy at the right time and missed out on oodles of money. I stayed hella busy last night and I didn't take any breaks. I was hustling the whole time and made most of my weekly goal in one night. I didn't have time to do any of the stuff I'm thinking I should have done but I'm getting down on myself nonetheless. I'm just sitting here beating myself up thinking I could have made more money even though I know I did everything I could and the only way I could have made more was if there were two of me running around the club.

    Does anyone else here do this and how the hell do you get yourself to stop it?
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    Default Re: I am never happy with what I make

    Type A personalities of the world, UNITE!

    I would take it as a good thing, like you are striving more at all times. But relax, baby. Unless you are breaking records you know you have the capacity to earn more so you want to keep at that level. Your doing good, go easy on yourself.

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    Take It Easy The Money Will Get Better.



    I Love Life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    Ok sophie, honestly...DO you ever read what peopel write, or do you just respond to the title of the thread??
    Take It Easy The Money Will Get Better.

    stayed hella busy last night and I didn't take any breaks. I was hustling the whole time and made most of my weekly goal in one night.
    She aint bitching cause the money is bad, shes bitchin cause no matter how well she does, she cant be satisfied. OMG. You really annoy the hell out of me. GRRR. You are my new pet peve.

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    Haha... I feel the same way. Last night I was 8 dollars... 8 FRIGGIN dollars from my "magic number". I kicked myself in the ass, even headed back out to find out that I was the last girl, who did the last dance with the last customer and there was no more money to be made. Grrr...

    In a way, it's good because the next time I work, I will push myself to do more and more. As I am sure you do too. Sometimes it is not in our power to make $800 a night, not because of how we work, but how busy the club is, type of clients, etc... Try not to be too hard on yourself. Do you set a nightly goal for yourself? Try to do that and if you meet your goal, keep going, but don't down yourself for not making more, more, more. I've also found out that it helps to have a trusted friend, someone who will tell you that you did good, worked hard, and to remind us how spoiled we are because we make nightly what some people make in a month.

    Still, I bitched about my 8 dollars on the whole hour ride home, lol.

    Anyway, try not to be too hard on yourself. It seems like you are doing well. Keep it up and be grateful that again, sometimes what we make nightly is more than some people make in a month.

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    Hi my name is Lisa and I am a Type A Personality.
    "Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it?" - Lily St Cyr (40's burlesque dancer)

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    Rather than looking at your money as "what if I.....to make more", look at what you have and think about how long it would take someone in a "regular" job to make that much. Example, in a couple of hours we can easily make $200-$300, whereas Average Joe White Collar, it may take him a day and a half in his job. Either way, we got a sweet thing goin' on. Yeah, we work hard for our money, we just don't have to work as long to make it!

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    Yeah...I totally agree. I'm usually not happy if I make less than $500. Even if the club is damn slow and most of the girls didn't even make rent, I bitch about not making more than $700 with my husband all the time.

    He's working really hard to become a lawyer and works for a law office right now. He's always says: "babe, relax please! I had to go to college for 5 years, and I still have 3 years left, I've worked really hard, work 40 hours a week, and you make on one night what I make in a week" That usually makes me feel a loot better. lol

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    Oh, that's me! I'm never happy.

    I'm usually content, sometimes pissed off, but very, very rarely thrilled.

    It's part of the territory for having high expectations for yourself, so I guess I'm okay with it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    OMG. You really annoy the hell out of me. GRRR. You are my new pet peve.
    Join the friggin club, Kaylinn!

    Sometimes she's good for comic relief though - I read a few of her posts to my BF and he couldn't stop laughing.

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    Honestly, that attitude is going to end up hurting you in the long run. Its negativity, and will affect future earnings.

    Think about what you did well. You hustled your ass off and didn't take breaks. You approached all of the prospects you had a chance to approach. You had fun dancing and conversing. You entertained some people and made them happy.

    Opportunity cost is a bitch, I know. And just like everyone, I've ALWAYS gotten pissed that I wasted time with an asshole who was hosing me rather than getting away. But that's just life. Think about the time when you did spend a little more time chatting with that guy and he ended up being a huge whale for you!!

    Now, earnings amount vary by club too. In Texas, there are no VIP rates, so its $20 a dance wherever you go. By that notion. I was happy if I averaged at least $100 an hour, and did everything I could to keep positive and keep going.

    Put things in perspective, very few other jobs will pay out as handsomly at times, enjoy it for what it is!

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    All of you are right of course. I try to stay positive and rember that most people aren't making in a week what I make in one day. Today I just said "Fuck it" and I did my thing. I did good for a Saturday dayshift and my weekly goal was met. I'm just going to try and be happy with what I make and not kill myself over what-ifs.
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    Ya'll bitches need to calm down. Cerously.
    In other words: Boo-motherfucking-hoo

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    I always do that! I think if I just came in a few minutes earlier, if I would've asked for one more dance from each customer, what if, what if, what if........every night! Even when I have a kickass night I still say but I wish I made more! Nothing wrong with that, that's a good thing because you're striving for more and are striving to be successful! I'll say to myself a lot "Damn it, I only made xyz tonight" when it's still good but not my highest or only average, but in a day job, it wouldn't even be half that most of the time!

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    I always set a very realistic minimum goal for myself and try to be happy with anything above that but I am type A as well and every time I hit a new record I am no longer satisfied with making what I was previously happy with.
    I just want to get better and better.

    I also over-analyse everything - oh maybe I picked the wrong customer and if I had picked customer A instead of customer B I would have been able to sell more dances and make more butnow customer A is gone.
    I mean try to set yourself a realistic goal and be satisfied with achieving that goal.
    But I hear you I'm very hard on myself too.

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    Set goals! That way you have very easy, black and white ways to decide if you're 'successful' one night or not. Like...

    'I will do 3 VIPS' is something you can succeed at
    So is 'I will walk out of here with $1000 tonight after tipouts"
    So is 'I will do 25 dances'
    Etc

    As opposed to the ephemeral 'Did I make enough???' The complementary way to think about that is when you are just putting money into a saving acct and not really thinking about it or having defined goals for your money. It's just kind of there and it's money but it's not satisfying b/c it's not tied to a definition of success the way that '$5,000 money market account' is.

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    I usually do set goals but even if I make my goal, I'm still not happy. I still think I could have made more.
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    I know how you feel. No matter what I make from dancing and the night is over, I look back and find little mistakes I did with customers that could have gotten me more money. Many of my friends at the workplace say I obsess about it a little too much, but I see it as a way to better myself and my income from dancing. Might as well use a bad night as a learning experience to make them less common!
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    I feel the same way sometimes--maybe I should have talked up Champagne Room differently, cut the songs even shorter to encourage them to go up there, played more classic rock when all the old guys were in, etc., etc.

    The more the dancers make, the more I make.

    The more I make, the more I realize how much more there is to be made.

    I have a huge mountain of singles on my living room floor that I've simply been too busy to bundle into hundreds. The other morning (still night for me) buzzed on a bit of wine and talking to my dad on the phone--who used to get pissed at my being a starving artist (before I was a DJ). I was literally rolling around in a gigantic pile of money, laughing insanely, "It's still not enough!"

    The key in your case is to not beat yourself up--but to keep your goals and expectations high, and keep raising the ante, until you either start making what is enough, or come to the point where you need to change your attitude--as in 'I'm getting rich, it's time to relax and enjoy it!'

    But above all don't degrade your own efforts, especially if you are attaining your goals, or coming within eight miserable dollars, lol!
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    I used to totally be like that!! Even if I made 1500 dollars, I was convinced I could have made 2000, ya know? (Not that I make money like that all the time- I wish I did tho lol)

    I realized what an ungrateful and shitty attitude that was. I now try to appreciate what I have, everything that I have..... And just be happy. Of course if I mak 50 dollars over my house fee, but honestly you guys, how many people leave work with 200 dollars? You know? Even though you might be used to making way more.

    Another thing I had to suck up and realize was that I, sadly, am not rich like my customers. A lot of the people I meet have INSANE money, and I have to remember that I do not. I need to save my cash, and not spend like them or compare myself to them. When I first started dancing, I sort of lost my concept of money. I mean, what was the big deal if I spent 500 dollars on shoes, when that's "only" one hour in VIP. I now realize that I am much better of shopping at Charlotte Russe and putting money in the bank.

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    Kaylinn, you're so sexy when you get angry. hehe...
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    Quote Originally Posted by VegasPrincess View Post
    Another thing I had to suck up and realize was that I, sadly, am not rich like my customers. A lot of the people I meet have INSANE money, and I have to remember that I do not. I need to save my cash, and not spend like them or compare myself to them. When I first started dancing, I sort of lost my concept of money. I mean, what was the big deal if I spent 500 dollars on shoes, when that's "only" one hour in VIP. I now realize that I am much better of shopping at Charlotte Russe and putting money in the bank.

    That is such a good tip... it can be hard to just window shop when the other girls are wearing $500 shoes to work and whatnot... I have to remember that $500 may be a pair of shoes, but it's also MY RENT FOR THE MONTH and that that money is actually, uh, valuable, and not just a random status commodity.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlexxaHex View Post
    Join the friggin club, Kaylinn!

    Sometimes she's good for comic relief though - I read a few of her posts to my BF and he couldn't stop laughing.
    Every few days I read all her most recent posts for a good giggle.


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    i feel like i'm kinda disillusioned with money now.. like no matter what i have, whether all my bills are paid in the first week or two of the month (depending on how much i work and what kind of week it is ), i'm like "eh, and?" its kinda scary when i think about it.

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    In our line of work, there is never enough money! LOL, there is nothing wrong with that though...It's good that you push yourself to make it worth your time and efforts...However I wouldn't beat yourself up too bad at the end of the night...Just keep it in your mind that there is always money out there and you're going to get it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    i feel like i'm kinda disillusioned with money now.. like no matter what i have, whether all my bills are paid in the first week or two of the month (depending on how much i work and what kind of week it is ), i'm like "eh, and?" its kinda scary when i think about it.
    It is kind of scary if it gets like that. Maybe you could volunteer at a homeless shelter to gain some perspective.

    I didn't mean that to sound facetious. You just really don't want to fall into that mindset, especially if you don't have a ton of other work experience to give you perspective. Volunteering can be a great combination with dancing because you have the free time and makes you realize what other people are struggling with because they're not young and beautiful.
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