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    Guess what happens to the dancer that stays quiet, doesn't want trouble, and doesn't verbally or physically fight back?

    She gets bullied. SHE GETS HER ASS KICKED. That's me!!

    I will try to make this brief as possible because I really need your help on what to do.

    Picture this: Me....tall, blond, amazon woman. Her......short, asian, vicious.

    This dancer has hated me since she first saw me. If I was talking with a co-worker, she would butt in with some nasty remark to me or about me. I let it go. Or, I'd take her remark and twist it around to defend myself in a way, but I'd never verbally attack her back with "F#&@ You" or anything like that. So I guess that drove her CRAZY enough. Because last night, when I was at my locker fixing my makeup, etc. She was by it using her cell phone....telling the person she was talking to how much she hated the bitch in front of her and she was this that and the other....I just ignored her and did my thing. HOWEVER, she couldn't stand it and put her phone away from her ear and yelled two times, "DID YOU HEAR THAT BITCH (edited)..YOUR ASS WILL BE KICKED BY THE NEXT CALENDAR YEAR"

    Well, if I am threatened like that I HAVE to say something.

    I told her I didn't want any trouble. I am too old for this. Why do you want to kick my ass...I didn't do anything to you.....

    I was telling her these things as she is screaming these awful things which is fine. I just don't like being physically threatened. Those things she said to me had NOTHING to do with her. Just that I am a whore, and I get my P&##* F%^&ed all the time, etc. etc.

    As soon as I offered a solution...for her to ignore me and leave me alone and I will ignore her....

    She pops me in the face with a hard left hook WITH HER CELL PHONE.

    Because of my size, I didn't loose my balance or anything, but damn ..it hurt. I put my hands up to show I wasn't fighting and yelled,"I've just been physically assaulted" and she says, "ASSAULTED??"

    AND SHE HITS ME AGAIN THE SAME WAY!!! OUCH!

    House dad yells for us to knock it off and go downstairs. That really made me mad too. So she is walking away quickly when I yell THAT'S IT I am pressing charges for AOF and she is OUT OF HERE.

    She yelled, over and over, WHATS AOF? WHATS AOF? (I didn't respond. I just said she was gone) and I reported her.

    Eventually she was seen being dragged across the club floor by a bouncer, escorted to the dressing room and was escorted OUT. The DJ told me this as he saw it and had me stay with him.

    I had witnesses, especially a good one I'll call Glenda. She heard and saw the WHOLE thing and confirmed it! House Dad did come up to me and apologized. He couldn't tell what was going on, and he thought she was yelling at the person on the phone, not me.

    However, I am told this awful person IS ONLY SUSPENDED FOR 30 DAYS!! She should be FIRED! I can't be there with her! Apparently they must have thought I must have done something to her to make her so angry. Yeah, I didn't play her reindeer games and now I have a Rudolph nose.

    Now, this morning, I have a bruised and swollen nose and cheek bone and my mouth hurts. I can't breathe out of my one nostril. I took pictures just in case. I am not scheduled to work but I have plans to go do other things. It's my son's birthday today and his party tomorrow!

    WHAT SHOULD I DO???? I mean now, and the future? Should I tell the director of operations that I think they shouldn't allow her back? My guy told me I should go there today and show them and tell them that.

    Am I destined to be picked on forever? Word got around quickly after the incident. I was teased a little because of the size difference, etc. but I am sorry, I WON'T FIGHT BACK physically. It's not worth it to me.

    OK, This wasn't brief...but I really appreciate your advice!!!

    Cherlo

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    I would get her real name and address, and file a police report against her for assault.

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    Hi
    I was thinking of that, and my guy wants me to but I don't think any of the witnesses will come forward...well, I wouldn't even ask them to.

    The DJ told me that would be a waste of my time there....would it be?

    I would love to get a restraining order against her.

    However, I know lots of people in the court system/ attorneys etc..I am keeping my dancing job as private as possible....

    THANKS!

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    Your dj is probably saying its a waste of time because he doesn't want to loose her as his customer. You should report this, that girl should know it's not appropriate nor legal to hit someone. Smack that bitch in the face with a lawsuit.

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    Hi
    I was thinking of going down to the office and telling the director of operations I am going to do that.....maybe he will reconsider and turn her suspension into termination.

    If he doesn't I guess I will have her arrested but HOW DO I GET HER REAL NAME? I don't know anything about her. I didn't even know her stage name until last night!

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    Depending on where you work, how long you have been there, how long she has been there, and the difference in money the club thinks you bring in, it probably will not do any good to try to convince them not to let her back. Most girls with this attitude have been around a long time, and it often is not their first incedent. Your bet bet is to just try to stay away from her, or quit. Maybe if you stand up to her she will go away. Or maybe not.
    I agree that physical confrontation is pointless and stupid. But on the same hand, if you ht me, I WILL hit you back. If I dont think I can hold my self up, I will fight dirty. I have nothing against using my 8 in stilletto as a 8 in weapon of mass distruction. I have never been in a fight, as I usually get along with most people, even ones that I dont like. They all think I like them. This usually keeps me out of trouble. But damnit, if you hit me, I am hitting back. You have to let her know that you wont let her bully you. IF you just keep quiet, she will think you are scared of her, and keep on.

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    You can get her real name and address from the club. In fact, you SHOULD have called the cops last night and had them arrest her or take a report AT THE CLUB.

    And, I agree with Lady about the fighting thing. I would never hit anyone...unless they hit me first...then all bets are off and they will go down. People who get physical like that need to be knocked back a few rings in their behavior.

    But you really should press charges/file a report. If nothing else, it will leave a paper trail...and if it happens again, the system WILL do something...and you may even have grounds to sue the club (not sure).

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    Quote Originally Posted by VenusGoddess View Post
    You can get her real name and address from the club. In fact, you SHOULD have called the cops last night and had them arrest her or take a report AT THE CLUB.

    And, I agree with Lady about the fighting thing. I would never hit anyone...unless they hit me first...then all bets are off and they will go down. People who get physical like that need to be knocked back a few rings in their behavior.

    But you really should press charges/file a report. If nothing else, it will leave a paper trail...and if it happens again, the system WILL do something...and you may even have grounds to sue the club (not sure).
    Venus is right, you should have called the cops last night from the club. She DID assault you, and it is a crime. You can get her name from the club and go from there. Report her, girls like that don't just quit once things have gotten to the point that there are physical confrontations. Your job has to do with your looks, and running around with bruises on your face isn't good for business.

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    The club isn't going to give out her real name so you can press charges. They just won't. If you were going to press charges you should've done so AT THE TIME.

    The club isn't going to do shit about this. They never do. They will let her work there again - maybe not right now, but they will. A bitch just about has to kill someone (related to management or clubowners) to get fired from a strip club

    Not knowing more details about the club and situation, I'd say your best bet at this point is to take care of those injuries, get to a doctor, and if that bitch comes back, knock her on her ass. Being a non-fighter is one thing - letting bitches like that run over you is a whole other thing: you can't be such a pushover in this business. Sorry to say.

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    The club isn't going to do shit about this. They never do. They will let her work there again - maybe not right now, but they will. A bitch just about has to kill someone (related to management or clubowners) to get fired from a strip club
    Yup ... but there might be a way to get the club's attention ... there's always the threat of a lawsuit and/or a DOL complaint if things are THAT bad.

    If there's a bright side, at least the nutcase dancer didn't come back later with a shotgun (as happened to me while dancing in Indiana ... gave a whole new meaning to 'hole in the wall' club)

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    You can still file a report. Go to the station that has jurisdiction over the club. Tell them you were assaulted by a coworker and just give them her stage name and a description and the details of what happened (stage names of witnesses). They can follow up with management for her legal name and other info. Bring photos, although they will probably take pics there to include with the report.

    And if you're not going to do that then you need to either quit by the time she comes back or just kick her fucking ass.

    I worked with two girls who got into it...I'm talking face bashing into the lockers and all...the police took that shit VERY seriously especially considering the ass kicker was on probation.


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    I'd file a report as well. The cops can come there and demand the information about her.

    I don't fight, and if some dumb bitch so much as touched me she'd be in jail so fast her head would spend. And I would press charges to the full extent of the law. Fighting with people is trifling and I refuse to do it. 12+ years in this business and I've never had an altercation that required physcial violence (at least not with girls, lol).
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    OMG! I'm the same way...try to go in, get along with the other gals, stay outta drama. BUT...nobody ever has the right to assault you! You should go to the police station and file a report.
    Just another thought...The girl is being suspended for 30 days? That's a hit to her income. Honestly, she may not even come back. She's probably moving on to the next club.
    Even though I'm pretty laid back and try to get along with people NOBODY puts their hands on me! If she were to come back and started anything, just kick her ass! If she hits you first I don't think you can get in trouble for defending yourself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cherlo View Post
    Hi
    I was thinking of that, and my guy wants me to but I don't think any of the witnesses will come forward...well, I wouldn't even ask them to.

    The DJ told me that would be a waste of my time there....would it be?

    I would love to get a restraining order against her.

    However, I know lots of people in the court system/ attorneys etc..I am keeping my dancing job as private as possible....

    THANKS!
    No, this is how it works:
    The club will tell you not to because they're afraid you'll sue them. Which is what you probably need to do since they employed this obviously volatile bitch at their club. Go to the cops, press charges IMMEDIATELY while you still have bruising, etc. Even if you don't have witnesses she'll get more than 30 days or at least a helluva restraining order.

    If you nose is broken and you do need medical attention, you're gonna feel pretty dumb when it comes out of YOUR insurance and YOUR pocket for something that wasn't YOUR fault.
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    At my club whoever fights is fired .. they dont care who started it. But that does not mean that they are not coming back ... they are. Just give it a week or two. lol. Probably same at your club. You really should file a report though. Like the other girls said .. plus, she just might be on probation or something too . thatll get her cocky ass thrown in jail.

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    And when you file a report, ask for a restraining order. That way, she won't be back at work for awhile.

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    I had nearly the same thing happen to me and had my nasal spine broken. One year later, I have to get my nose done to fix it. The girl literally tackled me.

    I called the cops when both she and I were at the club. They didn't take it seriously at all. I filed charges, and the police never followed up with me.

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    Yes file a report. And see about getting a restraining order, even though you are reluctant. If she tries anything else physical, fight back in self-defense. Enough with being the peacemaker, she might be on drugs and have no sense of reason.

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    I'd follow a report so the club knows you're not fucking around.

    Also, if someone starts hitting you, you NEED to defend yourself! Are there other girls like her in the club? Friends of hers? If they start threatening you, let them know that you're not going to back down like that again.
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    You should have called the police right away!
    That is assault.

    Don't stand for that.

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    I would have whopped her ass once she touched me or if I was bussing, I would have whopped her ass for telling me shit lol idk im a bit violent at work though im very quiet only talk to a few, I get evil glares all the time, doesn't bother me though. But if someone kept talking shit or would of hit me her ass would be all over the floor. But um yeah I say report it see what you can do to file charges she had no right to hit you.

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    wow...yeah, I'd file a report and I would file a restraining order. I would also talk to a lawyer about suing her for lost wages. I mean, if you nose is broken and bruised and swollen, you can't work right? She should be held responsible for the money you are losing by not being able to work.

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    I am also a pacifist and definitely don't like to argue or fight, all that negativity makes you feel like shit and DEFINITELY kills your hustle at work. But...If someone had been yelling about me on the phone in my presence, I would ATLEAST have made a pt to move far away from her and view her as a loose cannon. I would immediatly tell the management that she is loudly harrassing me and not talk to her, for all I know she is straight crazy. I would definitely press legal charges against her, she's less likely to ever do it again if you do that. Also, try to not ever work the same shift with her, if the club is going to still let her work and you don't want to change clubs, then they should give YOU priority and let you choose your shift first and she gets the leftover shifts. They did that for some fighting girls that were both popular at the club I worked at and it panned out well.
    ...So you have absolutely NO IDEA why she is doing this? Sorry to ask this, but have you taken her customers from her tiprail? Is she just jealous of you for some reason? Are you known/thought of to do extras to get dances? I just don't get why she got away with this and wtf if there's absolutely no reason and you've never said anything bad to her. She's probably on drugs or 5150 if that's the case and needs cops/legal interference to expose that...maybe you can get her stuck on house arrest or something.

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    If in the future, you DO see her again and she starts shit, DO NOT let this repeat. This is a power thing, if you lay down and look weak, she's going to attack and if she has friends in the club or whatever, they will egg her on mostlikely because they just wanna see drama and wouldn't mind having less competition in the club. You cannot make yourself appear like a weakling because this make you REALLY vulnerable and hopefully she doesn't know anything personal about you to stalk you or anything. If she starts this shit in the future, you NEED to set it straight RIGHT then, pull out your cellphone before she speaks her first full mean sentence and say "Look, I'm ready to call the cops RIGHT NOW if you start shit. I'm also legally allowed to hit you back in self defense if you start something". And you are, if you are defending yourself. If you can't go to work because of bruises on your face, she shouldn't be able to either for the same reason. You have to have a thicker skin in this business.

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    Quote Originally Posted by luxi View Post
    I am also a pacifist and definitely don't like to argue or fight, all that negativity makes you feel like shit and DEFINITELY kills your hustle at work. But...If someone had been yelling about me on the phone in my presence, I would ATLEAST have made a pt to move far away from her and view her as a loose cannon. I would immediatly tell the management that she is loudly harrassing me and not talk to her, for all I know she is straight crazy. I would definitely press legal charges against her, she's less likely to ever do it again if you do that. Also, try to not ever work the same shift with her, if the club is going to still let her work and you don't want to change clubs, then they should give YOU priority and let you choose your shift first and she gets the leftover shifts. They did that for some fighting girls that were both popular at the club I worked at and it panned out well.
    ...So you have absolutely NO IDEA why she is doing this? Sorry to ask this, but have you taken her customers from her tiprail? Is she just jealous of you for some reason? Are you known/thought of to do extras to get dances? I just don't get why she got away with this and wtf if there's absolutely no reason and you've never said anything bad to her. She's probably on drugs or 5150 if that's the case and needs cops/legal interference to expose that...maybe you can get her stuck on house arrest or something.
    I have never taken her customers before. She has glared at me and made comments to me since the first time I ever saw her. There had been a rumour around that I let guys touch my pu&$y and she may have heard that but it's not true. I am a really good hustler and I communicate well with the men...Something she doesn't know about. I am 34 years old and I don't have the hottest body anymore and I don't put alot of effort on stage so many dancers would assume I do extras. I see her fuming when I walk across the club busy as sh*% when she and many other girls are doing nothing but sitting at the bar....I get along great with the waitresses, bartenders etc...She sits and glares at the world.....
    I was told she was drunk last night but honestly, I think she was on something else.....
    Oh, and I did say something bad to her earlier in the night. Well, she bitched me out because I asked her for a mint and I replied using reverse psychology and another dancer complimented me on it. All I said was, "Well then, I guess you are going to have a great evening with a comment like that!" My goodness, I just asked for a mint that was the housedads! We all do that for each other and stupid me didn't realize it was HER I was asking... Well, I guess she couldn't handle the humiliation and it boiled up in her all night.
    If I would have known, I would have moved, but it was where I needed to be to get ready to finish my shift. I don't like to have to make a point to remove myself from somewhere I need to be like that. I look like I am running away..scared. But I didn't know she would become violent on me.

    Sorry this is long winded. I am really appreciating all the input. Still undecided about pressing charges. I have decided to talk to the director of operations though. Any suggestions on what to say? My goal is to have her GONE for good. Make a deal with them? Keep her away...no law suit?

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