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    Hi all! Its been only 2 nights of dancing when my bestfriend decided that she doesn't want to dance anymore. Her reason is because she's been going home with under 40 dollars after making house. Im not comfortable with the idea of going alone and she doesn't want to waitress. Although we seperate when on the floor we always meet up when things are slow or custys are taken. What am I supposed to do during a time like this? What do you ladies do?

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    Well I just had my first audition this week so IDK. Maybe you should continue dancing without her eventhough she is your bestfriend. You just may bring in more than 40 bucks.
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    being with a friend is the worst thing you could have done in the first place....if u r on ur own and u feel like there is no one to talk to, thats when u get ur butt back into gear and start talking to the guys again no matter who they r talking to, u could prolly join in =)

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    no, if its really slow u use that time to freshen up, makeup, some water, maybe stretch a little, and build ur confidence back up...a very short break...then back out onto the floor. Do NOT join in while another girl is on the floor with a guy unless u r specifically invited.
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    Go by yourself. You don't need a friend to go with you to go to work. Treat this just like you would treat a 'regular' job.

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    I felt a bit alone at first when there were none or very few customers. You need to give the other dancers time to get to know you and realise that u are going to stick around. It might sound harsh but many of us can't be bothered getting to know a new dancer who might never come back but once it's clear u are going to stick it out then u will make friends.
    Just be friendly and if there aren't any customers go and sit with some of the other dancers and have a chat. Just remember tho that as soon as some customers come in shut up and go get em!!!!

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    The quicker you learn to be by yourself the better. This is a strictly individual business that you shouldn't need moral support of others to get through. Maybe the job wasn't for her but it may be for you. I also feel like when you are friends with a stripper that you work with it only complicates the relationship because, like it or not, you are in competition with her.

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    Thanks so much for the advice ladies. I dont know how but im sure I'll make it. It just sucks because I was so nervous with her there. Now I dont know how Im going to feel.

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    I think you're going to do fine. Just do you.
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    I was supposed to start with a friend back when I finally got the guts to start dancing... She totally pussied out. I did it anyway and everything worked out for the best. It's best to throw yourself out there instead of going with a friend. You would probably have spent more time talking with your friend than you should have and you won't make as much money.
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    Thanks ladies I feel a little better now.

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    It's hard, I like going with another dancer to a new club just because you never really know what to expect, and there is safety in numbers. The more you go alone...the easier it will be.

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    i understand EXACTLY what you mean!!! my best friend and i started dancing together, we entered the same amateur contest and got hired at the same club. well, she had the same problem as your friend and never made more than $100, while i was making like $300. i think she got discouraged and realized that she wasn't cut out to be a stripper, so she quit and left me by myself. i didn't wanna quit because i was making awesome money, but i was so nervous without her. i didn't wanna walk out of the dressing room by myself and then awkwardly try to find a guy to hang out with. but i realized that when you're by yourself, there's nobody else to talk to besides the guys, so you focus more on the job and make better money!! when its slow, just freshen up your makeup or change your outfit. bring a banana or an orange to work and have a little snack to keep your energy up. and don't worry because you'll probably end up making friends with the other dancers after being there for a while.
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    Well ladies I did it and went without her and It wasn't that bad. I just basically tried to keep busy and when I wasn't with custys the DJ put me on stage. I've also found that starting out while its slow then having it pick up has helped me relax so I may start in the early evening for a while.

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    Just go by yourself its alot better that way.I never went with anyone, sure its cool to have a friend around but its not like something bad is going to happen just because you go alone.

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    Some people just really aren't cut out for it. You will be fine on your own, in fact it will make you a better stripper. Perhaps print out some tips SW and keep them in your bag. If it gets slow or you feel lonely, you can go read your tips, then get back on the floor! I do this sometimes with tips from hustle hut and it really helps me focus when I'm bored or distracted and remember why I'm there - $$$.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LatinaRose View Post
    Some people just really aren't cut out for it. You will be fine on your own, in fact it will make you a better stripper. Perhaps print out some tips SW and keep them in your bag. If it gets slow or you feel lonely, you can go read your tips, then get back on the floor! I do this sometimes with tips from hustle hut and it really helps me focus when I'm bored or distracted and remember why I'm there - $$$.
    That's a really good idea. I think I'm going to do that.
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    I used to always dance with my cousin and would get "scared" when she wasn't at work. After a few days I got over it. Make some new friends at the club, but remember you are there to work, not to socialize.
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    Perhaps you stopped spending money on her. Strippers need money to operate. They are like coin operated juke-boxes of love.

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    Theres a couple of girls i sometimes buddy up with at my club, and we can make a lot working it together, but i find if we buddying up for a few nights in a row and then one night they are not on and I'm all by myself, i can get really lazy and stand around not hustleing and not making $. Really its best to work it and find your confidence on your own you will make more money this way in the long term.

    Using someone else like a croutch for support and confidence will only make you weak and hold you back from reaching your full potential.

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