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    Goodness gracious. Background: grew up in a pretty repressed household, always in trouble for some little thing. Fast forward to now: I am so intimidated by management at strip clubs. Just like I used to cry when my parents would get mad at me, if there is ever a problem at work, even something incredibly minor, I start to feel that horrible "getting in trouble" anxiety. It's so weird. For instance, I haven't worked at my "home club" in over a month. I was starting up my own business and taking 8 hours at school. This has been a really great time for me, and has allowed me to skip the January slowness bullshit! Now I want to go back to my home club. I called and spoke to one of the managers on Friday night, but he said that I should call back the GM. Today I called again and asked for the GM, and the same manager said he wouldn't be there for a while.

    So anyway, I am totally nervous about even talking to the GM. Stupid, I know. I know it's one of those things that I just have to get over with, and then I'll feel fine. But I'm worried that he will be mad that I have been away for so long. I wasn't on the schedule, but they didn't exactly call me, either. So...I don't know. I didn't do anything wrong, really, but I'm still fucking nervous.

    Why do I let these retards control my feelings? Why am I so scared of this stupid authority figure?

    I really like my club...I guess I should talk to the manager. Sorry this is so rambling and sorta ranty...Can anyone relate to this?

    BTW, I started back after my break on Friday at another sort of divey club and made 200 dollars! Not good, but not bad! Yay! (Thanks, glamazon!)

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    ohhhh I know the feeling... We shouldn't let them scare or intimidate but they always seem to do... I just always try to take a couple deepth breaths and suck it up and be an adult and be honest about what i need to talk to them about... Instead of calling, I would go directly face to face with your gm.. that seems to work better.. most of the time they don't take calls with dancers.. at least mine doesn't... Good luck girl! don't be nervous.. think about all the other dancers who have actually been in trouble, drugs, drinking, etc.... Your scheduling situation/school stuff is minor.... the only thing that your manger will probably bring up is that you just kinda drifted away for a month... I would say something like that "i was taking time off to focus on school and other things in my life.. i needed to take some time to myself to get things straightened out in my life." You'll be fine!!!!!

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    Yeah I would just go up there, but he doesn't get there until later tonight, and I feel like that would be a sign to him that I "just showed up." Also it's sort of a drive, and if he's going to tell me I can't work there, I just want to hear it on the phone.

    I'll let you know...

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    I think it shows more initiative to show up in person rather than call. Also, if he's in a bad mood, or has other problems and you happen to call, he's more likely to brush you off than if you were in person. Get all dolled up and walk in confident, not like you're feeling bad about anything.

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    you are not alone in your feelings about managers.

    i'm going to go to a different club because the head manager at my current one and i do not get along. under this manager's roof i can't do anything right.

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    Well just remind yourself of the worst that can happen...pretty much nothing. All he can say is I'm sorry but you can't work here. Hardly devastating and totally his loss. Just remember that you are smart, beautiful and totally in control of your life and feelings. He can't hurt you in any way that matters because you rock way too much to let him
    "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

    Good luck honey..it is tough. It took me years to get over the crying thing(because of my parents too) It was so embarrassing and hardly made people want to respect me and my opnions as an adult. If you feel that icky i'm in trouble feeling start to well up in your gut just excuse yourself for a moment...take a bunch of deep breaths, remind yourself of how much ass you kick and what you want to achieve with this conversation. Or you can just imagine him in ladies underwear...pretty much takes the "scary" out of anyone
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    Oh my god! I shouldn't have been nervous at all. He didn't sound nearly as intimidating as I remember. All he said was "When do you want to work?" He didn't even try to cajole me into day shifts!

    YAY!

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    Default Re: Management makes me so nervous!

    Quote Originally Posted by sun child View Post
    Oh my god! I shouldn't have been nervous at all. He didn't sound nearly as intimidating as I remember. All he said was "When do you want to work?" He didn't even try to cajole me into day shifts!

    YAY!
    Good for you, congrats Hopefully this will help you gain a sense of surity, and ease any nervousness you may have about management in the future.
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    Thanks Jayda. I have real trouble communicating sometimes. I'm always scared of getting some sort of bad reaction. But it's REALLY important that I work these three shifts this week.

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