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    My Hugger () finally caught me at work tonight. It's been about 3 months since I last saw him at the club. He has asked about me on nights I wasn't working, but never showed up while I was there.

    I noticed him while I was dancing at another table. He, of course, had planted himself at the table directly behind me and was staring while I danced. Ugh. At first, I planned to make an attempt to avoid him, but by where he was sitting, I was trapped. I decided to just suck it up and tell him how I felt. I was really nice and said something like "It makes me uncomfortable to be held how you like, so if you want, I can find someone else who doesn't mind." He looked like he was going to cry and asked if something had happened and I told him again that being held just makes me uncomfortable. He then asked if he could have some dances, which of course I agreed to. He bought 6 of them. I also reassured him that it wasn't "him" that made me uncomfortable, that I just didn't feel okay being held.

    It feels really good that I just told him how I felt and now I don't have to avoid him anymore.

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    I am happy for you that you feel liberated .

    It sucks to feel shackled at work and be expected to put your "game-face" on in an effort not to lose custys. Custys know this and can sometimes take it too far or inadvertently offend, since they have been conditioned by other girls' lack of comment due to lack of assertion.

    However, I have found that speaking my mind from the beginning of an incident not only allows me to avoid certain "undesireable situations" by establishing clear boundaries, but ironically enough, I usually merit a lot of respect from the fools that I end up scolding and even repeat visits (maybe it's the masochist in them; LoL ).

    Sometimes girls stay quiet because what they really want to say might be too aggressive or perceived as "blowing things out of proportion"; however, as evidenced from your experience, there are ways of speaking your mind without being harsh.

    BTW, I love (x 3) that he ended up buying 6 more from you .

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    Cool. Me or BritneyIreland will take over!




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    Whew, I thought this was going to be another rant about how this bozo didn't get the hint. Glad it all worked out!

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    Cool beans.

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    love when it works out like that!

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    Glam,

    Update on The Hugger: He came in last night and asked for you. I told him that you moved back to the Bay Area. He seemed kinda sad, and asked if you were working at any clubs up there. I told him that I didn't know which one, but that I would let you know that he was sad that he didn't get a chance to say goodbye.

    Then I sat and hugged him for half an hour (at my standard VIP rate of course). I don't mind hugging. He's not sexual about it at all, and I never took my dress off. I just think he didn't have much motherly contact.

    K, so then it got weird. Not bad weird, funny I'll remember this for the rest of my life weird....He says "I have a nose fetish will you hold your nose and sing to me" I kid you not!!!! For twenty minutes I held my nose and SANG whatever the DJ was playing! We were laughing so hard!

    Can you just imagine me, sitting in the pit by the back bar, full clothed, holding my nose and singing Journey "Don't Stop! Believing" Bon Jovi "Ooooh we're halfway there! Oh Oh Livin on a Prayer" and then half-assing my way through the hip hop songs I don't know the words to. Oh, if I only had a video camera!
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    ^^ thats funny and disturbing at the same time.
    don't hate the player hate the game......

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    Quote Originally Posted by britneyireland View Post
    K, so then it got weird. Not bad weird, funny I'll remember this for the rest of my life weird....He says "I have a nose fetish will you hold your nose and sing to me" I kid you not!!!! For twenty minutes I held my nose and SANG whatever the DJ was playing! We were laughing so hard!
    Oh, I guess I never mentioned the nose fetish!! Yeah, he would stare at my nose, compliment me for having the most beautiful nose he had ever seen and ask if he could touch it!! I'm a little weird about people touching my face, so this was always a little too much for me.

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    I think it's funny that your dreaded customer is my ideal customer. Just.. a random fact that probably didn't need mentioned.

    At least he's cool about it.


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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan View Post
    I think it's funny that your dreaded customer is my ideal customer. Just.. a random fact that probably didn't need mentioned.

    Yeah, I've thought about that...like, how it would be nice (profitable, even) if I could be the cuddly, huggy, maternal type of stripper who can deal with that type of contact. It just drives me crazy though! I can't and won't do it, it just drains me emotionally.

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    Good for you to sticking to your boundaries and asserting yourself. I think it was good that you placed the focus on the Hugger's BEHAVIOR, and not the Hugger personally.

    It just goes to show that you can stick to your boundaries and still make your $$$.
    That's awesome.
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    Dear God. We have a guy like that in my club. I too have told him off. But a lot of girls will do his "thing" which is to let him "hold" them for 20 dollars a song.

    Fuck no man!
    Sexy Jasmine after getting fucked over at work:

    God loves strippers and when guys do things like that its an automatic ticket to HELL!


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    Perhaps you stopped spending money on her. Strippers need money to operate. They are like coin operated juke-boxes of love.

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