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    OK, maybe its just because i've had too much caffeine and i'm sitting here broke and there's a major blizzard happening outside my door but i'm having a little panic attack. I keep telling myself that its just slow right now and it'll get better. What if it doesn't? I feel kind of trapped right now because where I live there is only one club for many miles and right now i'm lucky to walk out with $100 on a good night. Its been snowing so bad that i have had to cancel bookings in better clubs but even in my fave club i'm only looking at about $1000 a week lately. Pretty much everyone is doing bad excpet for the girls who "date" and there seems to be a lot of them lately. I would stop dancing for a while but the only other jobs in this town is a factory job and i'm sorry but there is no way i could do that and not want to cry every morning i got up. I guess i'm just looking for some support and hugs because right now i feel like it might never get better here, like i am going to always do crappy because of the advent of the extras girl.

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    It will get better. Just hang in there.

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    Private party business is doing very well these days ($500 for a 1 hour bachelor party is pretty standard). I have noticed the clubs are getting flooded with girls and the competition is very stiff in the clubs.

    Try working the "off" nights Sunday-Thursday. There are less girls on shift and more of the customers are in a mood to spend on those nights as they are there for the specific reason to see the dancers, not just out partying with the gang.

    The weather is kicking everyone's ass right now. It will get better, and in a big way. People will get cabin fever and come out in droves when the weather clears up.


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    everyone is doing bad right now. unless you are working in a very upscale club and are the best of the best, then you might do well but even those clubs have extras girls. i worked at an upscale club with rich businessmen and all that, but i didn't do well because other girls were giving them blowjobs for their money!!! and when you get into more blue collar, average clubs, the business is pretty slow because the economy is shit and most guys can't afford strippers right now, or they only want to invest their money in extras girls. i am from michigan and i worked in detroit so i can understand your situation completely! i was usually happy to make more than $100, VERY happy if i made $200, but i still had to pay that damn $50 tipout. once in a while i'd make $400 but the next day i could make $60. but if you think about it, what are you making on average? if you are averaging $100 a day, that is still more money than you could probably make at any other job. that is about what my boyfriend makes, a little less, but he has to work with machinery and bust his ass physically. all we have to do is sit around and look pretty when it's slow, and still leave with $100 by the end of the night. so i know that $100 seems REALLY BAD for a stripper, i agree that we all should be making at least $500 a night, but it's still a living that you could support yourself on. that is what i tell myself on bad nights, and i try to celebrate the once-in-blue-moon good nights by putting it in the bank and watching my balance grow, which equals more financial security for me. i know its a slow time and these girls just keep getting dirtier and dirtier, but like glamazon said above - it will get better. you just have to take all of your discouragement and make it into movitation to be the best girl in the club!! and fuck those stupid extras girls.
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    Siena-b -
    I'm working @ a cafe during the day making smoothies for an hourly wage. Why? Because I REFUSE to proposition myself. Girl, it gets sooo tempting. Last month was so depressing for me. I can't afford to eat my desired organic foods (stuck w/ t.v dinners- -ahhh!), I'm living paycheck to paycheck, all I do is work and sleep. I sit and stare @ the wall, like when is this going to end? Then you see some girl making money and you're like "what is she doing,what does she have that I don't?" The word of the day - Suffering. What good comes from suffering? When you don't have something, you learn to appreciate it. My cell phone was cut off. I almost got evicted last month. Yet somehow, I'm grinning and bearing. The economy is so shitty, I'm lucky to have a place to call home. Honey, IT WILL GET BETTER. Theres a song I love and there a line that goes "Sometimes to see the sunshine you gotta get a little rain". Or a lot in our case. Don't let them break you down. They may be making money, but they are compromising themselves. Stay strong. You should try private party dancing, bachelor party season is right around the corner (end of march/ early april). Outsourse yourself where there is money. Try www.partypop.com to find some agencies in a city thats close to you. Some even pay for travel (well, the client does). That way, you're not on your feet for hours sniffing for dances, they pay you just for showing up. I talk too much, lol.
    I just see a lot of what I'm enduring in you, and I want to let you know that you are not alone. Take this time to reflect. I know its easier said then done, just remember to keep your head up Sis. A change is gonna come!!!

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    ^^You are so right! I'm sure some people are okay with being a hooker, but for me it just isn't an option. And if you promote yourself correctly in the private party business, no one will ask you to be a hooker, either. (I use fancy costumes and feature type of themes. I would love to have a big fake cake for jumping out of).

    No amount of money can persuade me to do some things. Money is not the be all- end all. Peace of mind is definitely worth something.


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    Quote Originally Posted by siena_b View Post
    OK, maybe its just because i've had too much caffeine and i'm sitting here broke and there's a major blizzard happening outside my door but i'm having a little panic attack. I keep telling myself that its just slow right now and it'll get better. What if it doesn't? I feel kind of trapped right now because where I live there is only one club for many miles and right now i'm lucky to walk out with $100 on a good night. Its been snowing so bad that i have had to cancel bookings in better clubs but even in my fave club i'm only looking at about $1000 a week lately. Pretty much everyone is doing bad excpet for the girls who "date" and there seems to be a lot of them lately. I would stop dancing for a while but the only other jobs in this town is a factory job and i'm sorry but there is no way i could do that and not want to cry every morning i got up. I guess i'm just looking for some support and hugs because right now i feel like it might never get better here, like i am going to always do crappy because of the advent of the extras girl.
    Aww. I'm right there with you girl. I have been feeling the same stress lately...there are WAY too many clubs where I live and the market is saturated. The weather has been bad and keeping people away...what I hate the most about times like these is that girls seem to get dirtier and dirtier when we go through seasons like this and it is frustrating.

    The money has been very up and down with me too...but you have to remember that in this business it is very up and down...you never know what you are going to make and sometimes those bad times last a few weeks. Just remember it will become decent again..

    My advice to you is ...find your nitch market...do you do well with older guys? Try to work more weekdays...Do you do well more with crowds? Go for the weekend then...

    I would try to do at least three nights a week of work preferably in the first half of the week..that consistancy of going to work makes a difference..even if it is 100 that adds up...that way if you have a bad night you can pick up an extra day later on in the week. But I wouldn't do more than four nights ever! You can't burn yourself out in this job or you will be useless...you need to have time to yourself..that is improtant to be a great entertainer for other people. Take the time to invest in your health and well being so you will feel better about being there...such as going to the gym to feel good about taking your clothes off and releasing that mental stress of the job, finding outfits/make up looks that you feel confident in, get proper rest, eat a healthy diet that balances your emotions and makes you feel heathy and nourished...and if you are having problems with anxiety about your job...wean yourself off of caffeine...I've found it just makes it worse.

    Secondly...keep your head up and have positve thinking about it...be consistant with your work days..don't be frivilous with your money...and just remember better times are a head. Just remember it only takes one guy to make your night..if your not there you won't be able to meet him and make money!

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    Ok, you guys totally just made me cry. I love the wonderful supportive women of Stripperweb!!!!! I tried talking to a girl at work about how I felt and she said " just do some 'dates' on the side and your boyfriend doesn't have to know." I was like, you have so missed my point. I will look into the private party thing, although I'm not sure how great that business is in South Dakota. Paris, noctina, glamazon, and carmen: I don't know what I would do without sane strippers.

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    i forgot to say that because I live in Hell, we don't get to pick the days we work in clubs up here. We do week long bookings, so thats 6 days a week, from 4pm to 2am. Trust me, if I could only work 3 or 4 days a week I probably would not be so burnt out. Half the problem is that 3 days into my booking i'm so fed up that i get a bad attitude and CAN'T make money because i have a bad attitude, which, in turn, gives me more of a bad attitude. I've tried taking more time off in between bookings but really I need time off during the booking. After 3 days of redneck a-holes I just want a day off but I can't do it. Anyhoo, it actually just felt good to know that i'm not alone in feeling this way.

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    Hey, since you're in South D., check out this website, they were advertising here in the job section, I think they even provide lodging:

    The Northern Gentlemens's Club in Fargo, ND is now under new ownership. Lots of changes, including 4 new V.I.P. rooms, and no club fees! We also will provide you a clean and safe place to stay while in town for work. For bookings call Carly at 701-367-1134, or email [email protected]. You can check out our website at www.clubnorthern.com for more info.

    I just copied and pasted it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by siena_b View Post
    Lilac:
    We're here for ya girl. There are alot of cool, smart, strong women here and sometimes you just have to reach out for support. That is why I am so glad this place exists. Good karma goes around...just keep your dignity and self respect about you and do what YOU feel good about not what someone eles would be ok with. The money will balance out again..you have to work hard but hey it feels good to know that even though you are busting your ass you are making it on YOUR terms and doing what will make you feel good about yourself.

    Oh btw I saw in another thread that you danced for Morris Day! That is so cool!! I am a huge Prince fan so I always loved morris!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by siena_b View Post
    i forgot to say that because I live in Hell, we don't get to pick the days we work in clubs up here.
    Dude, I know it blows...in September and October I was making awful bullshit. And that time of year we always say, season is almost here. But you work your ass off chasing money. And now we are in season, and I forgot what it is like to be hurting. Thank G-d.

    Hang in there...it will get better for sure

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    I was just about to post a thread exactly like this. It makes me feel better that they are other dancers doing bad EVERYWHERE. I'm in Wisconsin and I think that has got to be the worst place to be right now. Have you guys seen the weather?! Snow, snow, snow, freezing rain, more snow!!! When will it stop?? Last nite I walked out with $0! The guys that actually have been coming out are not spending their money and the guys that do, they're spending it on the girls that are willing to go alot farther than I am. So, damn, I feel you 110% girl

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    summer stinks here, it's all about december.

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    This will be backwards, but just think....I work in Manhattan and last night someone asked me if I'd give him a bj and I said, are you crazy? He proceeded to tell me that last time he was here a girl did it for $150. And he was not pulling my leg, I spent enough time chatting with him to know that. That is the most bullshit $$ for xtras I ever heard, so if that's the going rate in Manhattan, count yr lucky stars...doesn't sound to me like they are making too much xtra money...

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    Quote Originally Posted by siena_b View Post
    i forgot to say that because I live in Hell, we don't get to pick the days we work in clubs up here. We do week long bookings, so thats 6 days a week, from 4pm to 2am. Trust me, if I could only work 3 or 4 days a week I probably would not be so burnt out. Half the problem is that 3 days into my booking i'm so fed up that i get a bad attitude and CAN'T make money because i have a bad attitude, which, in turn, gives me more of a bad attitude. I've tried taking more time off in between bookings but really I need time off during the booking. After 3 days of redneck a-holes I just want a day off but I can't do it. Anyhoo, it actually just felt good to know that i'm not alone in feeling this way.
    Yes, burn out is not fun. Have you tried Scarlett O'Hara's in Sioux Falls? I really loved it there when I visited. Very clean and an decent base pay for travelers (I think it is $400 for the week?).

    Another way I would deal with the booking schedule burnout was I would do what I called my day-off-at-work. I would go in and do the barest minimum as far as stage sets. I wouldn't hustle at all, I'd just do dances if the customers asked. Then I would spend the rest of the shift reading or doing my nails or talking on the phone or... you get the idea. I wouldn't pressure myself to make any money while still keeping m booking obligations. It kept me sane when working those crazy booking weeks. 60 hour work weeks as a stripper is brutal. I feel your pain, Lady, I really do.

    Are you over by Rapid City? I worked there a few times and that place is riddled with extras. This time of year the only business is from the locals and the base.

    You might also consider going over to Billings MT. It can be dirty there too, but the clean girls can still make money.


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    I'm actually in the eastern part. Oh kaia, you know exactly where i'm coming from! As soon as the weather clears up it will be easier for me to go to all the better places where I make money. Sometimes it feels like this winter will never end! That was a good idea Paris, about taking a "day off" at work. With how slow it's been though i kinda feel like i'm doing that unintentionally!

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