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    Default Guys: Do you like being touched?

    Its weird to touch customers sometimes because I'm not always sure they want to be touched. If you are not attracted to a dancer will you still let her touch you (regarless of whether or not you want a dance)?

    When I say "touch' I mean thigh stroking, shoulder rubbing or massaging the back of your head during a conversation.

    I have a very large, "no fly" zone when it comes to strangers touching me (but i deal with it at work and understand that its necessary to invade both mine and my customer's personal space) and wonder if when men walk into a club do they expect thier personal space to be invaded?

    Do you invite the touch of any woman in the club?
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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    I dont demand it as in "If we are talking at the table in preparation for dances I expect you to feel me up" but in general I think some casual physical contact during the dance foreplay is nice. Kind of an ice breaker. Up to the dancer to pick what seems appropriate for the cirucumstances.

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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    I like it, unless I have already made clear that I am not interested.
    You might take your cue from the customer's body language. If you are sitting close and he is engaging with you and not backing off, my bet is he won't mind.

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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    I can't imagine anyone not enjoying the touches of a beautiful woman. Are these guys MAD??? I know that we all have our "personal space", but jeez!!! It IS a stripclub, afterall!!!

    Please ladies......keep that contact comin'!!!

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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    As long as you follow the same rules for touching me that I have to follow for touching you, I think it could be fun.

    I'd consider your custie's possible sensitivities when touching. For instance, I doubt if fat guys want their bellies rubbed, and kissing a bald guy on the top of his head is something you do to grandpa at the rest home, not a potential customer in the SC.

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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    I dont mind, touch me all you want..lol

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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    Quote Originally Posted by AkashaM View Post
    1. If you are not attracted to a dancer will you still let her touch you (regarless of whether or not you want a dance)?

    2. Do you invite the touch of any woman in the club?
    1. If I'm not attracted to her, I still have fun, typically if I'm aware of the incoming touch, I'll make a sound effect, like a "SCREEECH" or once I acted like I heard a light saber get lit and acted all like I was protecting.

    I mean it got a LOT of laughs... but typically I don't mind.

    2. I mail the invitations before I get there

    Over all, I don't mind.
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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    If I have an existing relationship with you, if we make eye contact suggesting a connection, fine. If, like casaubon, I've not accepted your advances and there's still contact, I don't particularly like it.

    Also, be careful of any extra scents you may carry with you. (Huh? I hear you ask.) Some guys, including me, need to keep any visit to the club very discrete. If you reek of perfume or lots of lotion and start touching without my invitation, I'm likely to escape as quickly as I can. Nothing personal. I may even like the smell! But someone else might not like it quite so much.

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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    I must be a freak of nature. None of the kind of touching you listed for me.

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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bob_Loblaw View Post
    I must be a freak of nature. None of the kind of touching you listed for me.
    I dont know what you mean exactly but I am simply talking about casual, flirty, non-threatening touching during a conversation.

    If Im talking to you and I touch your hand, or put my hand your knee or stroke the inside your arm.

    I dont mean just grabbing a guy's dick and pinching his nipples while demanding payment, lol.
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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    ^^^ No, that's not what I was talking about either. I've had girls chat me up and rub my back, put their hand in my inner thigh, or just invade "my" personal space in general. Flirty stuff like touching my hand/arm/knee is fine but just don't leave your hand there. "Thigh stroking, shoulder rubbing or massaging the back of [my] head" from a stranger just makes me feel uncomfortable and very likely to say no to a dance. Whether I find the dancer attractive or not would not make a difference.

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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    Quote Originally Posted by AkashaM View Post
    Its weird to touch customers sometimes because I'm not always sure they want to be touched. If you are not attracted to a dancer will you still let her touch you (regarless of whether or not you want a dance)?
    My faves just slide into my lap without asking. They don't have to ask. But I wouldn't be comfortable with just any gal doing that.

    We had a case about a year or so ago at my workplace where a female employee made harassment charges against a male supervisor. What was he doing inappropriate? He has put his hand on her shoulder, a gesture which he did to most anybody, male or female. He intended no harm, but that fact is that were all conditioned differently and react to such gestures differently, so I can see the female employee's point.

    So what is safe? Call me weird, but even in the sexualized atmosphere of a SC, there's nothing wrong with an old platonic handshake to introduce yourself. You can read the customer's body language from that and go from there.

    One thing that does get me in a snit is dancers that approach me from behind. Not that I have a sore spot back there or anything, but my eyes aren't pointed that direction, so a rub of the shoulder from that angle can be more startling than comforting.
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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    The other night I was dancing for a guy, and I ran my nails lightly along the back of his neck and he grabbed my wrist and pulled my hand away - I felt really really bad that I invaded his personal space. I don't allow costomers to touch me - so I've done the same thing and it kind of made me wonder if that makes the guys feel just as sorry/guilty...but probably not.
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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    Quote Originally Posted by AkashaM View Post
    Do you invite the touch of any woman in the club?
    Love touching. But some dancers seems to think that since they've "touched" me, I'm obligated to get a dance or two. If a dancer comes up to me uninvited and caresses me for a few minutes, I'm don't feel I'm obligated to buy anything.

    However, It would be a different story if I would let her go on for an extended period without letting her know I wasn't interested in a dance.
    Last edited by Santos; 03-05-2007 at 03:11 PM.

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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    Okay, I'm not a guy so feel free to disregard the following:

    I think in general men are more comfortable with the touch of a woman uninvited than a woman is from a man uninvited. Why?

    Because most women have had the experience of being overpowered by a man at some point in their lives and the experience was unpleasant, and the woman felt helpless against the superior strength of that man. Even if it was a big brother holding her down and tickled her until she cried, it is still traumatic, and women have a hard time welcoming an uninvited touch from a man.

    Men, on the other hand, rarely see women as a physical threat. So even if the uninvited touch is not welcome, it is rarely a source of fear. It is merely an annoyance to men.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    Okay, I'm not a guy so feel free to disregard the following:

    I think in general men are more comfortable with the touch of a woman uninvited than a woman is from a man uninvited. Why?

    Because most women have had the experience of being overpowered by a man at some point in their lives and the experience was unpleasant, and the woman felt helpless against the superior strength of that man. Even if it was a big brother holding her down and tickled her until she cried, it is still traumatic, and women have a hard time welcoming an uninvited touch from a man.

    Men, on the other hand, rarely see women as a physical threat. So even if the uninvited touch is not welcome, it is rarely a source of fear. It is merely an annoyance to men.

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    You're doing very well, I think this is extremely accurate. However, don't underestimate the % of men who don't like uninvited touching, either -- probably higher than you might think.

    As for me, I have a bald head that gets rubbed a lot, esp at stage, and I don't mind that at all. I like it, in fact. But I hate for my chest to get rubbed or (there was another thread on this) for my nipples to get touched. Hate it hate it hate it. Love to get my thigh stroked. So it just depends on the area of the body, I guess. Except for rubbing the bald head, unknown dancers probably shouldn't just start touching until they know where to touch.

    Kind of the flip side question, I think it is interesting how different dancers react differently to the bald head. Some never mention a thing, it's like it doesn't exist. Others get flirty and rub it, "ooooh I LOVE a bald head." I like that better.

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    Leave MY bald head alone. Since I can't see myself except in a mirror, I don't ever remember that I don't have hair any more unless someone reminds me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AkashaM View Post
    Its weird to touch customers sometimes because I'm not always sure they want to be touched. If you are not attracted to a dancer will you still let her touch you (regarless of whether or not you want a dance)?

    When I say "touch' I mean thigh stroking, shoulder rubbing or massaging the back of your head during a conversation.
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    Do you invite the touch of any woman in the club?
    It depends on my mood. If I'm in a SC, I'm usually in a mood where I don't mind being touched

    I don't mind (and usually enjoy) contact as part of a conversation - rub your leg against mine, pat my leg, rub my hand, whatever. Whether I want a dance from you at that point in time or not, I won't freak out as long as we've made eye contact first.

    I don't like being surprised from behind, so I usually sit or stand so that it's difficult to sneak up on me. In a SC, however, I tend to get distracted/mesmerized easily, so make sure I see you before you tap me on the shoulder or pinch my ass

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    I welcome it unless I'm completeley unattracted to you (ie you rate a 5 or less on my cuteness scale). If you ask if I want company and I say yes, its a safe bet I'll let you touch me, in fact I prefer when a girl goes for the lap instead of another chair after asking. I hate when a girl sits down uninvited though, especially if I'm actively avoiding looking at her...

    Flirtatious touching is the best way for a 7 or 8 to sell me on a dance though

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    Of course we love to be touched. I can't think of any reason why we wouldn't. Humans by nature crave attention. Guys in particular.

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    I don't know about "any girl in the club". That can be annoying if you don't think that girl is your cup of tea. I'd expect the "touching" to occur after I showed some interest.

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    Don't mind being touched at all....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    Okay, I'm not a guy so feel free to disregard the following:

    I think in general men are more comfortable with the touch of a woman uninvited than a woman is from a man uninvited. Why?

    Because most women have had the experience of being overpowered by a man at some point in their lives and the experience was unpleasant, and the woman felt helpless against the superior strength of that man. Even if it was a big brother holding her down and tickled her until she cried, it is still traumatic, and women have a hard time welcoming an uninvited touch from a man.

    Men, on the other hand, rarely see women as a physical threat. So even if the uninvited touch is not welcome, it is rarely a source of fear. It is merely an annoyance to men.

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    Very true. Which is also why dancers, while they may hate "rude" behavior from female customers, are still more likely to feel more "threatened" when it comes from male customers.

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    Eh...I'd prefer some warning first, but I'm fairly available in a tactile capacity.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer View Post
    Eh...I'd prefer some warning first, but I'm fairly available in a tactile capacity.

    Truth.

    I expect it when I go to a SC.

    Howver, when I dont want to be touched, I just don't shower for 4 days prior to going.


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