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    valedation, not money

    i am finding a lot that i get thousands of compliments all night from guys but they arent parting with their money. like they think its ok to just tell me im very pretty/attractive/best looking in here/great smile/awesome eyes/etc etc and then they sometimes go on to say, "you must make a killing doing this job" in a way that suggests i should stop wasting my time with him and go find someone who will spend on me. yet this seems to be the majority attitude im confronted with each night.

    im noticing a lot, that guys always comment on how women look, as if we need validation from them to feel good. now i know the media perpetuates this attitude, but really, im not a stripper because i need to be told im beautiful. i even said to a guy last night after he complimented me and then said, but you probably already knew that, "if i didnt already know i was hot and sexy, i wouldnt last very long in this job"

    so im not sure if my attractiveness on a majority scale is intimidating to the guys, or what it is, but to be honest, im kinda getting sick of being told how great i am! sounds strange i know, but i just keep thinking "well thats very nice honey, but compliments dont pay my bills".

    anyone hav a theory on this?
    "Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it?" - Lily St Cyr (40's burlesque dancer)

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    When u say that the guys tell you that you must make a killing, don't assume that they are telling u to stop wasting time. A lot of people in general are very curious about how much money we make (I know I was before I danced) so it could be a way at hinting for you to tell them how much you make. It could also just be his way of complimenting you.

    When I get a compliment I never act arrogant about it. They always say "you must here that a thousand times a night" I always deflect this comment by saying "I never get tired of hearing a sweet compliment like that". Remember we have to make them feel like we are really into them so u dont want them thinking abotu how many other guys have said this or that or done this or that.

    I always smile sweetly when I get a compliment and say thank-you and then flirt my way into a dance with them. If they think you're attractive then u are half way there to selling them a dance.

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    oh dont get me wrong, i dont act arrogant about it, i ALWAYS say with a laugh and a sweet smile, "thank you, but i never get tired of hearing it"

    just sometimes guys have actually said "run along and go make your money". and im thinking, well if you think im all that, why are you telling me to go elsewhere?
    "Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it?" - Lily St Cyr (40's burlesque dancer)

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    Oh well if they are coming right out and sending you away that's a different story.
    Man I have no time for men in SC's who don't want dances. They are just plain stupid.

    On saturday night I was on a high coz I finally made the $1K club (as my other post says hehe) and so I wasn't gonna take any shit from anyone coz I was already doing well.
    So I approached this guy and he says "I don't get dances, I don't need to pay for women. But I like you so you can stay and chat" to which I replied "see-ya" - well it would have been good if I didn't trip over his foot on my exit LOL.

    Then later on I approached another idiot and he asks me to flash something at him for free right there at the bar :
    me: do I look like I need the money that bad? points to wad in garter.
    then the minute i walked away from him another guy grabbed me for a dance and i looked back at the PL and winked LOL. I was on a roll.

    Hunny I think we just have to avoid the time-wasters and not try to hustle them. Just look for someone who will be an easier sell and in the end this way you are managing your time better. I prefer to dance for guys who don't need to be really talked into it - like nagged I mean.

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    When people say things like, "You're so beautiful but you must hear it a lot!!"

    I say, "I do... but it's so nice to hear it from someone you can really tell genuinely means it like you."

    So it makes them feel on a pedestal, takes the compliment well... and they're more apt to not see you as egotistical or down-on-yourself and still spend.


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    Well, me I do need the validation. Flattery is like crack - at this point I need a certain amount just to feel normal. However, I'm pretty sure that half the time it is just something to say. Guys in strip clubs aren't even really looking at you. Like really - they don't notice you, they're just seeing what they expect to see. So, really it's just something to talk about - kind of like "nice weather we're having."
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    Meh. I just smile and say thank you. What I'm not fond of is when a guy turns me down for a dance, then says "but you're very beautiful" as if he's consoling me for the rejection before I burst into tears. Dude, you're not breaking my heart.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 21stcenturyfox View Post
    oh dont get me wrong, i dont act arrogant about it, i ALWAYS say with a laugh and a sweet smile, "thank you, but i never get tired of hearing it"

    just sometimes guys have actually said "run along and go make your money". and im thinking, well if you think im all that, why are you telling me to go elsewhere?
    That's one of those "How to pick up strippers" techniques.

    Its supposed to demonstrate that he is not clingy or desperate and doesn't have to pay for attention from women. Just another variation on playing hard to get.

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    I always say (to other dancers)

    "I'm really glad that I can pay my landlord this month with all these, "You're so pretties"

    Sexy Jasmine after getting fucked over at work:

    God loves strippers and when guys do things like that its an automatic ticket to HELL!


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    Perhaps you stopped spending money on her. Strippers need money to operate. They are like coin operated juke-boxes of love.

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