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    I got fired, and decided it would make a good first post after reading everyone elses for months

    it was a really weird situation. ok so i'm from new zealand and am on an OE trip but currently stuck in ireland till summer. (it's the only place in europe i have a work visa for and no money left to resume travelling)

    so i'm working in a small club, the only one in town.. not as bad as you may think, making between €0-500 per night. things seem perfect.. its 100% clean, guys get told off if they so much as accidentally knock into you, everyone is really nice.

    i start work on a sunday, work everyday that week except thursday. the next sunday i say id like next monday and tuesday off (giving a weeks notice) im told thats fine.

    when next sunday comes around, the manager/bar lady/owners girlfriend comes up to me, says "you want the next two days off?" i said yeah i thought that was ok. she goes "no you cant, we only have two girls". im just like what? so she tells me i have to talk to the owner....

    i tell him what the problem is, he basically tells me im messing him around. (even though i said i gave a weeks notice and was told it was ok). he calls his girlfriend over, she blatantly lies and says i only asked for time off on wednesday.. (although what difference would that have made, the point is she SAID it was fine)

    and they both agree that either i come to work on monday and tuesday or dont come back at all.

    i didnt go back because i refuse to be treated like their slave.

    what would you have done??

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    Well seeing as how you are kinda stuck in a "one horse town", so to speak, I prolly would not have quit/got fired. I completely understand not wanting to feel like a slave or feel like you are getting screwed over but you have to think in advance. If there were other clubs to work at, yeah I prolly would have told them to fuck off as well, but since there arent you kinda screwed yourself. Where are you gonna work at now? I have found that in my experience most clubs will take you back even if you got fired if you just give it some time and then talk to the owner/manager. I work at a club that most people in the area want to work at because it has the most money(supposedly) so the owner is a complete asshole about everything. He will seriously fire your ass for looking at him wrong, but his "game" is that he will hire you back the very next day for a "fine". This fine, depending on what you did, ranges from $150-$400 and these girls will pay it. I am guilty myself of paying the stupid fine when I got fired once for laughing when the owner was talking during a "club meeting"- which by the way was at 4am after a saturday night shift! Anyhow my point is that may be his racket. If this is the only club in town, he knows the girls cant afford to be picky and will do whatever to come back because they have NO other options. Try talking to him and maybe explaining things and try to get your job back, unless you just dont want/need to work and then have fun being free!

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    I probably would have quit...But I'm really stubborn. You gave fair notice that you wanted those days off and when something comes up whether, it was a change of mind or a miscommunication, they give you an ultimatum.

    I think that just sounds manipulative and while I can understand they run a business and what not, from your story, you were completely within your bounds. I would try talking to them though. You need a place to work and obviously, if they only had 2 girls on Mon/Tues it sounds like they could definately use your help too. Employer/Employee relationships should be mutually beneficial and respectful.

    Maybe come to an agreement to make requests off in writing next time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tigerlily61424 View Post
    I probably would have quit...But I'm really stubborn. You gave fair notice that you wanted those days off and when something comes up whether, it was a change of mind or a miscommunication, they give you an ultimatum.

    I think that just sounds manipulative and while I can understand they run a business and what not, from your story, you were completely within your bounds. I would try talking to them though. You need a place to work and obviously, if they only had 2 girls on Mon/Tues it sounds like they could definately use your help too. Employer/Employee relationships should be mutually beneficial and respectful.

    Maybe come to an agreement to make requests off in writing next time.
    I agree completly. Im quite stubborn too but you definately dont want to burn bridges at the ONLY club in town. They needed you and even tho you had an agreement you still have to keep in mind that they needed you. Im in a somewhat similar situation but I cant work or stay the entire shift because I have school in the morning. When I started school Feb last year there was an agreement that I could leave at 12 midnight but its been a hassle and theyve stopped letting me leave the last few months which puts me in a bad mood and Im tired and dont want to be there. I dont get the point in forcing girls to work. If i dont want to be there i will not make money. if i dont make money YOU dont make money because i cant tip what i dont have. Frustrating.

    Since you seem to need them and they obviously need you (if they have no girls) Id go back, apologize and next time get it in writing...

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    Maybe it's an Irish thing...I had situations like that TWICE when I did an exchange over there!

    In my situations, as a hot-headed youth, I told them to go fuck themselves. Now older, and if I was stuck in a one horse town making up to 500 Euro a night (where are you, btw?), I'd probably have sucked it up. Actually, I probably wouldn't have, but it would have been the smarter choice.

    Anyhoo, what's done is done. Are you moving on to a different town, or staying where you are?

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    I'd tell them I apologize for the miscommunication, if it was my faukt, nad ask what we can do to rectify this situation. Explain you are aware they are short 2 girls and you'd like to help them out. Explain also that you need some time off for whatever reason and see what happy medium you can come to. When ppl are acting like they did in a non-professional manner, they may think differently if you approach them like a business person in a professional way. They mgith be stumped by your demeanor and willingness to help. Turn it back around on them so they feel bad and work some of the time you need off so you keep your source of income.

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    stripping isn't like a 9-5 job.... they can't tell you that you're not allowed to have days off. that is ridiculous.

    i would have definitely told them to fuck off if i had some other options. but seeing as how its the only club in town, just give it a little time and then ask for your job back. if they only have 2 girls and are forcing you to work because of that, then they seem like they are somewhat desperate. so take advantage of that and it should be fairly easy to get your job back. and i agree with the other girls, get it in writing next time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by noctina View Post
    stripping isn't like a 9-5 job.... they can't tell you that you're not allowed to have days off. that is ridiculous.
    We agree that its not a 9-5,but we dont agree on this...

    They can and will telll you what you can and cant do in many situations,like the one your in now.

    It aint fair,it aint right,it aint even kosher,but its the industry we swim in.

    You can sink,or you can swim.
    i would have definitely told them to fuck off if i had some other options. but seeing as how its the only club in town, just give it a little time and then ask for your job back.
    Advice....

    I would be thinking "Fuck you!!"

    But your "out there",so i wouldnt say it,I would do it,or YOU WILL BE THE ONE FUCKED!!!!!!


    Go back now,crawl if you have to,your in a foreign fuckin country!!!

    Im telling you the way out of your situation.

    To begin with,the girlfriend will never let you remain there past the time they absooooofuckinloootely must have you!!!

    Fuck her,you just need bus fare,then your out of there.

    Go back now,ask for your job on the night they needed you,when they only have 2 girls,and have your dancebag with you.
    They will take you back,they have no choice!

    Work those two nights,bank,then move on with a little money in your pocket for food and shelter.

    I promise you,that club is dead to you now because of the girlfriend.
    Dead dead dead like Anna Nichole!!!

    Go back and grovel so you got money to get the fuck outta there.
    Go back when they need you,not next week when they might not.

    Make some money,then get the hell outta dodge city.

    whatever you do,dont go back to this club with the intentions of staying long past those two days!!!!(you wont)

    Go back,NOW,with the intention of moving on,with enough money to do so.

    I know it sucks,but suck it up NOW!!!!!!!

    I know it aint kewl,but girls here can tell you about clubs within 1-200 miles of where you are,go back for 2 nights so you got the cash to get there.

    One things for sure,doesnt matter what country...

    A broke stripper on the road is about as bad as it gets.

    Get somewhere else NOW!!!!!!!!!.

    Work those two nights so you can,cause you CANT stay there much longer then it will take the girlfriend to replace you.

    Plan your escape now,use those two days to fund it,bitch about how wrong it was later,after your somewhere stable and safe.

    I really wish you the best of luck.

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    that its the only club in town isn't an issue, i'm only here coz i like the place it's no problem to move on and i'm going to within the next few days.

    i'm in galway (on the west coast).

    and no i can't ask for the job back.. their logic is just totally absent. 10 girls have been "fired" in the past 6 months for similar reasons. one because she was in spain visiting her family after working in that place every night for 4 months. she was told if she was away longer than a week she wouldnt have a job to come back to.

    its just a what the??!!!?? situation

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    That's insane. Why can't managers seem to understand that happy girls = happy customers = happy managers...come on now, it's simple.

    Good luck finding a new place to work. Maybe discuss attendence policy before you make any agreements.

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    Haha, I was in Galway too! Fucking Galway. I knew it wasn't just me! Weird town, but so beautiful.

    Have you been to Cork yet? Nice place, and I'm sure they have a few SCs.

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    yup i like cork also, i worked there a while back just for one night when i wanted to do some shopping without wrecking the budget... the place was ok.

    back in dublin now, had my first night of work in a new-ish club. went alright, the nicest looking place ive ever been in.

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