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Thread: Are we cursed?

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    Seriously. There have been so many threads lately (mine included) about nasty break-ups and I'm just beginning to wonder-are we cursed?? Doomed forever to not have a happy relationship? I'm really curious how many of us are going through this, or who are single and loving it or in a happy, healthy, committed relationship.

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    when i saw this thread title, i knew exactly what it was going to be about. our love lives are all sucking big monkey balls right now. at least we have each other to vent to...

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    Seriously!!! ^

    It seems as if everyone's love life falls apart at the exact same time. And Lola doesn't likey!!!

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    Well I would definitely not want the bad relationship to be it for me. I'm a super single. I am finally contently single and I think its because I'm having great sex right now. I don't think we are cursed . We are only cursed to not realize soon enough that the current relationship isn't working. Or others are cursed because they choose to stay a certain way that doesn't let them play well with others.
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    No, we're not cursed. I don't think we go through any more relationship issues than any other group of women. It's just that people tend to post when they need support and advice (i.e. a break up) instead of just a "by the way, I'm super happy in my love life" kind of stuff. Sure, we have some "unusual" issues to overcome when finding a SO, but we're also much wiser than some of the more.... um... "sheltered"... women out there... You know what I mean?
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    I just left my boyfriend today but it's a long time coming and I don't think I'm cursed. He's been treating me like dirt and not appreciating me for a long time.

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    I dunno seems to be a lot of people I know going through a rough break up right now... all from long term rels(more then 3 years)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bella21 View Post
    No, we're not cursed. I don't think we go through any more relationship issues than any other group of women. It's just that people tend to post when they need support and advice (i.e. a break up) instead of just a "by the way, I'm super happy in my love life" kind of stuff. Sure, we have some "unusual" issues to overcome when finding a SO, but we're also much wiser than some of the more.... um... "sheltered"... women out there... You know what I mean?
    ^^That's very true! It's kind of like the news. When you watch it, it seems like the world is in a state of despair because the vast majority of the time only bad things are newsworthy because they get ratings and keep people watching. It skews your perception and makes you think that things are much worse off than they actually are because noone wants to hear about the good stuff! And we definitely post more of the bad things that happen to us than the good..

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    I've found that having a shy demure partner really helps. My partner really doesn't have much of an opinion unless it makes me happy. If he really disagrees, he says so... but for the most part, he's pretty..um.. agreeable.

    Argument we had once:

    "Want to go to a movie?"
    "If you want."
    "Well, I do... which one?"
    "Anyone you want."
    "DAMNIT STOP BEING SO AGREEABLE!"
    "I'm not being agreeable! But I can be if you want me to!!"

    lol...

    It just works for me. I doubt having an overbearing opinionated man would really work for self-sufficient girls like ourselves. I mean, really... he's not the breadwinner and he's gonna have to get used to that.


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    I'm happy with my bf, though that isn't to say we haven't had our troubles. In fact, we broke up almost a year ago over some really random shit. Anyway, relationships are hard, and it is getting to be spring, which can give some people the new relationship itch.
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    LOL, my breakup sucked (after 8 years) but last couple of weeks since have been really wonderful; I finally have come up with a plan for myself and have been going out more often.

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    I'm none of the above, ATM...



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    ^^What's ATM?? Anti-male? LOL!!

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    cursed only if you think being single is horrible...

    lighten up! This can be quite nice. Tonight I took the night off and I didn't have to care that I ate garlic and other food that gives me horrible gas. Nobody is going to bitch that I smell like self-tanner, and that the movie I picked is a total chick flick.

    And last Tuesday I had some mind-blowing sex. He doesn't call to ask me stupid questions or make random chit-chat, but sends little texts to say he's thinking of me. I don't have to hear why I'm too good for stripping or make sure my house is clean when he wants to come over. I love this!

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    We need an option for single and sick and tired of pointless stupid go nowhere pervy asshole college guy dates.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    Tonight I took the night off and I didn't have to care that I ate garlic and other food that gives me horrible gas.
    ^^But hey, those can make one hell of a dutch oven to aggravate the shit out of your man!

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    I voted on #1.
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    I don't feel cursed at all. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two years, but I did it because he wasn't making me happy. We had a good relationship, but I wanted a better one.
    I'm already dating someone else and we've been very happy the last couple months.

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    I'm in a good relationship for the first time in awhile...the only problem we have is same as this:

    I've found that having a shy demure partner really helps. My partner really doesn't have much of an opinion unless it makes me happy. If he really disagrees, he says so... but for the most part, he's pretty..um.. agreeable.

    Argument we had once:

    "Want to go to a movie?"
    "If you want."
    "Well, I do... which one?"
    "Anyone you want."
    "DAMNIT STOP BEING SO AGREEABLE!"
    "I'm not being agreeable! But I can be if you want me to!!"
    except I find it so fucking annoying! Like, can you have an opinion please? We're working on it, lol.

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    ^^I get that problem with boyfriends all the time, except I'm the agreeable one. It's an issue I have. I just really don't care, but I should try. They don't love it, especially with sex. "Do you like that? Do you mind that? How's that?", and I'm all "yeah, whatever, it's fine". Dude doesn't like that answer.

    I think I'm still too silly-brained to make boyfriends work. I'm trying at the moment, but I get so much anxiety when a good guy likes me. I'm always just waiting for it to unravel. The last guy I was with before this, it lasted 9 months, and that's just cuz he was such a dick. I wasn't worried about losing him because of his dickishness, so it ironically went on and on until I finally relented into maybe looking for something better. Better never lasts though because I become the jerk. Hm.

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    It is important to fight the commonly held perception that you can only be happy if you are in a serious, meaningful, deep relationship with someone who is a perfect match. Everyone desperately wants to believe it, no matter how impossible it can be to attain this state of domestic bliss.

    Movies and television don't help the problem, either.

    People are fallible and imperfect--and so, almost inevitably, are their relationships.

    I have been fortunate enough to have had four very close and rewarding relationships, none of which were perfect, but only one of which had a really bad ending (curiously enough, the nasty trouble started after we broke up, but that's another story).

    I have spent somewhat more than half my life as a single man, and for the most part it's not so bad as it's made out to be.

    The dating scene sucks sometimes, though. Everyone always wanting to impress and be impressed, I got tired of this right away--I can't be bothered with bullshit. I never try anymore, it's not worth it. It's much easier and more peaceful to just let it happen when it wants to.

    The last two years have been tumultuous as you can get for me, and I have been in two somewhat strange social milieux, not conducive to being an outsider, or different. So nothing serious for me during that time. Sometimes I miss intimacy, sometimes I don't.

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    I dont were cursed it is just really sucking right now .

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    I think the fact that SWers are single is more related to who we are and our age. I believe that the majority of us are independent and in our twenties. At this age, we're still trying to find ourselves, which is very important to do before you commit to someone else. And we're choosy, which we should be. So one's single state should not be considered a curse, but a time to figure out more about yourself.

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    My boyfriend runs on two double A batteries. I love my BOB very much.
    Yes, I am looking for someone but not to hard. I trust enough in me and mother earth to lead me to whom ever I may love, date or marry. And while I may never marry that is fine. It is the process that is most important to me. As long as I seek to learn and develop as an individual in this universe it is all good.
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    I picked 2. I don't think I'm cursed either, men just suck.

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