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    My self esteem has plummeted over the last two weeks. I feel fat with ugly hair, and pale. I quit my old club last night (the money/ business has been going down hill- it's just not worth it there anymore) and the manager was all sympathetic (I was all "I can't dance anymore- sorry!"). It was lame, but it's kinda true. My nerves are shot, and I can't dance there anymore, that's for sure. My hands shake when I enter the building. BUT while he was all "I understand- give us a call if you ever want to come back...can you just remind me of your name?". Holy shit, he didn't even recognize me. Ha, tis not all in my head that I look not so good.

    Anyway, I haven't danced (except for one lousy monday night) in a month and I have to go back to prevent more bank account dwindling. I don't really hate dancing all that much- once I get my tan back, lose the five pounds I gained, tone up more, eventually get my hair colour back- I'll be much more confident. But in the mean time, I was thinking maybe I'd work at some little divey bar where no one I know will see me? The money is kinda comparable everywhere in the area, seems to me. Is this a good plan? And then return to one of the better clubs when I've got my groove back? Does working in dives improve one's self-esteem, or just let you lower your own standards?

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    Oh bunny; have I told you recently this isn't a good career for you? If I haven't... okay, you know the rest. Until you graduate - but after that, try to find something else.

    If the money and contact are the same I would say it doesn't matter where you work. And you are a very pretty girl, and on someone of your height, I promise 5 lbs is not making or breaking you.
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    Molly, you are so beautiful. How long until you are done with school? Perhaps you can waitress or bartend instead of dancing? This job takes a major toll, and you have to be strong. I'm sure you look lovely. As for you hair, maybe you can get some blonde clip in extentions to mix with the brown, like thick streaks. I've had brown and blonde mix hair before, and the guys really liked it.

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    Do what makes you happy... it's the number one secret to happiness. I mean, try a dive club, it can't hurt, right? But if it stresses you out like the current club, find something else, cause nothing's worth not liking yourself (even school).



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    I just switched clubs to a daive bar myself.
    I went back to work after my BA and i ended up puling my pec muscle. i took another week off but I didn't want to go back to my old club. It's the high dollar club in town, I had a great time working there but the week I went back was hell. New house fees, same old drama, too many girls and not enough custies. One night I was back I left with $35.

    While I was out for my BA I was hanigng out at the other bar. The manager started to ask me when I was gonna work for him. I decided I'd give it a try. I'm seeing alot of custies that I haven't seen in years, the hours are shorter, no house fees and the money is the same.

    I'm loving it! One of my regulars that has folowed me for years told me the other day that I'm more relaxed than I was at the other club. I was worried that changing clubs would affect my money but it hasn't. If the money's the same in your area than give it a shot.

    Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

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    i say work someplace that you like. if your old club was stressing you out, maybe this next one will make you feel better. i just went back to my old club and left the club that ive made the most/easiest money at, out of 5 places ive worked. i hate leaving the money but if im happier then thats what matters, ya know?

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    My gawd! Five pounds! Molly, get right out of strippering! Five whole pounds? Lordy, the middle age men carrying spare tires around their guts will be crestfallen by this slight dip in your dropdeadgorgeousness. On the hot babe scale, you've dropped from a HB 10 to a HB 9.975! You've slipped from 5 times hotter than anything they have at home or have never gotten the nerve to approach to a mere 4.9 times hotter. Sh*t, woman, why do you let yourself go like this? Oh how the mighty have slipped a millimeter. Get thee to a divery!

    Seriously now, you do what makes you feel comfortable, but know that, by the objectively calibrated scale down at the bait shop, you're a big fish in whichever pond you swim in.

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    Haha, thanks^^^. And who would have guessed that one long day/ night of endless sex would mysteriously take those five (i guess water weighted) pounds off me again?

    I don't think dancing is the key to all my neuroses...I was a stressed out, neurotic mess long before stripping. It's just easy to finger as one stressor. I do think working somewhere low key will help me out for a while. Less expectations= less pressure on me, I think. Just for a while. We'll see...

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    hiding out in a dive club? Sounds like you could relax a little bit, make money and have a good time. You are probably the hottest Chick they have there.......!

    Have A Good Time!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Make The Money!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    I love dive bars.. but we all know that lol... nothin wrong with workin in a dive.

    I think your sexy and being silly but go be the big fish for awhile, it will bring your esteem back

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    I left my high end club and went to work for a little bar for a while (till the damn thing burned down! ) And it was surely the best thing I have ever done. I am going back to other club this week, and I have a better feeling about it than when I started there three years ago.

    Go somewhere, relax, find yourself (you lil stripper self) and make lots of money!

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    Dives can do wonders for your self esteem! I'm sure someone as intelligent, pretty and talented as you will do excellently there. You'll stand out as being classy and your hustle will be amazing in comparison.
    I'd also recommend a day at the spa if you can afford it (with transitioning out of your job and all).
    Then when you are all pampered, well rested and refreshed, you can go and laugh at the crackhead dancers at your dive club and feel amazingly better about yourself.
    I hate to be...well, a hater, but there are some catastrophic cases that will inadvertently convey the message that you are a very lucky and fortunate person. Not that all dancers at dive bars are a mess. Most of them are very decent human beings, but let's just say that dives tend to hire those that are un-hireable at more upscale clubs. All "body crises" aside, I'm sure there are plenty of reasons for you to count your many blessings.

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    I love dives. Do it!

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    Molly, how long have you been dancing cos almost every dancer i know has been through a phase of hating work, her body, her hair etc and it will pass, i've seen it happen to beautiful girls and have been through it myself and it will pass. xx good luck babe xx

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    Dives kick ass! I left one of the 'nice' clubs here to work at two dives. One is a ghetto ass trailer turned into a strip club, but the money is AMAZING. The other is just small, but has the best management ever. I love dives Plus, it's less stress. Try a dive, you can always go back to the other clubs. Good luck
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    i think it's been said, but you are probably the hottest girl in the dive! and im sure that mgr didnt know your name because he has so many girls to know. but still, no excuse for him. i hope this works out for you, and im glad you had a night of endless sex... im jealous. are you still coming to ch2?

    Love it!

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    If you feel that uncomfortable then maybe you shouldn't dance for now. If money isn't really good, any kind of job that will pay the bills will be better than not working & wallowing around all sad. You will feel better about yourself, even if the pay is okay. Getting yourself out of the house and doing something productive will boost your self esteem. You will realize that dancing is not the only thing your good at. Once your self esteem is back up then you should go back to dancing only if you really want to. Just a suggestion.

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    I MISS MY DIVE CLUB!

    I went back to work tonight at my old club, the high end one, and I am so not happy! I want my comfy cozy happy lil club that I banked at and had so much fun at! *cry!*

    Sorry to jack the thread Molly....I really can relate to the "hiding in the dive club" thing...I liked it there, I felt comfortable and relaxed and actually enjoyed my job for a while! Going back tonight just put all the tension and stress and BS right back in front of me.... blah.

    I really hope things work out for you Molly, I think there is way more to what is going on with you then jsut needing to hide in a smaller club, but you'll figure it out your own way.




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    I say try the dive, I think that I may be doing the same thing very soon....Glad to hear that dives are good, I would love to hear more...Molly u r beautiful good luck

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    Thanks for all the positivity ladies! It's very encouraging. I'm a big baby...and in more ways than one apparently, because I've got my second cold of 2007 nesting in my tonsils. So the work vacay is extended yet again.

    Oh and I will be in Philly eventually Chrissy...April probably. I'm itching to travel.

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    Ha! this thread made me feel better. Hiding out in a dive is fun!
    I thought, I had lost my mind when I started hiding out in a dive
    but the money is very consistent, I know the least amount of
    money I'm going to bring home a night and it is always fun to
    see how much I can suck out of the bar in one night, plus
    you end up being your only competition!

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    oh good molly, looking fwd to meeting you.

    Love it!

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    Ok, just a quickie update. I'm still all mysteriously fatter these days, but this new club is helping me to not care as much (even though I'm only eating like once a day...or maybe that's the problem...anyway, whatever). There are many a girl doing lines in the bathroom, and some nights I literally feel like the fattest one there (this is the club where girls go who get fired from other clubs, often for the white stuff problem). However, I'm making about $100 more per night than I was at that other place, and everyone seems sweet as pie (dancers I don't even know getting all smiley and nice- it's unusual!). Plus the fees are lower, I can work a four hour shift that's profitable, and there are NO schedules whatsoever. For now, it's a happy place for me!

    No more panic attacks either- I think it's the shorter shifts and the friendly dancers. Also, the contact rules are more strict than the place I used to be at, which is generally considered the bestest place around- go figure.

    Eventually I want to go back to another club I used to work at a while ago because I now appreciate the money I made there, but I'm loving this for now. Getting my groove back, etc. Hooray for divey clubs!

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    Yay for Molly!!!!

    My dive club will open again this month, I can't wait to go back!!!! I'll probably work both for a while until the dive spot picks up in customers again, but I don't think it'll take long.

    Molly, I'm so glad to hear you're feeling better....now about that eating once a day thing!




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    Oh thanks Exotic. And don't worry about me. It'll be a snowman's day in Hell when I starve to death. I just got to get organized and eat more regularly to get my metabolism up again. Anyway! Hooray for working again. Money makes things easier, lol.

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