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    Seeing guys outside the club is not an option for me and something I really don't want to do...with that being said how can I keep good customers coming back to see me? I have one really good regular who is a gem, he is a very high paying customer and is nice to be around...he's asked me out but accepts that I am "too busy" to make dates outside the club..besides he's married so I guess he just doesn't push to hard. I talk to him on the phone once in a while for a little bit and that seems to keep him interested. There are a few other guys who are great who spend decent money and those who I wouldn't call exclusive regualrs to me but who when the see me get dances. I all appreciate them but I'd idealy love to have a good guy available every day I come to work like I see some girls do.

    But I don't want to be able to rely JUST on him..I'd really like to make other guys regulars but they always seem to get pissy when the catch on to the fact that I won't date them or go have sex with them for money Some girls may do that fine, I'm not judging others but I am a dancer and want to make money dancing and entertaning at the club. I'd love to cultivate more regulars but sometimes it just seems impossible. I have some really good guys come in for a while but then they are all "Ok this is the last time I'm coming in here" or "Let's cut out the middle man-I'll take care of you outside of here" or something like that. Now I'm a smart girl..I know the game "Oh maybe when I know you better.." "Maybe when I get some free time.." "I have to see how my schedual goes.." But this only can keep them going for so long...I always call them the next day and thank them for the great evening if they spent a substantial amount of money on me in VIP..and try to keep up with them and let them know I'm working via phone but they always seem to get sick of asking me out pretty quickly and then I'm back to hustling the floor. I have no problem hustling but in this slow time when less and less guys are coming in the club it is almost like you NEED regulars.

    How do you guys handle this? Any advice????

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    The fact that you won't see them OTC is a good start because from what I have read on SW meeting OTC will lead to the customer thinking they are your friend and no longer feeling obliged to spend money on you ITC.

    You have to remember that all regulars have an expiry date, they will move on to the next girl when they get tired of you or when you are no longer meeting their needs.
    Most of them do think that eventually you will meet them OTC and they will eventually work out that you are never going to do it and give up and move on to the next girl and try to get the same thing out of her.
    It's a strange phenomenon if you think about it really.

    As for keeping them interested - pay them lots of attention, make them feel like they are the only guy in the place, work out what they like most about you (your dancing or just talking) and try to make it better and better each time. Keep an air of mystery about u. Seem available but not available - if you get what I mean. You can give them hope without leading them on IMO. Never promise to meet them OTC if u don't intend to. If they ask change the topic or be a bit vague about it.

    Just make sure that coming to the club and spending time with you is a rewarding experience and they will last as long as they last. But part of it is outside of your control.

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    Jaizaine is right.... and for the record it is not a good idea to meet customers OTC.... I have a friend who does that and they ALWAYS turn out weird....once they figure your not going to have sex with them or date them they get WEIRD...I'm always worrying for her safety on top of it all...when your meeting customers OTC everything changes and you can never really be sure what their capable of!

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    The fact that you won't see them OTC is a good start because from what I have read on SW meeting OTC will lead to the customer thinking they are your friend and no longer feeling obliged to spend money on you ITC.

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    Hope I am not out of line posting in this thread, but some advice from a guy. Jaizaine made a good point. Figure out what it is that separates you from the others in his mind. What makes him tick? Why would he pick me over all these other beautiful women here?

    Your looks attracted him no doubt, but there are lots of good looking women in a club. He chose you for other reasons.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    The fact that you won't see them OTC is a good start because from what I have read on SW meeting OTC will lead to the customer thinking they are your friend and no longer feeling obliged to spend money on you ITC.
    99% of the time this is true. but there are rare cases where meeting OTC for a meal and THEN going to work so he can give you money can work in one's benefit. i have done that but it's definitely not for even 90% of customers or girls for that matter. in any case, you said you dont wanna do that so...

    You have to remember that all regulars have an expiry date...
    Most of them do think that eventually you will meet them OTC and they will eventually work out that you are never going to do it and give up and move on to the next girl and try to get the same thing out of her.
    totally true! regulars are not regs for long. i have had rarities but most are short-lived when they realize you wont go OTC.

    as for keeping them interested, sayign things like, "it's SO good to see you! i was getting sick of these jerks in here tonight." or "i love it when you come to visit me, we get along so well and have so much in common! plus you make me laugh (smile) and that puts you heads above other people i have met here."

    see, the thing about regulars is that conversation is what keeps them, not your dancing. you could do the exact same lap dance, even just sitting on them or huddling/hugging while "dancing" works because that gives them this feeling of being close to you, closer emotionally than other custys get.

    i would say im very good at keeping regulars, and it's all about the talk. you can always drop hints like, "these other jerks dont get that my time is valuable, but you do. you're such a gem/great guy/insert other compliment!" or "they always want to meet me OTC but people like you realize that i need to be comfortable in the environment im in to do something like that, and that takes a WHILE since i've been burnt."

    and when they bust out with "its all abotu the money!" giggle and say, god you are SO funny, i needed that laugh! totally deters conversation and puts you back in control. plus they wont say it again.

    Love it!

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    i wouldn't worry too much about it. regulars come and go... it's a cycle. some stay longer than others, butfrom what i've learned, the only ones who stay for an extended period of time are the ones who have a somewhat firm understanding of your relationship being an "inside the club" thing only. the ones who have a long term goal of sweeping you off your feet or metting you for action outside usualy stop spending money on you as soon as they figure out that isn't happening. if you're up front abou it, that doesn't normaly take too long. the best way to keep good regulars (the ones who aren't trying to date you) is just to keep their interest. great conversation, great dances (if they buy dances), and just making them feel special and appreciated in general. the reason i say "don't worry about it" is because, aside from doing the best you can at your job, there isn't much else you can do to make them keep coming back.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    i wouldn't worry too much about it. regulars come and go... it's a cycle. some stay longer than others, butfrom what i've learned, the only ones who stay for an extended period of time are the ones who have a somewhat firm understanding of your relationship being an "inside the club" thing only. the ones who have a long term goal of sweeping you off your feet or metting you for action outside usualy stop spending money on you as soon as they figure out that isn't happening. if you're up front abou it, that doesn't normaly take too long. the best way to keep good regulars (the ones who aren't trying to date you) is just to keep their interest. great conversation, great dances (if they buy dances), and just making them feel special and appreciated in general. the reason i say "don't worry about it" is because, aside from doing the best you can at your job, there isn't much else you can do to make them keep coming back.
    Agreed. I have this one regular who I could set my watch by. He comes in every Wednesday at 7 o' clock and always buys a half hour from me. He has been seeing me since October. He has never asked for my number or for me to met him somewhere. This is unlike the young punks who get one dance, or worse no dance but think that yo will just fork over your number or meet them at a hotel because they think that they are just so irresitably hot. Regulars have more respect than most other customers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    the reason i say "don't worry about it" is because, aside from doing the best you can at your job, there isn't much else you can do to make them keep coming back.
    Yeah you're right. No sense in worrying about things you can't change. I guess I just have to be myself, see who I click with and hope he respects my boundries. I know there are more good ones out there...I guess it is just destiny in a way.

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    Get some cute new outfits and make sure you change it up (even just a little) with your hair and makeup if you expect a regular to come in. Accessories are fun, too (garter belt, stockings, belly chain, etc.) Men are pretty visual, and keeping things visually stimulating is part of culivating regulars.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    The fact that you won't see them OTC is a good start because from what I have read on SW meeting OTC will lead to the customer thinking they are your friend and no longer feeling obliged to spend money on you ITC.
    Not to mention they think they are one step closer towards getting you into bed.

    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    Most of them do think that eventually you will meet them OTC and they will eventually work out that you are never going to do it and give up and move on to the next girl and try to get the same thing out of her.

    It's a strange phenomenon if you think about it really.
    Maybe not as strange as you think. The key is 'availability'. In the real world outside the SC, if they saw you in a bar (unaware that you were a dancer) the odds are you'd not give them the time of day because you were not attracted to them.

    Inside the venue you're a captive audience with a vested interest in 'liking' them - hence the feeling that you'll eventually meet them OTC.

    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    As for keeping them interested - pay them lots of attention, make them feel like they are the only guy in the place, work out what they like most about you (your dancing or just talking) and try to make it better and better each time.
    Spot on - us males love to have our egos stroked. And above all preserve the illusion that you liking us personally is why you want to see us, and not the fact that we're a source of income.

    Never push too hard for that extra dance and always spend a few minutes saying goodbye after the last dance - nothing worse than seeing a dancer disappearing into the distance 30 seconds after pocketing the last $20.

    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    Just make sure that coming to the club and spending time with you is a rewarding experience and they will last as long as they last. But part of it is outside of your control.
    I doubt even the most blinkered regular is so stupid as not to realise that money is a factor in it; although they'd like to think it's some way down the pecking order.

    As long as the spend is rewarding - fun dances, treated as a valued customer, etc., the longevity of the relationship is likely to be extended.

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