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    ....how do you girls conduct yourselves? When I start at a club, especially if it's not that big, I just introduce myself to each girl and try to not take up too much space and of course, lock my stuff up. If a house girl is chatting up a custie, I don't interfere...just common sense stuff.

    Recently, we have had a handful of new dancers at our club. Most are pretty cool but there are two of them that are atagonizing, catty and just waiting to get their ass kicked out!! I just don't understand how they think they can treat the house dancers that way

    For example: I have a regular that buys me dances everytime I work. Now I'm in LA, CA, dancing topless. We make most our money on stage, but this guy will buy around 3, every time. It's pretty casual, it's not like I flaunt that little extra money. So this one dancer says to me"Your custie says you are his #1 girl, but that I am moving up really fast. He bought me two dances yesterday". WTF??!!! First of all, I never think of myself as a #1 or whatever girl and second of all, she has been there for two weeks, why would she fuck with one of the house dancers? Also, he can buy dances from whoever he wants. Sheesh, it's not like I own him

    Another one told me that "We were lucky that she didn't believe in lap dances" like she would be way too much competition for us. (This one is pretty old too).

    To add to this, both of these women have a "porn star" look w/ big implants, et. That's great. I DO NOT look like a porn star. I'm really petite, thin and have small, natural breasts. Why are they competing and being nasty to me?? They don't have to, I don't even have their look. I'm no competition,LOL! I would think that they would be threatened by someone who had their look but was younger or prettier.

    Anyway, I was given a hard time for nearly four months when I started here by a few house girls. I just rode it out and minded my own business until I gained respect or they knew I was there to stay.

    Well, the older one did cook some amazing cajun food for all the girls the other night, so I kinda forgive her. But still, what is up with that? How do they feel they have the right to start stepping all over the house girls that have been there for a while?

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    I don't introduce myself to anyone lol. From my experience they look at you when you walk in then go about their business. As time goes on they will start talking or joking.

    Of course I've also seen more extroverted girls who are laughing and talking with the regular dancers by their second day, but that's not really my style.

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    I stick to myself and take care of business! It usually takes a while for other girls to start talking to me, I don't initiate it. I make sure I observe the dressing room dynamics/politics so I don't move in on anyone's territory (mirror area etc).

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    I stay out of everyone's way. I don't start conversations but I try to appear friendly:p I also put my things in the most out of the way place that I can find.

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    ^^Oh yeah...that too. God forbid you move into Queen Bitch's Space.

    lmao

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    I'm always very quiet and polite until the OTHER girls warm up to me first. I've seen new girls come in and just be retarded, though. Unfriendly or catty or being way too competitive. Simply put, some people are just stupid. They're used to whatever environment they came from before and they just assume that the club politics are exactly the same... instead of taking the time to feel it out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PleasureVictim View Post
    ^^Oh yeah...that too. God forbid you move into Queen Bitch's Space.

    lmao
    Crap like this makes me want to start punching holes in the wall. It's one thing if a "newbie" is deliberately doing something offensive (as in teh OP's post--trash-talking other girls, coming up to your custies while you're right at the table and trying to hustle them, or being arrogant and obviously rude). That deserves a smackdown.

    But stupid shit like "omg that new bitch took MY SQUARE OF COUNTER SPACE in the DR, Ima beat her ASS!" or "That new girl just said hello to ME; who does she think she is?" (yes, this is an actual quote from a girl at a club that my former roommate worked in.) That's ridiculous, and anyone who's seriously THAT petty and stupid is the one who deserves a smackdown, NOT the new girl.

    This particular subject makes my blood boil. I was fortunate enough to start out in a club where the other dancers taught me the ropes, didn't bitch me out for doing things that I genuinely didn't know were against a (written or unwritten) club rule, and were generally sweet and helpful. (well, 99% of them were, anyway ) I've been at this club for nine months now and I love it here--partly because of the laid-back attitudes of most of the girls.

    Thanks to reading too many horror stories on SW about new girls who got hung out to dry on their first night by a club full of bitches, I am well aware that my experience could have been FAR different if I had started out in another club. So I always make sure to "pay it forward". When I meet a new girl in the club, I always say hello, introduce myself and tell her that if she needs anything or has any questions to let me know. I'm not one to get into long involved conversations with girls at work or reveal personal info, but doesn't hurt to treat other people decently.

    As long as "the new girl" isn't being obnoxious like the one in the OP's post, that is. If a new girl is trying to hustle my custies while I'm at the table, or talking trash about another girl, that is a problem and I'm going to respond bitchily. Stupid stuff like "omg the new girl took MY coutner space"? Saying "excuse me, I need to get in here for a minute" or "could you give me some space? thanks." usually works just as well as "bitch move ur shit or i will cut u!" There's no need for all that.

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    Hahah this is so funny cos i am one of those "queen bitches" at my club. We have a certain area where my "posse" hahahah all set up there stuff and if any new girl puts her stuff there we are like "you're gonna have to move your shit, you cant put it here". But in my defense we all have our names written above our mirrors. No-one else in the club has their name written above on the mirrors, everywhere else is open ground. Its obvious as day that this area is someone's spot.

    If i go to a new club though, i exhibit the respectful behavior that i would expect in my own club. I keep to myself, just get out there and get on with it ensuring i never get in the way of another girl. I dont usually introduce myself, but i will give a genuine smile or slight nod of the head if any girl looks my way. Just to ensure i am respectful that this is their turff and i mean know threat...(other then to come in and quietly woo all their customers with my awesome personal and style so they now give me all the money!! HAHAHAHAHA *evil laugh*).

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    I don't even introduce myself to all the girls. I keep entirely to myself and only speak when spoken to. I learned quickly that the house girls never like you, so just shut up and work... those girls are being bitches.


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    there is a definaite heirarchy in my club but those who hav been there years and hav the house mum's number in their phone, etc, i dont speak a word too. not even a hello. i act as tho i am invisible.

    for all the other girls, if they look at me, i will smile, but i do not make the first move. some girls hav started talking to me, but i still keep my distance. i dont trust anyone.

    i often keep my ipod on while im putting on my make up so i dont hav to listen in on all the conversations. it keeps me focused and out of everyones business.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Truce View Post
    Hahah this is so funny cos i am one of those "queen bitches" at my club. We have a certain area where my "posse" hahahah all set up there stuff and if any new girl puts her stuff there we are like "you're gonna have to move your shit, you cant put it here". But in my defense we all have our names written above our mirrors. No-one else in the club has their name written above on the mirrors, everywhere else is open ground. Its obvious as day that this area is someone's spot.

    If i go to a new club though, i exhibit the respectful behavior that i would expect in my own club. I keep to myself, just get out there and get on with it ensuring i never get in the way of another girl. I dont usually introduce myself, but i will give a genuine smile or slight nod of the head if any girl looks my way. Just to ensure i am respectful that this is their turff and i mean know threat...(other then to come in and quietly woo all their customers with my awesome personal and style so they now give me all the money!! HAHAHAHAHA *evil laugh*).
    that's how my club is too, we have our names (not missable in any way) along the counter where "our spot" is. and there's this one girl, who has been at my club for a bit over a month sits at my mirror every night. even if i have my stuff there, she will put my stuff on the floor or scoot it down and sit there. i work with her 4 nights each week, so you'd think she'd KNOW by this time that i sit there?

    don't think that i just let her do that to me each night. no, i throw her stuff in a pile in the middle of the floor.
    i did get sick of this little game last night though, bitched her out, and gave her fair warning... but now i can't decide if i want to throw it in the mud outside (our DR has a door directly outside), or just throw it away "Oh! there was trash everywhere, so i decided to tidy up a bit."

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    LA girls can be a little rough around the edges. I worked in several clubs there where certain girls had their own dressing rooms, and no one else could use them.

    Usually the kind of situation you are dealing with is all about a lack of money spending guys in the club, or slow business. If the club was full of dance buying customers, girls would be less apt to try to get your customer to convert to them.

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    Thanks for the responses. You conduct yourselves the way I would. I guess, since I have been at this club for over 2 years, that I should become the "Queen Bitch" and treat these stupid new beotchs like crap?

    It's not within my nature to do that. Also, I am afraid to get physical. I don't like to fight, but when I do, I do it seriously. My little bro is a Federal agent, he has taught me some really serious stuff that I can throw down. It would be hard for me to find compromising attitude if a physical fight were to happen.

    We have awesome management at our club and for the most part, things run smoothly. That's why I am so amazed that these new women don't even think of the possibility of getting their ass thrown down for being obnoxious and stupid

    I guess I will have to become more catty and agressive just to deal. Damn, that's a lot of unessasary negative energy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 21stcenturyfox View Post
    there is a definaite heirarchy in my club but those who hav been there years and hav the house mum's number in their phone, etc, i dont speak a word too. not even a hello. i act as tho i am invisible.

    for all the other girls, if they look at me, i will smile, but i do not make the first move. some girls hav started talking to me, but i still keep my distance. i dont trust anyone.

    i often keep my ipod on while im putting on my make up so i dont hav to listen in on all the conversations. it keeps me focused and out of everyones business.
    that is exactly what I do

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    i think you have to find a happy medium...

    i would never walk up and introduce myself to all the dancers, but i think that if you only speak when spoken to and totally ignore everyone, you might come off as stuck-up or like you're scared.

    i think being helpful and just "chiming in" on things is a good way to ease into a new club. like if the girl next to me says "damn, i don't have my straightener with me!" then i will offer to let her use mine for the night, or if i hear a girl having a period emergency then i will give her a tampon. if you help somebody out, then they will probably remember you and not give you any shit later on. or if i overhear some girls complaining about a guy in the club or how much the night sucks, i'll just chime in and be like "yeah these guys are assholes, huh?" and just try to agree with them and make a little bit of conversation. or if i see a girl with a really amazing outfit, i'll compliment her on it. if she gives me some bitchy response and is just like "whatever", then i will know that she is one of those queen bitch types and i won't say anything to her again. the girls who walk into the dressing room drunk and bitching very loudly, i avoid like the plague because they are usually not very sweet!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by blayze View Post
    ...i did get sick of this little game last night though, bitched her out, and gave her fair warning... but now i can't decide if i want to throw it in the mud outside (our DR has a door directly outside), or just throw it away "Oh! there was trash everywhere, so i decided to tidy up a bit."
    hAHAHAH Nahh you just gotta say *with a really nice smile on your face and in a really freindly tone* "bitch, enoughs enough, move your shit now before i burn it..." *end with big second big grin*

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    when I started, I did smile at girls in the dressing room but defintely didn't make any conversation unless they made the first move. I try and stay out of the drama, and I try not to tred on anyones toes. I'm not there to make friends, I'm there to make money and do a job and we're all competetors on some level.

    In my experience, the girls who were over friendly to me on my first night were doing so so that if I was asked to give double dances or lesbian shows, I would remember their "niceness" and have them as the other girl.

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    god this thread reminds me of what a war zone the dressing can be when i get this job I am going for I am going to keep to myself and put my stuff in a corner and any dancer that has danced any where before should no not to use the ANY mirro space at all on there first couple days until you know its okay I come to work already made up I just need change and touch up and I ready to go.

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    Equal opportunity customers is what one Queen Bitch said to me...
    She takes off to the dressing room to do something, it always seems
    like house girls hang out in the dressing room more than the they are
    on the floor. QB was really cool until one of her high paying regulars
    bought all of his dances from me, asked me to dance and tipped me a
    20 on stage. I found this out after the fact, felt kind of bad but what was
    I suppose to say no? and she had been in the dressing room for over 10
    minutes by that time. I don't cut throat, but I do make my money, I don't
    go to work to worry about anyone but myself, a lot of house dancers
    wouldn't throw a glass of water on you if you were on fire.
    I don't want to be a house girl where I work, it's a good ole boys
    club, girls who have been there for over 5 years. No way!

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    I find a spot in the dressingroom, and I ask someone, "am I going to be in anyones way if I sit here/put my bag here?" Then I go about getting ready and getting out on the floor. If anyone introduces themselves to me I say, "hi, I'm xxxx... wow I love your hair/boobs/necklace/shoes/whatever." Then I go about minding my own business.

    If I stay in one place to long I degenerate into a slight drama queen tho. LOL



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    When I started at my club, I did just kind of hang back and wait to speak until spoken to, or just waited to see if another dancer was looking at me and then I said "Hi, how are?" and things like that. Outside of work I am the same way. I'm not super shy, but I do try to read people at first and then talk. I will let people know too that I'm not stuck up or anti-social, but I just need to "warm up" to them. When I go into the dressing room, I'll just ask if a place is okay to set my stuff and most of the girls I've worked with have been pretty nice and have shown me lockers, etc. I'll then watch as well through the night if a girl has a "regular" or try to pick up on other things the girls in the club do so I know where my boundaries lie. I try to stay out of drama as much as possible!!!! I guess I have too much of a peacemaker mentality, but I figure we're all at the club for the same reason and there's no reason to start a fight with anyone over stupid crap. I just try to get along with everyone unless they give me a reason not to.
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    The house girls and the away girls have different dressing rooms.
    The club had a problem keeping girls due to the house girls running them
    out with different intimidation factors.

    Ruining girls cars. (tampons, soda in the gas tank)
    Keying girls cars.
    Threatening Violence.
    Talking mad shit to customers.

    I think the club I work in atm is the club from hell but I make money, mind
    my business and they all think i'm crazy which keeps them out of my
    business and peace. Stepping on toes is bound to happen in any profession.
    Doing it on purpose is a completely different story. This situation is unlike
    any I have ever encountered. Other clubs the women were always lady like,
    there was a house mom, women that did hair and make-up for money..
    ugh I miss the south. The only thing that happened to me in those clubs
    sitting back and being mellow, trying to keep the peace was getting cut throated.
    But that stopped as soon as I felt comfortable in the club. I never worried about
    other entertainers until working in this club.

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