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    OK in your professional stripper opinions what should i do in this case:

    The back ground goes: I am one of those girls who holds a separate mobile phone number for my customers to keep in touch and let people know when’s best to come in to visit me at work. I usually only give this number out to big spenders or interstate customers. On rare occasions i have also been known to have lunches, dinners etc with high spending customers who pay myself (and usually a friend I never go on my own) or at least take my friend and I shopping for our time and company. NEVER ANYTHING ELSE.

    Now I have this regular who has been coming to see me for years. I think he is a little bit slow or socially inept or something but all in all a lovely guy, very sweet. Very dedicated to me and has even bought me Christmas and birthday presents over the years. He doesn’t spend that much money on me so I have never gone out for dinner or lunch with him because I know he cant afford my time out of the club.

    But its his birthday coming up and has asked me if I will have a coffee with him for his birthday. He has asked me out for lunch and dinner many times but I have politely refused. He really really really really wants me to have just one coffee with him. I don’t want to go against my rules and socialize with a customer if he isn’t paying me but I kinda feel like I owe this guy something after all the years he has been coming to see me.

    I have a boyfriend and have no real interest to see this guy out of the club but like I said I feel like I owe the guy a little time just for being so loyal. Am I going soft or should I stick strictly to my rules not to socialize with customers unless I’m being paid for my time???

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    Your not going soft, you just feel bad for the guy. Especially if you think he is slow. I would say something came up and you couldn't go see him, but give him a few free birthday dances. If he is mentally disabled, he might think different things and it might become a bigger problem.

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    Once you start meeting him for free, he's going to think that you are friends. He'll start thinking that he doesn't need to compensate you for your time. This is when the money dries up for good.

    It's not worth the safety concern to meet some guy as a favor, especially when, in all likelihood, that favor is going to be the end of your money. I'd make some excuse.

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    ^Agreed with that. If you really feel you need to give him something for his bday then offer to eat with him AT WORK and maybe give him a free dance or two. Say you absolutely must work that day. Get some food delivered or order from the club and eat with him, then the free dance(s). I would not meet him OTC.

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    You don't owe him, u said he doesn't spend that much anyway.

    I agree with Bridgette u could just do something to celebrate ITC.

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    I agree with what the other ladies said. When you meet a customer outside the club, even if it's just for an innocent lunch or cup of coffee, sometimes their minds get screwed up and they think you want them. Especially if this guy's a little slow, even though you're just trying to be nice, in his mind, he's thinking "Oooh, she wants me! Now we're gonna be boyfriend and girlfriend..." I've known guys who thought a girl liked them as more than a friendly customer/dancer relationship just because the dancer told them her real name or said something nice to them.

    I agree with Bridgette that doing something nice for him in the club such as giving him a couple free dances or eating some food with him that you have delivered to the club would be a nice gesture.






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    OK some good suggestions. I will take the advice and do him a free dance or something I haven’t done that before but a nice birthday gift without jeopardizing my safety or going too soft on my personal rules. Thanks ladies. xoxoxo

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    I just realised you're from melbourne. what club r u at, if u dont mind me asking? Im at centrefoldlounge.

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    Spearmint Rhino.

    Why do you ask?

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    I totally agree with the above. I did make that mistake once. I really had no idea the it could be misconstrued. Luckily the reg continues to spend, but I have never gone OTC since. I think Bridgette's suggestions are best- and fun for him, b/c you both will be 100% comfortable.

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    I had a guy like this once. I called him the 40 year old virgin. Great guy, sweet, lucrative career...........
    First let me say that he lives on the other side of the US from me, but has meetings every so often down here.
    Anyways, at first I let him have my email, then my phone number. But recently I let him take me shopping and to dinner. He knows that I have a boyfriend, but I feel he thinks that "one day" he'll get his chance.
    Well, finally, after about a year, he gets an attitude with me because I couldn't call him back in a timely manner.
    I completely stopped all conversations with him, and thankfully he is not going psycho on me....Yet.
    Be very careful!!

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    It's been my personal experience that guys that come across as slow are actually pretty creepy. I'm not saying this guy.

    If you really want to do something nice for him, buy him a present and give it to him in the club.
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    God loves strippers and when guys do things like that its an automatic ticket to HELL!


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    You don't owe him ANYTHING. Besides, if you start doing charity like that, he's just going to expect more. It sounds like he's been a long-term customer. I'd suggest you leave things the way they are. Get him a birthday card or give him a free dance, that should make him feel better.
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    Quote Originally Posted by hyzenthflay View Post
    I had a guy like this once. I called him the 40 year old virgin. Great guy, sweet, lucrative career...........
    First let me say that he lives on the other side of the US from me, but has meetings every so often down here.
    Anyways, at first I let him have my email, then my phone number. But recently I let him take me shopping and to dinner. He knows that I have a boyfriend, but I feel he thinks that "one day" he'll get his chance.
    Well, finally, after about a year, he gets an attitude with me because I couldn't call him back in a timely manner.
    I completely stopped all conversations with him, and thankfully he is not going psycho on me....Yet.
    Be very careful!!
    Actually now that you say it, he does really remind me of the 40year old virgin! Not creepy at all, just a bit... you know...odd. Nice guy thou. But I have stopped the idea of being soft, thanks girls. I will just do him a free dance.

    Any other ideas or suggestions of what you girls have done for or even given little gifts to special/loyal customers for any reason?

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    Not seeing a customer outdise the club looks good on paper, but in reality depending on the customer and the situation, may not be practical.

    I have a wealthy regular who calls me every day. He has my real phone number. I am getting married very soon and my guy knows about him. This guy sends me money, and since I go to a different club each week, knows where I stay, and oftentimes sends me money. He drove 200 miles to the nearest major city, and we had lunch at PF Chang, and he bought me over $1000 of clothes of my choice at the best Macy's in town next door for Valentine's Day. He then drove me back 90 miles to the samll town club I was booked at, bought several dances, gave me $150, and went home.

    This type of guy REQUIRES out of the club interaction. He is in a bad marriage and I have been dealing with him for 2 years. Nothing sexual (of course he wants more).

    2-3 other guys I have had lunch with are long time regulars, and who spend several hundred dollars periodically in the clubs. You have to go with the flow. It depends on the type of club you work in. Does a lot of your money come form regulars, is it a Cheers atmosphere, or is it a more transient, high volume, foot traffic type of place?

    I exchange numbers with guys who spend money on me since I work different clubs each week and guys want to know where I'm working. I don't always answer the phone when they call. I use my real cell phone as there is no reason to separate the calls. I don't have that many people in real life calling me daily anyway. It isn't a problem and my billing goes to a mail drop anyway.

    If you feel by exchanging numbers with a guy you can help your business, do it. If you don't, don't do it. Have lunch with the guy. If it goes well all is good, if not, move on.

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    ^^^But she said that this guy doesn't spend that much money on her, plus he's mentally slow, so he might misinterpret her going out for lunch or coffee with him as a sign that she likes him. He could turn into a pain in the ass afterwards if she did go to lunch or coffee with him.






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    Quote Originally Posted by Tina View Post
    Not seeing a customer outdise the club looks good on paper, but in reality depending on the customer and the situation, may not be practical.

    I have a wealthy regular who calls me every day. He has my real phone number. I am getting married very soon and my guy knows about him. This guy sends me money, and since I go to a different club each week, knows where I stay, and oftentimes sends me money. He drove 200 miles to the nearest major city, and we had lunch at PF Chang, and he bought me over $1000 of clothes of my choice at the best Macy's in town next door for Valentine's Day. He then drove me back 90 miles to the samll town club I was booked at, bought several dances, gave me $150, and went home.

    This type of guy REQUIRES out of the club interaction. He is in a bad marriage and I have been dealing with him for 2 years. Nothing sexual (of course he wants more).

    2-3 other guys I have had lunch with are long time regulars, and who spend several hundred dollars periodically in the clubs. You have to go with the flow. It depends on the type of club you work in. Does a lot of your money come form regulars, is it a Cheers atmosphere, or is it a more transient, high volume, foot traffic type of place?

    I exchange numbers with guys who spend money on me since I work different clubs each week and guys want to know where I'm working. I don't always answer the phone when they call. I use my real cell phone as there is no reason to separate the calls. I don't have that many people in real life calling me daily anyway. It isn't a problem and my billing goes to a mail drop anyway.

    If you feel by exchanging numbers with a guy you can help your business, do it. If you don't, don't do it. Have lunch with the guy. If it goes well all is good, if not, move on.
    I also have a customer kind of like that. I *need* to spend that outside time with him. But, the guy she's talking about doesn't sound like he fits the bill. Usually, the ones who are worth seeing OTC let you know by dropping beaucoup bucks before hand.
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    Tina i agree with a lot of what you said and i do run my "little stripping business" in a similar way to you, however blondhottie and bella21 are on the money when they acknowledge this regular customer in question doesnt spend big. You wouldnt waste your time with phone calls every day from someone who didnt look after you financially or at least in lavish gifts. Doesn’t matter how nice or kind they were.

    It’s just the way of the stripping industry but its sometimes feels low how we only really look after the big spenders rather then the small nice guys who treat us with respect. Ahhh well, that the way the cookie crumbles. Sorry nice guys…

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    Quote Originally Posted by Truce View Post
    Spearmint Rhino.

    Why do you ask?
    hey girl!

    I can back that one up. She rocks the Rhino

    I personally wouldn't give him anything for free. Give him a card and maybe a present of some sort yet not even a free dance or free anything. If you give him one dance for free or anything away for free it devalues it. It will loose its value and besides... he will have aummunition to use against you in demanding another free dance down the line.

    Simple inexpensive gift and a card is what I would suggest. Or if his mobile phone can handle multi-media text messages (and you can send large MMS text messages) then send him either a sexy photo of you or two to him wishing him a happy birthday or a short video in a sexy outfit wishing him a happy birthday.........


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    hey back at ya girl!

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    ......If you give him one dance for free or anything away for free it devalues it. It will loose its value ....
    You got a very good point here too. I didnt think of that one. I like the idea of video message but its not for me. I make a point never to advertise my image OTC. I like the little card idea but i give all my regs little xmas cards each year so i'm thinking of going with the little inexpensive present but like what? Guys are so hard to buy for let alone when you dont even really know them! Ahhhh sometimes these regs are more trouble then they are worth! hahaha

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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl View Post
    hey girl!

    I can back that one up. She rocks the Rhino

    I personally wouldn't give him anything for free. Give him a card and maybe a present of some sort yet not even a free dance or free anything. If you give him one dance for free or anything away for free it devalues it. It will loose its value and besides... he will have aummunition to use against you in demanding another free dance down the line.

    Simple inexpensive gift and a card is what I would suggest. Or if his mobile phone can handle multi-media text messages (and you can send large MMS text messages) then send him either a sexy photo of you or two to him wishing him a happy birthday or a short video in a sexy outfit wishing him a happy birthday.........
    Great idea! A sexy photo and a card will make him feel special, and you can prepare it before hand so you don't have to waste any precious club time sitting for free/having dinner etc. I agree that giving away dances devalues them. Freebies are a great way to spoil a spender who will tip you the difference in the end, but for a low-roller there just isn't any payoff for you. The more he gets free, the more he expects for free. Cheap guys just don't seem to understand the quid pro quo of extra attention in exchange for extra money and gifts.

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    Why not take a photo like my avatar (or even a back shot of you topless in sexy booty shorts so your face is definately not in the shot) and send it ... something without your face in it yet sexy/attractive... ????

    The presents thing is a little bit hard when you don't know where he shops, what he likes or anything. You could give him a gift voucher for a massage as everyone enjoys a good massage (like a full body one or something?). I don't know too many people who would feel offended by being offered a gift certificate to have a massage ....


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