Is this reasonable or am I just being uptight?
The boyfriend and I were cuddling and loving on each other this morning, kinda getting warmed up to have sex, and he started talking kinda dirty (which I don't mind at all) but he was going on about "Are you my dirty extras girl?" and "Is this what I get in the champagne room?", etc. I kinda laughed it off at first but then just said flat out, "I really don't know if I want to perpetuate that image of myself in your head. I'm not really that comfortable with it. Can't I be your dirty something else right now?" It didn't kill the mood or anything but still.
I haven't started dancing yet and my boyfriend hates the idea of me dancing so why would he try to play "dirty dancer and customer"? It just seems weird especially since he made it clear extras are not acceptable (they're not acceptable to me either so no problem there!). I get that men have fantasies but it would have never crossed my mind he would want to imagine me as a dirty stripper. He's fucked strippers before and he's been to strip clubs before so I mean, there's not a ton of "the unknown" allure going on. I dunno. I'm just a little confused is all.
What does everyone else think?





Reply With Quote

Even called a whore ... whatever.. it works and I see it as purely what it is.. just fantasy talk.. it isn't like either of us (the guy and/or myself doing the dirty talk) actually BELIEVE it to be true. It is about playing into a fantasy and I don't mind being the dirty stripper, the whore in the fantasy
. It is all in fun and has nothing to do with him thinking that I'm fucking customers at work.
Bookmarks