Be happy wit who you are and what you make...sure I see nasty fat cows with missing teeth make way more then me but I know in the end I did as good as I can do and I didn't do anything nasty or lie for it. Bottom line....keep a positive attitude, have fun and be yourself and the $$ will come!

::Applauds:: Thank you. That's what I do. I am the only black girl at my club and I have about medium sized boobies. Almost every night I walk out with more money than all of the other girls. Why is this?
1.) I actually get to work on time. Often I have made half of my money at the beginning when everyone else is still in the dressing room taking an hour to get dressed and put their makeup on. Or I have been able to snag a customer to spend tons of money on me the other night who would have probably left otherwise.
2.) I can actually string more than 2 sentences together which is more than I can say for most of the people I work with. In fact, I can utter more than "wanna dance".
3.) Not only can I string more than 2 sentences together but I am also very charismatic, charming, and flirtatious. Many of the other girls have no personality.
4) I don't hang out at the bar/dressing room the entire night talking to other girls about how some other girl is making all the money and how all the guys are broke cheap bastards.
5.) I don't live in my emotions. If a guy rejects me for a dance, or if I see another girl doing well, I don't take it personally and I simply move on.
6.) I am not an idiot. I have a good head on my shoulders.
Everything I just said has been said on stripperweb a million times before and it all sounds very simple (and it is, if you are a decent looking, half naked chic, it shouldn't be that difficult to talk a guy out of his money.) But at least the girls I work with don't seem to get it. They spread tons of rumors about me either doing extras in the club (which is impossible) or meeting customers outside of the club (which would make no sense considering I have had some regulars for nearly 6 months now. How the hell would they still be my regulars if I was screwing them?)
I have hard core, fiscally conservative values. I don't blow all my money at the mall and I save and invest. Most of the girls I work with couldn't invest their way out of a paper bag and many don't even have checking accounts.
Most of these girls rather just take the easy way out and blame the top earner (me) for the reasons they are broke. They rather focus on me and sit around and say "I can't believe she is getting ANOTHER man to go in the back", instead of focusing on themselves and learning how to sell/dance/look better.
At the same time, I don't care and in many ways I am thankful that they are dumb because if they worked as hard as me it would be a different ball game.
I know I probably sound like a cocky, vain, bitch. I don't think I am any of these things. I never gloat and I try to interact with the other girls to a minimum. At first I tried to be nice until I saw that it wasn't getting me anywhere. I now keep to myself but I am still respectful.

21stcenturyfox.
I have had to deal with major depression ever since I went through puberty and I admit that it is still a factor in my life. But at work I try to channel a different part of myself. (I actually think stripping has increased my self-esteem and self-confidence.)
I try to have fun at work, whether it's on stage or if it's talking to a customer. I try to amuse myself in my mind; either by setting goals for myself at work like a game, or being amused by a customer's behavior or what he's saying (you can laugh at him instead of with him and he'll never know the difference.) Looking at the stripclub environment as a game/comedy show (which it really is) helps me to stay positive and motivated. I know my customer isn't going to have fun unless I am too.
I swear to god we are the same person. O.o
There are three kinds of people in the world, those that can count, and those that can't.
kalidean, i am all of those things that you listed as what makes you successful. i just think what is holding me back is i am judging too many books by their cover and in effect not approaching as many custys and my sales pitch is not solid.
when i make my money, i make it the right way and my custys are always 100% satisfied and often sad to see me run off to make more money!
i am also not confident in asking for money and i think in some respects, too concerned with the custys feelings (there is a fine line there) but what i mean is im too concerned at the detriment of my money.
anyway, i am still learning, i know i hav what it takes. i am smart, funny, sexy and giv a very very hot dance WITHOUT being dirty or doing extras.
i guess i am just super impatient. slow nights dont help either. and i like to talk...
thank you everyone for replying to this, its helped me see what i am doing right and what i need to work on.![]()
"Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it?" - Lily St Cyr (40's burlesque dancer)
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