I'm the oldest of four kids, we'll call them A, M, and K. M is the brother we are all concerned about. He is 27 and lives in our hometown, which is just outside of Indy.
He's always been kind of wild, but then so have the rest of us. When he was in high school he was arrested a few times for drinking, and then when he was about 20 he was arrested and spent two months in jail. After that he seemed to straighten up.
He and A both work for my dad in his construction business. They make serious money and the business will be turned over to them when my dad decides to retire. Well, that was the plan anyway, but now M has screwed up so badly that my dad fired him and has said he will never hire him back.
Here is a list of the things he's been doing:
*Got fired because when my dad went out of town for two weeks Markes basically did not show up for work that entire time
*A few years back my dad sent him down to Florida to manage the crew and when he and Aaron got down there on a Tuesday at noon, Markes was asleep and the house was trashed
*Made a salary of $70K a year and has zero money--the biggest red flag in all of this
*Has not paid his mortgage for three months (dad paid two of them so that the house wouldn't get repo'd, but now we don't know what will happen)
*Gas turned off in house, he's living there with two space heaters
*Home phone and cell both turned off--and he borrowed $200 from my dad to get one back on and never did it, and supposedly he also got money from his best friend for the same thing (thus the theories about crack and other drugs)
*Credit cards maxed out and payments are delinquent
*Holes up for days, sometimes weeks without talking to any family, and now he's also avoiding his best friend
*Has admitted to depression and says he just wants our family to leave him alone
My dad thinks that he's on crack, which sounds ridiculous to me, but at this point we know he's on something. However, I did see him two days ago and he looked ok and seemed ok. We were at the hospital while my grandma was having surgery. The weird thing is the minute he knew she was ok he took out of there like a bat out of hell, didn't even say bye to me or our other brother.
You're probably thinking we should just leave him alone, but that is not how this family operates. We tend to be nibshits, and my dad is the worst of the offenders. He sent our uncle over to M's house last weekend to talk to him. They had a mystery conversation that no one knows the details of. Now A tells me that M's best friend thinks we should have an intervention. No one knows what, if any, drugs he's on, but now his friend thinks we should intervene?
Honestly, I don't know if there's anything we can do, but it sucks to watch your brother circling the drain. He's not an idiot, in fact, he's probably second smartest of all four of us kids. He has an excellent memory for details, and he grasps concepts that would be difficult for a lot of people. He's funny, creative, good looking.....but if he's depressed and/or addicted then none of that matters.
I'm not really asking for advice so much as I'm venting a little. But if anyone has had this type of situation in their family, please share with me what you did to deal with it. At this rate, he's going to lose his house. He's already jobless, and we are all wondering what the hell he's doing out there (he lives in the country).



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