Damn ya'll, lmao! I leave for a couple of days and all hell breaks loose.
The only problem I have with your comment is the way you are dismissing others prior experiences and pain. What difference is ranting from overwhelming racisim from a hard shift than half of the bull shit rants posted on stripper web. The way I see it, if their are a mass majority of people dealing with these issues......I'm sorry....it's not in their heads. I know how to deal with racisim, but in the club the racisim dealt is usually in a more raw form.
In my civilian job I can easily roll my eyes and file a complaint with human resources. But in the club since their isn't such a thing, and everyone treats YOU the recipient of racisit treatment as though you're overreacting...........Well....quite frankly that's one of many reasons why I made this thread. Sure, there are plenty of bright moments dancing as a WOC, but the darker side of the spectrum also includes ignorance. Don't get me wrong, I don't believe whining solves shit........
but venting is cleansing, especially in an enviroment where other women can relate.
( I can relate to the discussions/ vents from a dancer point of view)
IMHO, holding shit like the experiences above in can be very poisonous. Why do you think I went out of my way to chat up more white men OTC. I deliberately did that so I could remind myself that the bogus racisit shit that I have experienced within the club had little no none reflection of the white gentlemen I meet everyday. I actually started noticing little differences in the way I THOUGHT white men OTC percieved me, and my view was starting to get warped to a sense because of the lil bullshit that white men have said or done to me ITC. I knew that was my subconscious feeding into the injustice I recieve at any given night. It's the lil shit that grinds my gears ( Hey Jayda, Family guy.... sorry) and it's the lil things that can affect the subconscious mind.
Think of it this way, children aren't born racisit and intolerant, but they pick up on the cues from their racisit families and usually have a difficult time dealing with other races. Sure, they may have never witnessed dramatic/traumatic
racism such as "hangings" but even the most subtle form of racism such as hearing mommie use "nigger" here and there can create a monster. And the reason I'm saying this is to emphasize the importance of acknowledging racism, no matter how minute. I'm also saying this to stress that the mind picks up on cues despite how "minor" they may appear. In other words, venting is neccesary in this league in order for US to not become monsters.
You should actually be more tolerant and understanding yourself. I really like you, but you should respect the amount of guts it takes to handle this type of shit while you're ALSO naked and objectified. These bitches are bad!It takes a very SECURE woman too be able to handle this type of treatment on the regular, we don't have room nor time to be intimidated ( intimidation takes too much time, which means less money at the end of the night) The only people who appear intimidated are the asshat's that go out of their way to run from my sexy chocolate. By the time they leave I'm on to the next victim. I think you're imaging this affecting us ITC, hell to the naw, I brush it off quicker than it happens, But their are moments when you get home and within the stillness of the night memories may creep up on you. The mind is powerful as fuck, so these images are simple for it to recall. Trust me, I don't go out of my way to recall hurtful images, the mind has a mind of it's own. And it's moments like that that encourage me to log on and read the experiences of my collegues. No, not so I can whine, but so I can recieve comfort in knowing that I'm not alone. That I'm not crazy and radical like others suggest. I would love to keep the convos light and breezy, but the world isn't always a calm, engaging place. Stripperweb is a reflection of all things great and bad about the world. With that being said, since the "real world" can display such intolerance, what do you expect in the under belly of society?
Girl. lmao, that dude lasted a week. He was funny, and cute as hell, but he had a problem with putting candy up his noseAnd he came across a lil slow. I dunno, he was three raisins short of a cookie.
I'm talking to a great cat now, but he's getting a lil weak to me...... I'll hit Starbucks next weekend, maybe the next dude can spell c.h.o.c.o.l.a.t.e. ( and eat it)





) and it's the lil things that can affect the subconscious mind.
It takes a very SECURE woman too be able to handle this type of treatment on the regular, we don't have room nor time to be intimidated ( intimidation takes too much time, which means less money at the end of the night) The only people who appear intimidated are the asshat's that go out of their way to run from my sexy chocolate. By the time they leave I'm on to the next victim. I think you're imaging this affecting us ITC, hell to the naw, I brush it off quicker than it happens, But their are moments when you get home and within the stillness of the night memories may creep up on you. The mind is powerful as fuck, so these images are simple for it to recall. Trust me, I don't go out of my way to recall hurtful images, the mind has a mind of it's own. And it's moments like that that encourage me to log on and read the experiences of my collegues. No, not so I can whine, but so I can recieve comfort in knowing that I'm not alone. That I'm not crazy and radical like others suggest. I would love to keep the convos light and breezy, but the world isn't always a calm, engaging place. Stripperweb is a reflection of all things great and bad about the world. With that being said, since the "real world" can display such intolerance, what do you expect in the under belly of society?
And he came across a lil slow. I dunno, he was three raisins short of a cookie.
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Whoo Ha! They got you all in check, beyotch!! Well, don't go 'way mad--just go away-ay-ay!

I do so love this trend of all kinds of guys enjoying black culture. It was like the UN up in there. I just missed the hot Korean dude I had my eye on--but that's another story!
Don't get me wrong, I'm for free speech, but I'm also for being held accountable for your actions. His ass needs to be grass. He insulted the not only black women, but women in general. I swear, I'm about to strap on my stilettos and march all over the capital..... As soon as I figure out how to organize one

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