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    Default My first night dancing... I have some questions now!

    So a couple nights ago was my second night at work, but my first night on rotation and giving table dances. My first night I was dressed up, but just hanging out, watching the girls and learning how everything works. Luckily the Super Bowl was on so we were dead the first few hours so it wasn't too embarassing on stage because there was nobody to see (not even other girls! there were only 2 other dancers).

    By the end of the night I was much more comfortable (I'm sure I still looked awkward as hell!). Before I went on the DJ asked me what genre of music, and I said metal, and he played perfect music, everything from Motley Crue (cheesy!) to Megadeth (yess!!). I just tried to remember the rules "okay, move slow, smile" and that combined with the pole dancing class a year ago made for a pretty good first night. I still can't do a lot of the sexy crawling around stuff, and i'm pretty clueless when it comes to what to do for your dollar at the tip rail, but i'm not too stressed about that since stage isn't a big deal or where you make your money anyway. besides, my awkward moves didn't stop customers from standing by the stage- I always had plenty of company. i guess I probably had to go on stage maybe 8 times, maybe gave about 8 table dances- but went home with just over $150 and felt pretty good about it!! everyone was really nice about it being my first night and i got lots of compliments.

    the only bad thing that happened was at almost 2 am some drunk old guy came and told me he was a professor at the college i go to (i checked the website, i don't think it's true.. oh and i didn't tell him i went there!! so he doesn't know that) but then proceeded to rub my vag (on the outside of my thong) and when i told him to stop he then stuck his hand inside my top and grabbed my nipple. gross. then he told me he'd give me $1000 to go to VIP with him, and I said no. after being groped for free while standing in the middle of the club, i could only imagine what he'd try to do for a lot of money in the VIP... hell no! but when stuff like that happens what do you do? i assumed the bouncer would be annoyed if i ran over and was like "that customer groped me" like he'd just think "oh big deal", or do you think that's the kind of thing they'd want to know so they could keep an eye on him? i feel pretty naive about this job, and i'm not sure where the line is between "shitty things you better get used to handling for youself" and "shitty things you get the club involved in".

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    Default Re: My first night dancing... I have some questions now!

    Ok what are the rules of the club you work at? Is it a contact club? Meaning is touching of the butt and/or breasts allowed or is it a no contact 3 foot rule place? I only ask this because it seems in my experience that the contact clubs have alot more of guys thinking they can just grope you as they please even without paying. They think if you are sitting and talking to them, they have free reign to grab you when you arent dancing because it is "allowed". Most no contact clubs a guy will be alittle more reserved with the pre/post dance groping because he doesnt want to get in trouble, or he will save it for the VIP before attempting.
    To answer you question about the vag grab, that is NEVER ok no matter what kind of club you work in. I am alittle more of an asshole than you probably are by reading your post and I would have told that guy where to shove it and then got his ass kicked the fuck out. It IS the bouncers job to deal with problem customers, and to deal with them accordingly whether they want to get off their asses or not. The club pays them to do a specific job, which is watch the girls asses and keep the drunkies in line...after all isnt that why we have to tip them at the end of the night? Dont feel like you are being bothersome by telling a bouncer or floorguy if a customer is getting out of line...walk up to a bouncer and tell them "See that prick over there? He just grabbed my effing pussy! I want him gone!" And as I previously stated it never hurts to try your own tough love with the custy before getting a bouncer involved so at least you can say you tried and it didnt work. Stand your ground, you cant let these men walk all over you or they will! Lay the smackdown yo! hehe

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    Default Re: My first night dancing... I have some questions now!

    $150 is good for a first night! congrats!

    and i dance to megadeth too, haha!

    don't bother trying to do all the sexy crawling stuff yet. when i was new i just couldn't pull it off and it looked like i was flopping around on the floor. also, floorwork usually leads to really bad bruises on your knees and legs if you don't know what you're doing. be careful and take it slow.

    i STILL don't know what to do for my dollar at the tip rail. usually i just hold out the side of my thong and let them slide it in and say thanks. you can turn around and do a little ass-shake and let them slide it in the back of your thong if you want. some guys expect you to do some kind of fancy "trick" for their dollar.... fuck 'em!

    i totally second what echomadison said, you can't let these men walk all over you! that drunk old guy was totally out of line, you cannot just walk up and grab a stripper's pussy in the middle of the club without even buying a dance. pussy grabbing isn't even acceptable if the guy DOES buy a dance! it is never acceptable under any circumstances. i know sometimes you just don't know what to do or say. some guys will just reach up your shirt or underwear and try to feel you up while you're talking to them or while you're walking by! they think that just because they came into the club and bought a beer that they can grope all the girls for free. don't let them get away with it. smack their hand away and get the fuck away from them! don't be afraid of being a bitch, and don't seem naive or coy because they will sense that and take total advantage of it. be very firm and say "you cannot touch me there" and leave no room for argument. i don't know how good the management of your club is, but i wouldn't expect the club to back you up on anything. you could tell the bouncer that a guy groped you, and he might not even do anything. it really depends on the club, but most clubs don't give a fuck about the dancers (sorry for sounding so harsh) and so you have to learn how to defend and protect yourself.
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    Default Re: My first night dancing... I have some questions now!

    Don't even let anyone touch you no matter what the rules of the club are. If you are not comfortable with it, even if its on your arm, leg or whatever than don't let people cross your boundaries.

    What a filthy old pig he was doing that and out there on the floor and everything.

    Sorry to hear that happened to u on your first night. NEVER be afraid to tell security if someone makes u uncomfortable that is their job MAKE them do it, Esp in the US where I hear you girls have to tip your bouncers then I'd definately be making them look after you.

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    Default Re: My first night dancing... I have some questions now!

    I have now worked 4 nights, and I'm getting ready to work my first Friday/Saturday shifts. Last night was really bad/slow ($50 after tip out!!) I was feeling pretty discouraged, so I bought a new outfit to try to get excited about the weekend. I only had two outfits (one black bra and shorts, and one white bra and shorts... very plain!) so i got something a little flashier for the weekend. I'm getting more comfortable stading up for myself and communicating with the bouncer. It is a no touching club, I think NC law says 6" away? But that doesn't stop every single customer from trying... But the bouncers been better about telling customers to stop shit like slapping my ass, etc. The girls there smack people in the face without hesitation, which I hope I'll be comfortable doing some day! I've heard stories about slapping across the face, kneeling on their balls during a lapdance, kicking custys in the head, and my favorite was the girl that beat a customer over the head with her shoe when he stuck his finger in her butt crack. I'm used to waitressing and jobs where "the customer is always right" so it's hard for me to get used to the idea that I can BEAT UP the customers!! I'm sure if someone really pushes the wrong buttons they'll get it... but for now I'm still learning how to handle the creeps.

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    Default Re: My first night dancing... I have some questions now!

    You most certainly can not beat up the customers. If they need to be physically removed that's the bouncer's job. Don't put yourself in the position of escalating things to a physical level. You can physically remove his hands when he's touching you inappropriately, however, and should certainly do so.

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    Default Re: My first night dancing... I have some questions now!

    ^^^Agreed. Let the bouncers get violent if need be. There are so many things that can go wrong when you get violent with a customer...including him having it out with you, following you home, pulling out a weapon, stay safe.

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    Default Re: My first night dancing... I have some questions now!

    Is there a bouncer in the same room with you in VIP? There is at my club, so if a guy is grabby like that and offers alot of money they'll take him upstairs. He'll get thrown out basically as soon as he gets up there, and the great part......... NO REFUNDS!!!!! You just made a grand in about 3 minutes. I don't know if that's how your club is, but if so............. i don't know may be worth a try next time.

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