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    mister on agian/off agian and are are now off agian. he broke up with me last night after spending the whole morning/afternoon at the "library" studying for the bar exam. when he got home at 4:30, he said something along the lines of "i know you need to get to rhino before 6:30 to audition, why don't you go now"?. um, yea, sure, i'll go strip on vday when we haven't spent any time togather the whole day. i asked him if we could eat dinner togather or something, but according to him "valentine's day is just another day, and if you're placing so much importance on it then you must have some mental problems.".
    yea. so, anyways, i told him that when in a relationship, you care about things that are important to the other person, and he knew vday was important to me and i wanted to spend some time with him...to which he replied "things aren't working out".
    so i got dumped on valentine's day.
    he then told me that i didn't have to leave right away (i have no where to go, a 2year old) and he wasn't kicking me out like all the other times, i could save money and find a place. 3 hours later that changed, i guess i was being "a bitch" by trying to stay out of his way and he pulled the old "30 minutes and you're out, or i'm calling the police". i guess he changed his mind...agian, when i started crying becouse i slept on the couch and he never called the cops.
    i know i need to get the hell out of here before he pulls it agian, but i seriously have no where to go but a hotel, no savings and no babysitter to go to work besides him.

    i told him he was an insensitive jerk for no waiting a day, and all he said was "oh, boo hoo". fucken asshole.


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    Wow.....asshole for sure. Yea get your butt some savings or move in with a family member or roommate...anything. Some people are toxic and he is one of them. A woman should always have a savings of any amount. Good luck to you hun.
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    I dumped my girlfriend of 7 months yesterday. She'd been distant for the past month or so, but it had really started getting bad in the end. I love her so much, and I know she loves me but she has so many obligations right now that she can't give me the time and attention that I need. I still miss her...hopefully we'll get back together one day.







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    WOW what an asshole best thing I can say is save up, work a whole bunch, and get your own place.Does he babysit for you? try to find a 24 hour daycare so it wont be left up to him.Good luck hun

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    what a asshole. I was dumped on the 2nd of this month guys are jerks.

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    I left my first husband on Valentines Day, he was an abusive jerk and had it coming.

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    I had a nasty break up yesterday,on Vday,but it's been going bad for a while now,and i got fed up the night before Valentine's.I came home from work,and he wasn't even still there,turned out he was out barhopping,but wouldn't stop by my club to say hi.Brought some gas sation flowers and was drunk when finally got in.I had a bad night,so told him about it and instead of saying something like,don't worry,it'll be better,it's Valentines,or anything nice;he started converting whatever I made into per hour and said it's damn good living.Then went on how it's easy money etc.Then proceeded to put me down for my job,while saying "you are who you are",which he's done before many times.He fucked up my birthday in a very bad way and completely dissapeared for christmas and new years holidays (explained that he spent it with business clients),that's after proclaiming his undying love.Acted evasive,sent mixed messages,ran cold and hot, and been distant for a while now.I heard enough and put him out of the door in the morning of Valentine's,even after making nice plans for the day.Of course he was calling all day whining and crying,but it was the last straw.I won't get into details,but I've put up with his shit for a very long time and I've had it,wasted too much time on this a$$hole.I'm in awe of grown up 45 yo men acting like this.

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    My last boyfriend stood me up on V-day. He spent all day and night stoned at his friends house. I thought something horrible had happened to him. He later told me that he did it because he wanted to get back at me for something. Yea... we're not together anymore.

    That guy sounds a little worse than just an asshole... he actually sounds kind of creepy.
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    I'm sorry hun, that really sounds like a real d*ck to me. Get out of there as soon as you possibly can with a friend or family member. Get your little girl out of there as soon as you can, keep her saftey above all your priority.

    Things will get better!
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    do you have any friends with kids you could trade workdays with? a number of the ladies here seem to have kids, maybe some of the dancers you work with could trade work days/babysit days.

    bar exam time is incredibly difficult/stressful but that's no excuse for what happened. him kicking you out is completely ludicrous. normally, i withold a "maybe" because stories are rarely complete (because it's the teller's viewpoint) but there's a 2-yr-old baby involved here. that puts everything in a completely different light imo.

    maybe some of the social services can help? but that can be a little tricky though. cali rules are different from nj so i would investigate that first before going to them. it's really tough since your schedule is opposite typical "day-care".

    i also noticed a number of ladies are pregnant here. maybe there are dancers that are also in that situation and can earn as a "night-care". nobody dances during their mid~late pregnancies, do they?

    oh, and i agree with tigersmilk, always keep something aside. when my ex-wife did it i never complained. she said she felt safer with it as a fallback plan (although i didn't like the sound of that). but supposedly it's typical in taiwan <_< where women's rights are basically non-existent. but i loved her and it didn't hurt us as a family. plus, it made her happy. although, she realized later on that i was a total pushover and left all the finances into her hands anyways. d'oh.

    good luck!

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    That sucks! Whatever you do don't go back, he has no honor!

    Even if you break up with someone, you still used to love them. You don't just discard them and throw them out in the street. He has power issues, I mean threatening to call the cops? The longer you tolerate him the more self esteem you lose.

    This is guy is abusive and you are worth more. Just start taking care of yourself and your daughter. Don't change your goals or plans for any man.

    Good Luck!

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    update on the situation , , ,

    after making me feel like shit all day long ("why dont you go do porno ((which i was concidering to get myself stable after the *last* time he kicked me out)) "you must get all hot and turned on by the idea of big black cock shoved in all your holes") he's told me he'll let me stay until Monday and watch the baby at night so i can work, but I have to pay him $10/hour. whatever - i really have no choice other then this. he knows my mom wont let me live with her (See the worthless mother post) and i have no savings (getting over a drug problem - been clean since early Dec). i would trade babysitting like someone said but i just started working in his area and dont really know anyone yet.

    //crosses fingures that this will be a good weekend//


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    Wait, is this HIS baby? Cuz if so, Ima drive to Cali and cut off his nuts myself.
    I believe you Dottie and you have my support

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    Good for you for staying away from those drugs. Its the first step in the right direction away from him. Do you think you could find anyone else to babysit for you? Im not sure if I would leave my baby with a psycho like him.

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    Where in cali are you? I seriously hate that guy now. There has got to be some neighborhood kid who would babysit for half of that. When you finally get out of this situation, remind yourself to NEVER go back!
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    Quote Originally Posted by southstbabe View Post
    I left my first husband on Valentines Day, he was an abusive jerk and had it coming.
    I sent mine the divorce papers on Valentine's Day.


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    Quote Originally Posted by CallMeSky View Post
    after making me feel like shit all day long ("why dont you go do porno ((which i was concidering to get myself stable after the *last* time he kicked me out)) "you must get all hot and turned on by the idea of big black cock shoved in all your holes") he's told me he'll let me stay until Monday and watch the baby at night so i can work, but I have to pay him $10/hour. whatever - i really have no choice other then this.
    yeah, i'd say that qualifies as an asshole.

    Quote Originally Posted by CallMeSky View Post
    i would trade babysitting like someone said but i just started working in his area and dont really know anyone yet.
    are there posts or threads in the "work" section for this kind of stuff? i mean, i wouldn't trust my kids to anyone i didn't know very well but if there's people here that work together and known each other for a while or that could vouch for other or just network their sitters i would think it's something very valuable to the site's members.

    i don't think that helps you out immediately though but maybe it's something some of the other more enterprising members could think about in the future. services for the sw community from the sw community.

    hey, don't get me wrong, selling g-strings and leather boots are great services too!

    hope things work out for you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sxybrat07 View Post
    Wait, is this HIS baby? Cuz if so, Ima drive to Cali and cut off his nuts myself.
    I'll get a flight out within the hour and beat you to it. I can be in Long Beach in 4 hours from this coast.

    As he's standing there ball-less, you can shove something really painful up his ass. Deal?

    Sweetheart, where in God's name do you find guys this hopelessly cruel, clueless and demented?

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    California apparently. Morale sinkhole of narcissistic twats. Yuppers Dude is a dud. Time to go. This jerk thinks of you as a live in booty call .

    Back to school, loads of programs for single moms that will pay for child care and help you with living expenses.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Other Owner View Post
    I'll get a flight out within the hour and beat you to it. I can be in Long Beach in 4 hours from this coast.

    As he's standing there ball-less, you can shove something really painful up his ass. Deal?

    Sweetheart, where in God's name do you find guys this hopelessly cruel, clueless and demented?
    Deal.
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    cutting off his balls sounds nice, as far as shoving something up his ass - he might like that a little too much. i'm out of here by tuesday afternoon...i have a friend in florida who'll let me stay with her until i get situated so i'll be driving out there with my little one. i have some friends in san antonio, so hopefully someone will watch her so i can work a couple of nights for extra money.
    he isnt the dad, but has been in here life since right before her first bday and she'll be two next month, so he's the only dad she knows.
    i dont know why i keep getting back with him, he'll always call me a few weeks after we break up telling me he misses me and blah blah blah. ahhh...if i talk about getting back with this loser again someone come and shove something up MY ass!


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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    I dumped my girlfriend of 7 months yesterday. She'd been distant for the past month or so, but it had really started getting bad in the end. I love her so much, and I know she loves me but she has so many obligations right now that she can't give me the time and attention that I need. I still miss her...hopefully we'll get back together one day.
    Did you guys ever meet up?
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