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    Default I need to stop drinking at work.

    I'm slowly and surely becoming a total lush.

    The club I work at is such a party club, drinking with customers is just part of the game. It's the one thing that gets my hustle going, and the one thing that ruins it! I need a drink or two to get into the groove to hustle, but then three or four drinks later I'm basically useless, sitting and waiting in the locker room for a friend to finish working and drive me home, or wasting time sitting with a regular who has already spent all their cash. It slows me down, makes me act like an idiot, and hurts my money - but I don't remember this when I'm buzzed!

    The biggest problems are
    #1: I don't know how to politely turn down a drink.
    #2: We have constant waitress turnover, so it's not like I can have one waitress who knows to bring me virgin shots and drinks. They all forget or I never find an opportunity to fill them in. Once I asked a new girl for a Pink Pussy (fruit juice) and she's like "YOU KNOW IT'S VIRGIN, RIGHT?!" in front of a customer who thought I was drinking with him.
    #3: I like drinking! But when I'm buzzed, I'm so happy that I don't care about making money.

    I'm only 24! But I'm a paid drunk! I do ALL sorts of stupid things when I'm buzzed, like last night I KISSED one of my regulars a few times in our VIP room during some dances! OMG! I feel so dirty! I mean, he's a nice, cute, single, young guy with an interesting career who throws money at me and if I hadn't have met him at work I'd probably be really attracted to him, but he's a CUSTOMER. That's crossing the line and I know it. I really hope no one saw. This isn't the first time I've kissed an attractive customer while intoxicated. I know it's wrong, but I still do it every once in a while.

    Has anyone else had this problem with drinking?

    Suggestions for working totally sober? Overcoming nervousness and prudishness without alcohol?

    I miss when I first started out and I couldn't drink because I was under 21. I don't know how I did it!

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    Default Re: I need to stop drinking at work.

    It is kind of like the baker going on the Atkins diet...yeah it is possible, but it is damn fucking hard.

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    Default Re: I need to stop drinking at work.

    If a custy wants to buy me a drink that I don't need (because I don't get money from it and I've already had a couple), I just request water or tell them that I'm in a very happy place at the moment and there's no need to mess with it.

    I will generally have three or four drinks over my six hour shift (no more than one at a time for a light buzz!)... But, depending on the day, the booze will hit me harder or lighter. So, I'm always paying attention to my state. I've really cut down these past few months when I discovered the wonderful buzz I get from sugar-free rockstars! I'll have TWO of those per shift!
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    OMG! I feel the same way. I can't go onstage without having at least one drink first. It's almost like I'm drunk when I don't have a drink before I go up there. My knees are shaky and I dance like shit. However when I'm buzzed I dance magnificently. How ironic. And it seems that I do a whole hell of alot better when I've had a few drinks. Liquid courage maybe??? But I feel ya!

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    I don't drink at work at all. The only reason I will is if I'm really pissed off or if a customer says he promises he will spend $$$$$ if i do and if I don't he won't talk to me anymore (it happens!). Then I order a lemon drop shot, ha.

    What I do is:
    if the customer says would i like a drink, I say yes! and then order a bottle of water when the waitress comes.
    if they don't go for that, I just explain "i don't drink on school nights" if appropriate, or if its a weekend then "whoowee I'm already drunk, lets 'hang out' for a little while first, kay?"

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    Default Re: I need to stop drinking at work.

    I have a similiar problem...lately I can't seem to talk to the customers without having a few drinks first. I also danced sober before I was 21 and now I don't remember how I did it either. I know that dancerwealth and other say drinking hurts your money, but I really do make more when I am drinking, because when I am sober I feel too nervous to talk to the customers. Ugh.

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    Bella21 I drink energy drinks as substitutes as well. "V" you can get a similar feeling from tossing back energy drinks. It will make you hyped as hell (which equals more moola) and giddy. You may also want to try drinking a glass of wine before work just to get in the moment. I don't like to drink at work, but I do like to toss back a beer at home while getting dressed, I'll blast my music and make sure the bass is thumping so I can re-create the atmosphere at home. I found it easier to transition this way, opposed to jumping from the silence of my home to a party atmosphere club.

    The battle is ALL in your mind. You may feel nervous when you work sober because you believe in that liquid courage. You need to reprogram your frame of mind, trust me, I understand, but booze is only a security blanket. Sip on some wine at home before you head to work, make sure your routine for getting ready for work is amped! My boyfriend has told me that when I get ready for work he often doubt's that I'm actually going to work. Treat your routine exactly the same way you would if you were going out with your girls. You will find so much strength in yourself once you go back to working sober. It is a truly empowering feeling. And what I love to point out the most..... Staying sober will ensure that life won't breeze past you. You will be able to sit back and recall your hottest lapdances and share your exotic memories with the geezers sitting beside you in their rocking chairs struggling to recall how their upper thigh looked when they were young. Don't allow alcohol to suppress these moments. The idea that so much of my life was supressed because of alcohol made me slow down a ton! Keep your memories safe, Katrina showed us that one day they may be all you have.
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    ^^^ Wise words... Good advice on having some wine or cocktails before getting in the club and staying firm with a personal "no drinking at work" policy. I need to do this too!




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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    . Once I asked a new girl for a Pink Pussy (fruit juice) and she's like "YOU KNOW IT'S VIRGIN, RIGHT?!" in front of a customer who thought I was drinking with him.
    Ooooh, that shit would have gotten me soooo steamed. Ms. waitress would have received a stern lecture. If she didn't take her licks, she would be assured never to get any business from me. No mercy with waitresses, lol!

    Although I'm not the best example of a sober stripper, I would just pace myself. As soon as I got out onto the floor, I would psych myself up to get in as many dances as possible, and work as many guys as I could. The goal was 2 hours without a drink.

    If that didn't work, and custy insisted, I found that they were usually happy if I ordered Red Bull. Or just take small sips. It is GREAT to find one long-time waitress to have in your pocket and work together. Every club has at least a couple.

    In VIP, its pretty easy to throw unfinished champagne back into the ice bucket that its held in when custy isn't looking. Don't throw it onto the floor, other people will be there later and have to smell stale champy.

    If they insist on you being drunk, its because they want extras, and are going to be a huge pain. If you're willing to put up with it, just tell them you are already hammered.

    Order weak shots. Someone mentioned a lemon drop. That worked for me, as it has too little vodka for my russian ass to even notice.

    I don't recommend drinking at all before work. First of all, alcohol is a depressant. By the time you get to the "office", the effects will be in your bloodstream, and may cause you to lose motivation and get sleepy.

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    I don't advise faking drinks. For polite ways to turn it down -
    -You can buy me a water - I have to drive home.
    -You can buy me a coke; or else I'll fall off the stage later.
    -(my favourite) Thanks... but I like to get home unmolested by my cab driver.
    -Oh, no thanks - I'm here till two.
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    I will say yes when they ask and order a redbull or water instead. Sometimes when a customer is insistent and I really don't want to drink, I'll order a vodka shot and water. Then I take the shot, hold it in my mouth and pretend to chase it with water, but I spit the vodka into the water bottle instead.

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    To battle nervousness, I do a stage set before I work the floor so I can make eye contact and scan the room. It makes the approach much easier for me after getting pumped up from my performance.

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    I'm havin a lil prob here too, or rather, potentially a proplem... I think I dance/work better after a glass of wine to relax, which I can deal with, but last time I worked I actually drank so much I had to quit on my VIP. I don't want that to happen again so I'll def be using these tips, thanks!

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    I used to drink too much at work too. I have a pretty good handle on limiting myself now. This is mostly due to the fact that I always have a glass of water in my hand. Drinking wtaer throughout the night helps keep me from getting too drunk and hydrates me. I know for myself, that one of the reasons I would drink so much is I just needed a drink in my hand to fiddle and hold something. It gets rid of my nervous energy. But now, instead of always ordering a drink, I order water. Of course, I still drink a few throughout the night, but trust me, the water helps a lot.

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    I would ALWAYS drink at work...and way too much. I've just worked my last 2 shifts sober, and I feel much better for it. I hope it lasts.
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    It is called sipping the drink VERY VERY slowly. I always also order vodka lime and soda because the ice will melt and the soda makes the drink very diluted in the end so I can't get too pissed on it unless I'm having more than one an hour.

    Plus I generally only have a few sips (very short quick sips thru the straw) when they have a swig of their beer or their own drink then take the drink with me...... and dump it..................I don't dump it if they have purchased a lap dance and continue to drink/sip it slowly after that time.

    It is only when the lap dane is over and/or they have no inclination to purchase one that I will take the drink with me and dump it somewhere (bar, down the sink in the toilet, etc).


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    I don't drink at work. Shit, I don't drink at all. Here's what I do...

    If a customer offers me a drink, usually I order a water or a diet coke. If they give me shit for it, I just joke around it and say "Oh I know, I am hitting the hard stuff tonight, Look out!" Or I tell them that I only drink at weddings. Or I tell them that I am a lot more fun when I am not drunk, because if I have one too many I turn into crazy drama queen, or I'll cry, etc. Or I'll tell them that I work there a lot and if I drank there every day then I'd turn into a mess. I'm pretty much known as The Girl Who Doesn't Drink, and I still do well at the club. And you know what? After the drinks are delivered, nobody really cares either way after all, because by then we've already launched into conversation about other things. It's all about being self-confident and relaxed, without the use of booze. Which leads to your next question about being confident and not nervous...

    Before I go to work, I work out. Then I go to work feeling relaxed, confident, and happy. I treat my job like a 6 hour long workout too. If you stay sober long enough then you just get used to dancing that way. I do not like drinking at work, because I am an alcoholic, and if I start it just won't stop and then I'll look like an out-of-control idiot onstage and around the club.

    Does alcoholism run in your family? It does in mine, that is another reason why I no longer booze.

    It's good that you are realizing that you need to regain control in your life and on the job. You could wind up putting yourself in danger. You've already crossed your boundaries, which is a wake-up call. I know from your other post that you take good care of yourself...why let it all go to shit because of booze?

    Try working a few shifts sober. Drink a lot of water instead. You'll grow used to it, yourr customers will grow used to it, and you will feel a lot better.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    I miss when I first started out and I couldn't drink because I was under 21. I don't know how I did it!

    that's how i feel! i just turned 21 in august, but i feel like i drink constantly at work. im not cutting it out cold turkey though, im weaning myself off of it. like right now, i'm telling myself i'll only drink when a guy buys a bottle of champagne and takes me to vip. later i'll ease myself out of that, but its easier to do it that way than totally cut it out (at least for me). plus, if i really want a drink, it's better motivation to sell champagne!

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    My favourite thing to do was order hot cocoa with whipped cream.. then make a play with the whipped cream.. don't forget to say, if they ask, "Don't worry, honey... you'll be so focused on me playing with my foam, that you'll forget I'm not drinking."


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    Just order your soda or water or whatnot. If they give you a hard time there are, like twenty threads on here with lists of excuses you can give them. though honestly, it is very, very rare that a customer asks me why I ordered a Diet Coke or bottle of water. Maybe because up here they have manners and realize that offering to buy a drink means just that and not a free pass to question our drug habits or lack thereof! As always, if a guy is a totally pushy asshole on the issue I straight up tell him I'm a recovering alcoholic. Sorry, but if you're pushing a stranger to drink you lose the right to the fluffy denials and I will be evil and make you feel guilty. pbbbt.

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    i hate when guys are pushy about alcohol. it's my personal preference that i don't drink alcohol much, at all. i explain that to a customer, and 9 times out of 10 they accept it. if they don't, i assume they are looking for a drunk girl to take home, and leave.

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    I feel your pain, I have cut down big time. I started driving to work, I am not tempted to drink at all when I drive.( I had a DUI) Last night I had 4 beers stopped at 8:00 and drank water all night. It worked, and I was happier the next morning. It is hard, for me its the envio I just want have a drink. For me driving instead of taking a cab has helped, and saves $$.

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    I need to stop drinking too. ASAP.

    I was absolutely hammered during the last weekday shift I had (I drank the usual amount, but instead of spanning it over the night I had it all in one go) and my manager wouldn't let me leave until I drank at least 3 bottles of water. I wasn't abusing custies or stumbling over or anything like that, but everyone could tell I was off my face. I think my manager hates me now after that incident.

    It's not my fault that the club was deserted and we only had like 5 patrons at any one time. Times like that, all you CAN do is get drunk!

    Plus, I can feel a beer belly quickly growing. It's disgusting!

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    I too, need to stop. I'll have great weeks where I won't drink much and then I'll get so mssed up I don't remember much.. Not cool.
    Soooo, I am thinking that since drinking for me is just something to do while talking a custy into a dance, I might just buy water and hold onto that.. and then if I do get wine I will just water it down a bit.
    Man, I hope that works.. I enjoy having a buzz at work, but I don't want to be known as the super drunk girl, heh.
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    My secrets for having a drink or two with the customers but staying sober since I'm a lightweight are:

    1) Always eat an hour or two before I come to work, something filling but won't make me feel bloated. Have animal crackers or chips or something in the dressing room that I can snack on during my shift if I start to feel like the alcohol.

    2) Ordering the fun but light on hard liquor shots like a blowjob. Guys love it when you order a blowjob and you can make this big production of it (which usually gets me $$ as well because guys will tip me to see me try and drink the blowjob "correctly"- no hands).

    3) If I have to drink a "real" drink (i.e., one that can be fairly strong like a tequila sunrise) I'll sip at it through a straw when I'm talking to a customer, then when I go up to dance I'll leave it at the rack or leave it somewhere else. I've also dumped my drinks into another glass before- the regulars love it when I do this because they get to be in on the joke while the guy buying has no idea.

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