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    Default He wants to do something "Low Key"...

    I met this guy a few weeks ago, he knows what I do, we had lunch one Tuesday afternoon (cuz I was available then and he had somewhere to go @ 4 so it was cool) and probably because it wasn't a night date that turned into sex, now when we talk on the phone were all like, pretty curious about each other and seemingly into each other.

    So we might be getting together tomorrow, he mentioned 'ya know, something low-key' No big deal and I'm sure we can do whatever, but I'm just wondering if well, this is like a "key phrase" with men--do you think it could indicate either a)he still wants to "get to know me better" w/o rushing into bed, or it actually means the opposite?? Or it was completely meaningless and just something to say...

    Of course all guys wanna hook up asap, altho he did mention how nice it was that we had lunch--and a really awesome kiss afterward...seemed like it was more meaningful than usual and he liked that, so did I, etc.

    God I feel so Cosmo w this lol--

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    take it as just something to say untill proven otherwise.....

    i firmly believe it is up to you to "lead" the date to where you want it to go.... I'll elaborate on that tomorrow.... to sleepy now...

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    Hmmm. Yea 2 year relationships or *just casual sex* has always prevented problems like this...

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    Default Re: He wants to do something "Low Key"...

    "Low key"---when a relationship is brand-new means, "whatever will allow us the quickest access to the bed"--ie) activities such as "staying in" and "renting a movie".

    "Low-key" ,once you have been dating for awhile, is different--by that time, the relationship is established, intimacy is genuine--- and it's nice to stay in with your honey and cuddle on the couch . But in my experience, when a guy is really interested , he makes an EFFORT. Meaning, suggesting a nice place to take you, making sure he looks and smells great, and picking you up.

    I would take charge of the date and tell him where you would like to go--keep it "low-key" as in going out to a movie, or having dinner someplace casual and inexpensive. Or go for coffee---it is just as easy to get to know someone sitting across them at a cafe as it is on your couch. Easier, since it won't dissolve into a makeout session, which always seems to happen whenever a cute boy is on my couch!

    He needs to make an effort here--otherwise, if he just wants to hang out on your couch--yeah, he's hoping to get some ASAP.

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    Default Re: He wants to do something "Low Key"...

    I figured "low key" to mean that he's hiding it from someone else-a girlfriend or a wife?

    I might just be paranoid and man-hating at the moment though, lol!

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    Default Re: He wants to do something "Low Key"...

    Quote Originally Posted by Paintbaby View Post
    "Low key"---when a relationship is brand-new means, "whatever will allow us the quickest access to the bed"--ie) activities such as "staying in" and "renting a movie".

    "Low-key" ,once you have been dating for awhile, is different--by that time, the relationship is established, intimacy is genuine--- and it's nice to stay in with your honey and cuddle on the couch . But in my experience, when a guy is really interested , he makes an EFFORT. Meaning, suggesting a nice place to take you, making sure he looks and smells great, and picking you up.

    I would take charge of the date and tell him where you would like to go--keep it "low-key" as in going out to a movie, or having dinner someplace casual and inexpensive. Or go for coffee---it is just as easy to get to know someone sitting across them at a cafe as it is on your couch. Easier, since it won't dissolve into a makeout session, which always seems to happen whenever a cute boy is on my couch!

    He needs to make an effort here--otherwise, if he just wants to hang out on your couch--yeah, he's hoping to get some ASAP.
    Completely agree with everything you said here.

    Either that or he's broke and "low-key" means cheap.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alaska View Post
    So we might be getting together tomorrow, he mentioned 'ya know, something low-key' No big deal and I'm sure we can do whatever, but I'm just wondering if well, this is like a "key phrase" with men--do you think it could indicate either a)he still wants to "get to know me better" w/o rushing into bed, or it actually means the opposite?? Or it was completely meaningless and just something to say...
    i'm thinking it means he wants to take it slow.

    or maybe he's cheap or just poor but the latter reasons are pretty quick to see.

    there's also bad possibility though. that he might not want people to know he's dating a stripper/dancer. but you mentioned he knew what you do and was ok with it so i don't really think it's that. but it's a fact that some guys don't take some girls home to meet mom because of what she did for a living.

    you know his situations better than we do so you might have a better judgement of which way he's leaning/really meant.

    but my friends and i have used "low key" to mean taking it slow(er), to not rush things, because we wanted that particular relationship to build steady and strong versus girls you just had fun with. (c'mon, you girls do it too. i've seen it! )

    but i've also had friends that used it in the "bad sense" i noted above too.

    hope it's the good meaning!

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    ok, leading a date is about the best thing I was taught, relationship wise....

    When you make the date, earlier is better. if he suggests 7, ccounter it with 6 or 6:30, and mention that you have to drop by a friends later. This makes you unavailable for sex, b/c you're not the type to fuck and run, of course Then, when you're on the date, stear the conversation. as a stripper you should be great at this.... when it's getting close to time for you to leave, set your phone, and make sure he knows you did, that way you can lose track of time and be suprised and slightly bummed to leave.... and you'll leave him wanting more. Also make sure to limit yourslef to 1-2 drinks only, so you stick to the plan!!!! and as for low key, sure, but when he calls to make plans, drop a hint... I've been aching for some good italian, or i heard that ___ is a great movie, or it's such a beautiful day outside..... so the ball is in his court, but only ecause you've got a great serve!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lola Rose View Post
    ok, leading a date is about the best thing I was taught, relationship wise....

    When you make the date, earlier is better. if he suggests 7, ccounter it with 6 or 6:30, and mention that you have to drop by a friends later. This makes you unavailable for sex, b/c you're not the type to fuck and run, of course Then, when you're on the date, stear the conversation. as a stripper you should be great at this.... when it's getting close to time for you to leave, set your phone, and make sure he knows you did, that way you can lose track of time and be suprised and slightly bummed to leave.... and you'll leave him wanting more. Also make sure to limit yourslef to 1-2 drinks only, so you stick to the plan!!!! and as for low key, sure, but when he calls to make plans, drop a hint... I've been aching for some good italian, or i heard that ___ is a great movie, or it's such a beautiful day outside..... so the ball is in his court, but only ecause you've got a great serve!!!
    This is amazing, priceless advice!

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    Default Re: He wants to do something "Low Key"...

    Maybe most guys just want to hook up asap, but not all.

    If I said I wanted to keep it 'low-key', I would mean can we please drop all the bullshit people always seem to pull when dating--trying to impress, manipulate, or control the person of the opposite sex, for whatever reason.

    Thank god I don't date in this sense anymore, what a waste of emotional energy, not to mention my time.

    But I have no idea what the guy is like, so I could be way off. Maybe he has some other meaning for the phrase in mind.
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    Default Re: He wants to do something "Low Key"...

    He is a hot, sexy bouncer/computer guy ---great body, not beefy, smart...ain't broke, don't work for a SC either, that got called into work today so next time...


    Thank you all *so* much for the advice and opinions--I honestly didn't expect great feedback cuz maybe I sounded like a girl that "analyzed too much" ---def not, in fact it's been a breeze w/ relationships up till now (I am very lucky and know it every day)--but you know how guys have code words for shit sometimes, that's just a fact.

    It's really new and different to be on the "dating" scene so thanks once again for yr experienced opinions!!!

    Lola Rose and Djoser--very on-point, love it! I would never wanna go out w someone who couldn't "skip all the bullshit"--nothing is worse! And not that I'm necessarily trying to have a relationship--but the fact that we didn't have sex is really turning me on. =) He mentioned he liked that too, that's all I really need to know then I guess! Still can't wait to do it... But yea def was wondering about the term "low-key"...I could keep ya updated if ya really cared, but it doesn't matter I guess, so thank you!!

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    Default Re: He wants to do something "Low Key"...

    Quote Originally Posted by Alaska View Post
    He mentioned he liked that too, that's all I really need to know then I guess!
    That's cool, sounds like you might just have found a winner. Please do keep us posted, why not, if you feel like it?
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