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    Default I am really grieving my dog

    I didnt want to write this thread coz thinking about this is painful enough but I just need to get it off my chest I think.

    Some of u will recall my thread in December "my dog has cardiomyopathy" and then the update when my beloved Zaine passed away on December 18th.

    Well I am really miserable and sad coz I just miss him so much.
    I keep having nightmares about him being sick and dying all over again and then when I wake up the next morning I'm extremely distressed over it.

    Some days are better than others. Some days I look at pictures of him or remember something nice about him and I feel happy. Other days I feel so empty inside coz I just miss him terribly.
    I cried hysterically the other day. It was the first time I have cried over his death since a few days after he died.

    I don't understand why people say that time heals all wounds. I am finding as time goes on I just miss him more.

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    Default Re: I am really grieving my dog

    it took me YEARS to get over my dog dying. seriously. it was the worst grief i have ever experienced.

    i was only saying yesterday that out of cats, dogs and family dying... the dog was the worst. sounds heartless, i know, but that dog was my best little buddy for years....

    i know how you feel. it's ok to cry still.
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    I'm sorry for your loss, I understand how hard it is to lose your very best friend. Give yourself time to grieve...I know it sounds corny, but maybe you could make a scrapbook of his photos and any mementos that you have of him. You could also maybe write down some stories about him to put in there, like how you got him, or something funny that he did once, his favorite things. Something to celebrate his life that you can look at when you are missing him really badly....

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    I wasn't this depressed over my other dog, I think coz she was so old and I was expecting it. Zaine died in the prime of his life, he was almost 6. I thought I still had years left with him.

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    Lots and lots of cuddles
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    It's perfectly natural to feel the way you do--grieving is a long process, and you lost a member of your family. I had to put my cat Sunny down almost 14 years ago, and when I think about it today, it still brings me to tears! The love we have for our pets is so strong, because the love they give us is unconditional and perfect. It hurts when they aren't there for us to show how much we love them--but they know, even if they aren't in the physical realm anymore. And they miss us too.

    You'll never actually stop missing your furbaby, but you will move beyond the heart-wrenching grief stage where it hurts to even think about him, because you miss him so much. But he's not sick or hurting anymore---he's in that special place where our animals go when they die, and waiting for the day he gets to see you again. Wherever he is--he's happy and like a puppy again. Animals have the purest souls--and when they leave their little furry bodies, all that love goes to the best "heaven".

    It will get better. And I'll bet he comes to lay on your bed while you sleep, to comfort your spirit while you dream. Try to let that feeling into your dreams, instead of the bad memories. He's happy now--but probably wants to make sure his mama is going to be okay.

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    Oh my God, I'm so sorry...

    My best friend growing up was my cocker spaniel, Sandy. One of my first memories is first getting her as a puppy. We practically grew up together.

    When she was 12 and I was 16, she got really sick. She couldn't move and just lay on the ground whimpering. The vet said it was pancreatitis and any kind of surgery would be insanely expensive. My dad and I took her to be put to sleep.

    It was the worst moment of my life. Right when they injected her she looked at me like she was saying goodbye...

    I know exactly how you feel. The pain doesn't go away, but you have to remember all the good times and be glad you got to experience life with your dog.

    *Big Hug*

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    Default Re: I am really grieving my dog

    I have only read the OP.

    If anyone says to you that it is "silly" to grieve the loss of your animal companion (they are always more than "just a pet" to me)... then ignore them. Usually people who say this are the same people who don't have animal companions nor are really 'animal' type of people.

    I am an animal person. I totally empathise and understand. Even to this day I have moments where I miss Smokey ( http://wpsg.tripod.com/smokey.html ).

    Allow yourself to grieve good and proper for your animal companion. Also, have you thought of maybe adopting another animal into your life and/or being a foster carer ??

    I know when Bibs finally decides that it is time for her to transition I am going to foster not take on another cat nor animal. There are plenty of animals that require foster homes.

    ........and yes I miss Smokey (and will more than likely miss Bibs) than I did my own mother who died late Feb 1999. My mother and I always had issues (and kinda still have however since she is no longer of this earth it is hard to resolve them to a certain extent) whereas I never had any issues with Smokey. The only issues I have with Bibs aren't really issues. I can say for once in my life I know what it is like to love another being unconditionally as I love her unconditionally no matter how much she irks me at times. I love her. :


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    It's been a year and I can still feel Misery's cuddle on my chin and shoulder...

    :hugs:


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    I still grieve for my first dog, Snoopy. I got him when I was 2. He passed away about 15 yrs ago, and I still get teary when I think of him. That dog was my personal protector, my 4-legged hero. Its normal to grieve hard for a pet. We don't see them as animals, they are furry members of the family. A part of your family that no matter what, they love you unconditionally. They love us in a way that our human family members don't.

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    I am so sorry sweetie. I really understand your pain. Only animal lovers can understand the pain you feel when you lose one (which in most cases is like a family member).

    It WILL get easier to deal, however it will never be easy because it truly IS someone you loved and cared about.

    I know that this poem will probably make you cry because everytime I read it, I do, but check it out. I believe in it.




    Rainbow Bridge


    Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
    When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

    All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
    They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

    You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

    Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    I didnt want to write this thread coz thinking about this is painful enough but I just need to get it off my chest I think...

    Well I am really miserable and sad coz I just miss him so much.
    I keep having nightmares about him being sick and dying all over again and then when I wake up the next morning I'm extremely distressed over it.

    Some days are better than others...

    I don't understand why people say that time heals all wounds. I am finding as time goes on I just miss him more.
    I am so sorry to hear of your pain. Believe me, I understand, and I can sympathize--I still grieve for the last cat I had that was exclusively mine, and it's been years. I used to dream about her a lot where she was sick and dying, too, right after I lost her--it was awful.

    Thankfully, it happens not so much anymore but still once in a while. At some point soon (like as soon as I buy a house or move from here at least to where I can have one) I'll get another kitty, but I will always miss her.

    I also miss the cat my last serious girlfriend and I had, but at least I know she's still alive and well-cared for, and we had her together for only a little more than a year.
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    Awwww I'm sad for you. You will never truly get over your dog's passing, that was your best friend. Try to think of things that made you laugh about your dog when you had good times together before you go to sleep. He would not want you to be having nightmares, as he was your protector. I'm truly sorry for your loss and hope your heart starts to heal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexi View Post

    Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

    Author unknown...
    Oh wow, I think I'm going to cry. I'm printing that out now as I type.

    I know this isn't my thread, but thanks for posting that.

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    I'm so sorry.

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    Yea, I know what you're going through Jaizine, in an incredible way. I hope it does get better for you.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    Thanks so much to everyone who took the time to reply to this post.
    I am sitting here in tears from the Rainbow Bridge poem, Lexi that is sooooo beautiful and it's something to look forward to when I get to see him again. There are so many caring and lovely people on SW and it's great to have people like myself who love animals who can empathise.


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    I'm sorry about your doggy. *Hugs* Take your time to grieve. I know there's no replacement for your dog, but maybe someday you'll find another four-legged buddy.

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    Try to look at it as part of life- everything changes. I'm sure you gave Zaine a great life full of love and care. Not even some HUMANS are so lucky to have that kind of loving in their life. I'm not trying to bum you out, but help you see the positives.
    Now...when you are ready...some other pet is alive somewhere, waiting for you to come along and give it a home so you can share the same kind of love you had for Zaine.

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    my doberman died a 1/2 year ago... i still miss him soo much and think about him every day. i dont think the day will ever come when i can frame his picture and hang it on my wall...i will just cry when i see it =0(
    A DOGS ONLY FAULT IS HOW LONG THEY LIVE.

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    Think of it this way too- dogs are pack animals. Zaine would hate to see you unhappy & he would not object to you having another pet...He would not want you to be unhappy...You were his "pack."

    I know animals vary in temprament, maybe you won't find a dog just like him, but you'll find another, different friend. "Death does not separate us. Absence of love does."

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    ^^^^
    I really want to get another dog but I live with my parents and they said they don't want another dog at this house. I plan to move out with my boyfriend by the end of the year and we are already checking out breeders to get another great dane. I just love the breed so much. There won't ever be another Zaine but u r right there will be another special dog for me to love

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    Jaizine,

    Hang in there, although the pain will be with you each day, take comfort in the fact that Zaine is at peace. It has been almost a year since I had to have my bulldog put down, and there is not a day that I do not think about him, and the joy that he brought to me. You friends at SW are here for you.

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    I'm am so sorry for your loss. I hand to put down our beloved family dog, Misiu, the same day that I buried my father 8/15/05 and I still haven't gotten over it. As Misiu went under all that I could think to do was wisper in his ear, "go find grandpa". I still hear Misiu walking around the house at night, coming up the stairs and taking his place on the floor next to our bed.

    I was offered this piece of wisdom and I'll pass it on to you,

    You will always miss the loved ones that you have lost, but in time, you will learn to live your life without them in it.

    <<<<<HUGS>>>>>

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    jaizaine- I empathize with your loss.I lost the best dog I ever had when he was only 4 ( acute hepatitis) and getting another dog is a good idea ( it's what I did ) but a GREAT DANE ??? They only have an average life expectancy of eight years . Shorter than any other breed . Just something to think about in choosing your next dog.

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