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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    Okay, I'm not a guy so feel free to disregard the following:

    I think in general men are more comfortable with the touch of a woman uninvited than a woman is from a man uninvited. Why?

    Because most women have had the experience of being overpowered by a man at some point in their lives and the experience was unpleasant, and the woman felt helpless against the superior strength of that man. Even if it was a big brother holding her down and tickled her until she cried, it is still traumatic, and women have a hard time welcoming an uninvited touch from a man.

    Men, on the other hand, rarely see women as a physical threat. So even if the uninvited touch is not welcome, it is rarely a source of fear. It is merely an annoyance to men.

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    I'm not a guy, but I think it's usually pretty easy to tell when touching is and isn't appropriate. If a customer seems particularly shy or stiff, lots of touching out of the blue probably isn't a good idea. You can lead up to it with eye contact, leaning forward, "accidental" brushing, THEN land a hand on the knee. I try to keep the touching confined to relatively neutral areas, for a while at least. Arms, shoulders, and knees are usually OK. Most people (including me) don't like to be touched anywhere above the neck by someone they don't know.

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    I think it all depends on how it's done. If I meet the girl for the first time and she sits on my lap like she knows me, it bothers me. I don't mind if I'm with friends and theres nowhere else to sit, but if there's a chair next to me sit in it and introduce yourself. I'm an equal opportunity type of person so if you don't want me touching you please show the same to me. It's also awkward when your talking and out of nowhere she just puts her hand on your thigh. I mean read the situation properly and there shouldn't be a problem. Overall I don't mind.

    The one thing I do mind is getting my attention by touching me (like before you introduce yourself or anything.) . Of all the things you can do to loose my interest this is the one thing that regardless of the situation will kill any hope of you getting me to buy a drink/dance/tip. I have very strong reflexes and doing this will make me jump, put me on defense and whoever put me in the situation in a negative light.
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    I think Grace has it pretty accurate. Nothing above the neck. Unless they have nipples instead of fingers.


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    Love it when they touch me - almost always I will buy more dances from her too.
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    For me, it's like... I can't touch the dancer, but the dancer is allowed touch me. So why would I nuke the tactile sensation altogether? So yeah, I'm all for it! \o/

    Even if I find her unattractive, I'll at least indulge her and give her $$ for effort. But I'll prolly be vigilant and politely decline the second-go-around.


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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish View Post
    One thing that does get me in a snit is dancers that approach me from behind. Not that I have a sore spot back there or anything, but my eyes aren't pointed that direction, so a rub of the shoulder from that angle can be more startling than comforting.
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    For you, an exception can be made!

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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    I generally don't mind casual friendly touching. Maybe it is the kind of thing that would normally be a personal space invasion, but not when a dancer is approaching me.

    The only problem I have is when I don't want a dance, and she gets too touchy feely. Like sitting on my lap or something. It is already a little awkward when I have to say I'm not interested. It is even worse when she is got her hands on my thigh or sitting on my lap.

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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    Depends on where I am touched. I'm respectful and so should she be.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    I'm a pretty affectionate person with most anyone. I have no problem with a hug or a little touching in conversation. Regardless, if I am interested or not.

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    An addendum to this thread.

    Last night I hit a club I haven't been to in almost a year, mostly because the quality of dancers has hit the skids (and yet they've upped the dance prices by 30&#37 and charge $11 for a GG and T. First girl that approaches me--another completely unqualified candidate--decided to get touchy feely by going straight for my crotch. Even if she were staggeringly attractive, this is just not a good first move. Rejected her and moved on.

    I know I'm not the most subtle individual myself, but was there no other way for her to sell herself to me than by grabbing on to the package?
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    Touch me. Love it. Just don't go for the crotch grab until we've had a proper introduction. You can kiss & rub my bald head, rub my belly, touch my chest & nipplesm, rub my neck and shoulders.....no problemo. I enjoy affectionate attention and I would be flattered.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    Okay, I'm not a guy so feel free to disregard the following:

    I think in general men are more comfortable with the touch of a woman uninvited than a woman is from a man uninvited. Why?

    Because most women have had the experience of being overpowered by a man at some point in their lives and the experience was unpleasant, and the woman felt helpless against the superior strength of that man. Even if it was a big brother holding her down and tickled her until she cried, it is still traumatic, and women have a hard time welcoming an uninvited touch from a man.

    Men, on the other hand, rarely see women as a physical threat. So even if the uninvited touch is not welcome, it is rarely a source of fear. It is merely an annoyance to men.

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    my personal opinion? touch me all you want, especially if you want to get a little hurtful about it i will appreciate it.

    i'm going to be honest, i had my first SC experience last night, it was amazing, especially since during one lap dance, the dancer honoured my request for her to pull my hair... that was awesome.

    i guess it depends on who it is though, but personally i don't care.

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    I suppose, as long as its hot.

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    I love it--when it's just something friendly and not too aggressive. I strongly dislike nipple pinching (and yet nearly every dancer in Oklahoma seems to do it!), but I *love* fingernails on the back shoulders or hair.

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    Personally, I don't mind it. I just see it as all part of your show. If someone were uncomfortable with my lyrics, that doesn't mean I'd change it, I'd just not sing that line directly to em.
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    I like almost any kind of contact that she is comfortable with except when my hair gets totally messed over at the tip rail. I'm not talking about about gentle finger caresses but scrambling pulling on it so you look stupid walking back to the bar. One other thing that has happened several times is don't pull my shirt up. I always have a good time and never get mad when it happens but it still sucks being touched like that..

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    Quote Originally Posted by CheetahTim View Post
    Of course we love to be touched. I can't think of any reason why we wouldn't. Humans by nature crave attention. Guys in particular.
    Couldn't have said it any better. If we are in a Strip club we want to be touched.

    If you sit next to me and I give you 1 word answers or look distracted -- it means that I am bored with you. Don't try to touch me to get me excited so you can sucker me out of some dance money --- it doesn't work.

    If you are dancing for me, i want to be touched. Its part of the service. If you don't touch me, I'll never give you another chance to touch me again.

    When I say YES to you --- its a green light --- anything goes. Be nice and I'll be 10X nicer.

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    Default Re: Guys: Do you like being touched?

    Ummm...'kay.

    There have been maybe two dancers in my 10-year history of going to strip clubs whom I would not want to touch me.

    I understand, however, that it can be troubling to some of the customers out there to have their personal space violated. So I offer, free of charge, my services to be a stand-in dancer-molested-guy. Simply bring me to the club with you, and any and all dancer contact can be passed on to me. Please...offer me no thank you's or tears for my sacrifice; I'm still young and somehow, someway, I'll survive this hellish torment.
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    I think any kind of passing, flirty touching is fine. That's actually a good way to break the ice, maybe just a pinch on the ass and a wink as you walk by. Or even brushing up closely and a smile. Also, once you become engaged in coversation or show an interest in a dancer, then casual touching is perfectly fine and welcome by me. BUT (here's the big but), anything more than a passing touch that is forced would make me uncomfortable.

    Let me explain.

    This is ok: You walk by and give me a touch, wink and are ready to move on. If I say hi or initiate conversation than it's all good.

    This is also ok: We're already talking and you intiate a casual touch. That's very acceptable because we're already connected.

    This is bad:
    You walk up to me and begin giving me a massage. We've had no conversations or hellos or anything, no eye contact, you just use the touch as an opportunity to get next to me. I don't like that.

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    DON'T TOUCH MY HEAD.

    Its one of those things that when people do, they make you feel powerless and de masculated, and my knee jerk reaction is to distance my self from the person doing it (sometimes in a wary "I-will-make-you-cry" manner).

    sholder, neck, arms....all fine.....BUT NOT MY HEAD.

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    ^^^ I think alot of people dont like the top of thier head to be touched. In thailand (i think) culture its considered evil because thats where there spirits are.
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    being touched doesn't bother me at all...it's something nice and unexpected.

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