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    hi ladies! i have not posted in several mo. i finally took the leap and audtioned last night. I was so scared! but i did it! im very proud of my self for that. On the flip side i was the only girl who auditioned that night. I felt very stiff on stage, and felt like i did the same move over and over. Much different then dancing infront of my mirror! when i was done, i was told they were looking for a girl with more experience.

    I am hispanic with a very exotic long black long hair, 5'9" 160 lbs well proportioned, no lumps or bumps just thick with a big booty ha ha. but i was clearly the biggest girl there. im not sure if this had any thing to do with their decision.

    im happy that i tried out because becoming a stripper has been something that i had been dreaming about. i learned that night stripping was not for me. for many reasons. it was more just the idea of being one. i give mad props to all you ladies who put up with that type of atmosphere, while remaining true to your self, and working your sexyness!

    my advise to newbie's
    -Don't drag on the process, once you feel your ready to try out do it!
    -working out will make you feel confident, but your really can't see the flaws in those lights
    - buy one out fit to audition! this is where i really went wrong. i spent almost 300 on clothes, shoes, make up, and tanning.

    i will be putting all of my things on ebay for any interested newbie, ill attach link when im done

    good luck and thanks to all the ladies of sw!

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    HA! Good post!
    I myself am not quite ready yet and sometimes do feel like I am dragging it out so this post really helped.

    I am sure some of my thoughts on stripping will be changed once I start - even if I only work for a week, at least I can chalk it up to expirience and remember it as going for something I wanted and achieving it - even if it wasn't for me.
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    I need cute clothes!

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    hey. dont give up?! why not exercise a bit and go back in a few weeks?

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    Glad to hear you went through with the audition! Definitely link to your ebay auctions when you get them set up, I'm looking for some audition stuff myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cheetahchick View Post
    hey. dont give up?! why not exercise a bit and go back in a few weeks?
    No kidding! Try another club too!

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    thanks for the input ladies, i feel more so that stripping is just not for me. i didn't mind the rejection so much because i am confident in the way i look. if they hired me i probably wouldn't of lasted. more of a fantasy type thing i was dealing with.

    here are my auctions






    hopefully that works

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    oops

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    Make sure you spellcheck your auctions! As a newbie seller, you need to look as polished as possible in your auctions.

    Also, I see you use a lot of pictures; that's great but can get expensive listing from eBay. If you ever list again after these auctions, try Auctiva; all picture uploads are free.

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    Girls. I really don't mean for this to be harsh. But seriously, if it takes you weeks or months just to get up the nerve to audition, you should NOT be a stripper. Period. This is not meant as a slam against anyone. It is a statement of how HARD this job is; it is simply not for everyone.

    I don't care who finally did it after months of thinking and planning, and is now a stripper. Simple fact that you finally did it does not mean you SHOULD be stripping. There are TONS of girls in this business who simply should NOT be. They are usually the ones who always feel abused and shitty after work, or simply hate the job - and often the ones who wind up strung out and fucked up six ways from sunday, because they couldn't handle it.

    Please girls. This is not the fantasy job yall want to think it is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette View Post
    Girls. I really don't mean for this to be harsh. But seriously, if it takes you weeks or months just to get up the nerve to audition, you should NOT be a stripper. Period. This is not meant as a slam against anyone. It is a statement of how HARD this job is; it is simply not for everyone.

    I don't care who finally did it after months of thinking and planning, and is now a stripper. Simple fact that you finally did it does not mean you SHOULD be stripping. There are TONS of girls in this business who simply should NOT be. They are usually the ones who always feel abused and shitty after work, or simply hate the job - and often the ones who wind up strung out and fucked up six ways from sunday, because they couldn't handle it.

    Please girls. This is not the fantasy job yall want to think it is.
    Eh, I think while this may be true for some people - you can't group every newb into this category. I've debated going, but right now I'm still trying to lose weight and stripping is something I'd have already done by now had I had the body for it and my living conditions were right. Now that I am aquiring that body through hard work and exercise, I am even more interested in it because now I actually have a chance at getting hired (being a lot more toned and thin). I slightly resent your post makes the assumption that people who plan and overthink things are weak - I'm definitely not over sensitive, and I'm definitely rough skinned enough to handle shit. I think being here for so long has kind of opened my eyes to things that could happen and how I need to handle them - making me more prepared.

    No job is a "fantasy" job, EVERY job has it's downfalls, every job is hard (maybe not every job, but the majority of jobs). Some are harder than others but I have never liked the traditional jobs kids paying their way through college should have - which is why I have looked into stripping, yes it's a job, but it's a little less "stand behind a desk, take someone's money and their order, get them on their way" boring. Even when it's dead - at least I still look cute and don't have to wear some retarded looking totally impossible to look cute in hat Even if I go home after a bad night, thinking about the jobs I've held in the past will make me feel lots better.

    Just because someone started stripping when they immediately wanted to doesn't make them more qualified for the job either - if you were 18, started stripping as soon as you turned, to me you're just doing things on impulse. At least some of us have sat there and thought about our situations and whether or not we could do that so we don't waste people's time (well, at least for me).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette View Post
    Girls. I really don't mean for this to be harsh. But seriously, if it takes you weeks or months just to get up the nerve to audition, you should NOT be a stripper. Period. This is not meant as a slam against anyone. It is a statement of how HARD this job is; it is simply not for everyone.

    I don't care who finally did it after months of thinking and planning, and is now a stripper. Simple fact that you finally did it does not mean you SHOULD be stripping. There are TONS of girls in this business who simply should NOT be. They are usually the ones who always feel abused and shitty after work, or simply hate the job - and often the ones who wind up strung out and fucked up six ways from sunday, because they couldn't handle it.

    Please girls. This is not the fantasy job yall want to think it is.
    What exactly makes stripping so different than other things that people want to work up to or try for? There are lots of things that are harsh, difficult, but something that people want to do, decide to do, and take some time before they jump in. People wait and plan before going to college if they didn't do it at the "normal" age, people plan and practice and try out for theater, dancing, singing, and just about anything you can think of that involves being on a stage. People get up courage to ask out their dream date, be a model, dance alone on an empty dancefloor at a club. Many people plan and decide what they're going to do before trying out and interviewing for any career that they decide to get into (as opposed to just taking that secretary/fast food/retail job because they have to have money and it takes no particular skills). So I do want to know; why do you think stripping is so different from those things?

    I would want some sort of poll with a good research method of strippers, how they enjoyed their job, whether they think it was the right choice, etc. correlated to whether they went right for it, worked out/worked up to it, waited a while, etc. before I'd be convinced of any sort of generality on this front. But I'm curious to know why you in particular think this is so cut and dry. Reading the "my first time dancing" thread, it seems like there's a huge variation amongst the posters as to how long they waited before trying, how nervous they were the first time, etc. Is there some quality you think all the waiters have other than having waited that means they "shouldn't" be stripping?

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    Waiting to audition because you're working on your body is one thing. Waiting to audition because you're trying to get up the nerve is another. Let's just get this out of the way - if you're waiting because you are seriously losing weight or otherwise improving your body, I'm not talking to you. Apples and oranges.


    But, I'll say it again: If it takes you weeks or months just to get up the nerve to audition, you should NOT be a stripper!!

    What makes this job so different??? Take all the really shitty negative things that go with normal jobs, and multiply it by about 1000. Abuse, harrassment, meanness, backstabbing, rejection, belittlement, degradation and more - all out there in your face all day long, day in and day out. This is a TOUGH job. If you haven't done it, of course you want to think it's just like any other. BUT, if you haven't done it, and you're still trying to get up the nerve - that right there is the best indicator of how different it is. Most people don't have to spend weeks or months just to get up the nerve to apply for a normal job - unless they have some abnormal anxiety issues or something.

    Why do you think we make the money we do?? It's mostly because of the simple fact it's a HARD job to deal with so there is a premium in price. The vast majority of women simply cannot handle it, so for the few who can, it HAS to be lucrative in order to make it worth it. It's not just because of the relation to sex - it's all the other shit that makes it a high-paying job. Any schmuck can get drunk, fling her clothes off and wiggle her ass in front of a cheering crowd (cheering merely because it's FRESH MEAT). But it takes a whooooooollle lot more to do it night after night, when the crowd is no longer cheering just because you're new, and you have to figure out how to MAKE them want you and want to pay you, AND deal with all the negativity and utter crap that will be constantly thrown at you from all sides.

    This isn't a "plan and decide" kind of job, sorry. It's a "get your ass in gear and make shit happen or get eaten by the sharks!" kind of job. If a girl isn't bold, brave, tough, crazy - whatever, enough to get her ass in gear and just AUDITION already, she doesn't have what it takes to survive and do well in this job. So many girls get eaten alive in this business, it's ridiculous. Mostly because they simply bit off more than they could chew. Spent weeks talking themselves into it only to find out it's aLOT harder than they could've imagined. OP found it out for herself, obviously, that was part of the point of her post.

    Furthermore, if you're still "waiting and planning" weeks or months later, that's just your own sugar-coated excuse for the REAL reason you haven't done it already: F-E-A-R. You can't be afraid if you want to be successful in this business. If you are that afraid, you'll be doing yourself a huge favor to realize it's not for you and move on.

    A bit of stagefright is one thing. We'd all be lying if we said we weren't nervous at first. But being nervous and going for it is FAR different from being so nervous you have to "wait and plan" for weeks or months.


    I knew my statement would be unpopular, and that's fine. Actually, in this context, if it WERE popular, it wouldn't be true Also grasshopper, you strike me as being very young. That's not a bad thing, but a common trait of young people is to disbelieve or discount what older, more experienced people say and plow ahead anyway, only to realize later that the older/experienced ones were right after all and usually regret not listening

    Finally, I am not saying this to slam anyone, as I said before. Not being tough or crazy enough for this business is NOT a bad thing. I mean this advice to be helpful. I would rather see girls move along and not risk the scarring than talk themselves into doing something that is so clearly not for them, and suffer the consequences later.



    >>Edit to add: I have done this job for going on 12 years, and I have done many other jobs in my 20+ years of holding jobs. While I like this one the best, it is also the HARDEST by far. But I like it in part BECAUSE it keeps me challenged. I LIKE challenge. I do not have to get up the nerve to do anything, which is why I do well in this business. I am not saying every stripper should be like me, but if you're gonna do this job, you should make sure you're closer to the side of "go for it!" than "I'm nervous and need to talk myself into it".

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    I agree with Bridgette. Exotic dancing is a Go Hard or Go Home type of job.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette View Post
    Waiting to audition because you're working on your body is one thing. Waiting to audition because you're trying to get up the nerve is another. Let's just get this out of the way - if you're waiting because you are seriously losing weight or otherwise improving your body, I'm not talking to you. Apples and oranges.


    But, I'll say it again: If it takes you weeks or months just to get up the nerve to audition, you should NOT be a stripper!!

    What makes this job so different??? Take all the really shitty negative things that go with normal jobs, and multiply it by about 1000. Abuse, harrassment, meanness, backstabbing, rejection, belittlement, degradation and more - all out there in your face all day long, day in and day out. This is a TOUGH job. If you haven't done it, of course you want to think it's just like any other. BUT, if you haven't done it, and you're still trying to get up the nerve - that right there is the best indicator of how different it is. Most people don't have to spend weeks or months just to get up the nerve to apply for a normal job - unless they have some abnormal anxiety issues or something.

    Why do you think we make the money we do?? It's mostly because of the simple fact it's a HARD job to deal with so there is a premium in price. The vast majority of women simply cannot handle it, so for the few who can, it HAS to be lucrative in order to make it worth it. It's not just because of the relation to sex - it's all the other shit that makes it a high-paying job. Any schmuck can get drunk, fling her clothes off and wiggle her ass in front of a cheering crowd (cheering merely because it's FRESH MEAT). But it takes a whooooooollle lot more to do it night after night, when the crowd is no longer cheering just because you're new, and you have to figure out how to MAKE them want you and want to pay you, AND deal with all the negativity and utter crap that will be constantly thrown at you from all sides.

    This isn't a "plan and decide" kind of job, sorry. It's a "get your ass in gear and make shit happen or get eaten by the sharks!" kind of job. If a girl isn't bold, brave, tough, crazy - whatever, enough to get her ass in gear and just AUDITION already, she doesn't have what it takes to survive and do well in this job. So many girls get eaten alive in this business, it's ridiculous. Mostly because they simply bit off more than they could chew. Spent weeks talking themselves into it only to find out it's aLOT harder than they could've imagined. OP found it out for herself, obviously, that was part of the point of her post.

    Furthermore, if you're still "waiting and planning" weeks or months later, that's just your own sugar-coated excuse for the REAL reason you haven't done it already: F-E-A-R. You can't be afraid if you want to be successful in this business. If you are that afraid, you'll be doing yourself a huge favor to realize it's not for you and move on.

    A bit of stagefright is one thing. We'd all be lying if we said we weren't nervous at first. But being nervous and going for it is FAR different from being so nervous you have to "wait and plan" for weeks or months.


    I knew my statement would be unpopular, and that's fine. Actually, in this context, if it WERE popular, it wouldn't be true Also grasshopper, you strike me as being very young. That's not a bad thing, but a common trait of young people is to disbelieve or discount what older, more experienced people say and plow ahead anyway, only to realize later that the older/experienced ones were right after all and usually regret not listening

    Finally, I am not saying this to slam anyone, as I said before. Not being tough or crazy enough for this business is NOT a bad thing. I mean this advice to be helpful. I would rather see girls move along and not risk the scarring than talk themselves into doing something that is so clearly not for them, and suffer the consequences later.



    >>Edit to add: I have done this job for going on 12 years, and I have done many other jobs in my 20+ years of holding jobs. While I like this one the best, it is also the HARDEST by far. But I like it in part BECAUSE it keeps me challenged. I LIKE challenge. I do not have to get up the nerve to do anything, which is why I do well in this business. I am not saying every stripper should be like me, but if you're gonna do this job, you should make sure you're closer to the side of "go for it!" than "I'm nervous and need to talk myself into it".
    I guess I can agree with you on one thing and that is if it does take you a long time to work up the nerve, it probably isn't the best thing. I'm jus' trying to work up my belly >.< lol

    During high school I did a lot of acting, and of course I was always nervous but I kept telling myself it was something I wanted, and I wouldn't DIE if I didn't get it, and No I didn't get picked for everything...but I think if you've had a taste of the spotlight it does make entertainer jobs a little easier because you're a little more used to direction, critique, catty bitches (Once, I got picked for two plays, some didn't get picked for any and people thought it was "unfair"...please), and rudeness. I'm a leo, what can I say, I do like attention.
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    I agree with Bridgette. If it takes months of workign up the nerve to audition, how the hell are you going to be able to walk up to complete strangers every night? If it takes months to work up the nerve to audition, how are you going to have the nerve to get up on stage every night? How are you going to be able to brush off the negativity that happens? How are you going to be able to take the rejection?

    Also...if your brand new and trying to audition, don't go out and buy a whole stripper wardrobe. Buy one cheap outfit that flatters you, one pair of shoes, and go from there. If you find that dancing is not for you, then you havent wasted tons of money of stuff you'll never use. If you find you love dancing and it suites you, then you can go out and buy more outfits and shoes.

    And yes, please spell check your auctions before you list them. If I were searching for stripper gear on Ebay, I would not buy from you. You have zero feedback, and while you took the time to take a lot of pictures, your auction is a mess with errors, and it just is offputting to trust a seller who did not take the time to make sure everything was spelled correctly.

    Good luck with whatever you do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by asinglehungrygrasshopper View Post
    What exactly makes stripping so different than other things that people want to work up to or try for?
    Oh, nothing. Nothing at all. It's just like any other service industry out there.

    and if you believe that I would like to sell you my ebook, 39 Secrets of Exotic Dance for $199.99.

    A million things, not the least of which is that you will be consenting to be naked or nearly so for money in an environment full of mind-altering substances like liquor and cash. It is not like any other job. If you think it is, I am happy to hear your comparisons.

    Bridgette has an excellent point. It is certainly reasonable to do your due diligence -- are the clubs in my area worth a shit, am I happy with my body, will this work with my schedule? but another thing entirely to keep putting off something as simple as actually calling a club in your city while continuously posting here. I'd say if you're in good shape, the time it takes from thinking about it to doing it should be a month max; otherwise, there's a reason you're overthinking it. Because really, starting to strip is about as easy as falling off a log. It's getting good at it that's hard, and you sure as shit can't do that anywhere but in the field.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette View Post
    Girls. I really don't mean for this to be harsh. But seriously, if it takes you weeks or months just to get up the nerve to audition, you should NOT be a stripper. Period.

    I don't care who finally did it after months of thinking and planning, and is now a stripper. Simple fact that you finally did it does not mean you SHOULD be stripping. There are TONS of girls in this business who simply should NOT be. They are usually the ones who always feel abused and shitty after work, or simply hate the job - and often the ones who wind up strung out and fucked up six ways from sunday, because they couldn't handle it.

    Please girls. This is not the fantasy job yall want to think it is.
    you said exactly what was going through my mind.


    what Susan said about the mind-altering substances is a very good point. it is most definitely not the fantasy shown to you on tv. and drugs, being so prevalent, along with the drinking and $$$ make it very hard for someone to set boundaries. It takes a very strong person (and then some) to be able to dance, and to be able to be good at it, well.. Susan's analogy was dead on.

    Love it!

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    I think it's a positive thing that you realized dancing isn't for you and moved on. No point in trying to make a square peg fit in a round hole (no pun intended, seriously).
    And yes, B and the other vets are right. Stripping is SOOOO not for everyone. I would have loved to discover that it's all VIP trips, giant tips and hot seduction like it's media image would have everyone believe, however that's just not the case. It involves a lot of rejection, and someone who is timid about entering the club and simply auditioning probably has the wrong mindset for this type of environment. This isn't to say that I wasn't nervous. Most newbs are petrified of making an ass of themselves on stage and that's normal. Actually, it's normal to not have the nerve to dance at all. It's just that this job requires a special type of "go get 'em" personality.
    You are figuratively "on stage" all night, like an actress in a play that only takes intermissions when you visit the dressing room. Even then, you have to keep your game flowing.
    With that said, I'm sure there are a lot of other jobs that I can't imagine doing, like waitressing, office work or even being a movie/stage actress in the Hollywood sense. There are some areas that I know I will not be adept in and I accept that about myself.

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    I must say.... I think it would be harder to go ahead and "become" a stripper if I had found this site first! honestly!! Simply because without just DOING it, the very very in depth discussions we get into on SW can make it seem like a much more detailed and harder job than it actually is. Don't get me wrong, as B said, it IS hard, but if one has confidence in oneself and one's body, has good sales ability, knows how to flatter one's body (or is willing to learn) is somewhat psychologically at ease, is willing to learn basic financial responsibility, and can talk to a variety of people in different situations, then dancing SHOULDn't be too difficult. seriously. i think the depth of sw discussions can make it seem harder. i'm glad i found sw post-starting out... ahhaha my first post was some ridiculous tax freak-out to melonie in dollar den... oops.

    that said... there are many in our profession who do NOt possess these traits.

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    Thanks for the answer, Bridgette. Clarifying that you meant less the people who are specifically trying to improve something (eg working on losing weight/toning up) does make the statement seem less bizzarre. On my first reading, it seemed like you were saying if anyone just didn't go do it immediately no matter what they they weren't cut out for it. (I'm not particularly convinced that you're 100&#37; correct, but I certainly understand better what you are saying.)

    I apologise if I gave the impression that I was discounting your opinion. I was inquiring specifically why you believed this thing. That being said, I'm skeptical that you have in fact held every other job known to man to know that stripping is indeed 1000 times worse. Not believing that it is the worst job in the whole world, however, is hardly equivalent to believing that it is easy.

    Anyway, thank you for taking the time to answer my query.

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    I'm glad we can all live as one stripper and wannabe stripper happy family
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    Try not to pick apart what I'm saying so much. Obviously I haven't done every single job known to man and my "1000 times" statement is an educated guess at best. That's not the point hun. It seems you can't see the forest for the trees, so to speak. Please look at the overall point rather than picking apart silly details that are only a small part of what I'm saying.

    Other girls have posted here saying I am right and NO ONE but you (a girl who's never even auditioned yet) has said I'm wrong, so obviously my opinion isn't too far-fetched. This is not a matter of needing to be right or win the argument. It's a matter of wanting girls to take an honest assessment and realize that this job IS different from normal jobs and that it may not be for you. It's one thing to try a normal job and find out you hate it or whatever - it's entirely another (and much more emotionally risky, to put it mildly) to try THIS kind of job and find out it's not for you. Yeah, you won't die from it (most likely) but it CAN and DOES wreck people's lives. How many normal jobs have you heard of that truly wreck people's lives???


    Now. I'm not trying to say this is the worst job in the world. Obviously I think it's the BEST one for ME. Because I'm a "go hard" type, and probably just a little crazy - I always say if you're not a little crazy when you enter this job you will be by the time you leave it But for some people, this is the WORST job in the world. There's really not much in-between on this - it's either a GREAT fit for you, or HORRIBLE. Bottom line is that, if you have to struggle that much just to get up the nerve to audition, that is a GREAT indicator it will be a horrible job for you.


    As for newbies buying stuff to audition. I agree with the advice to just buy one cheap flattering outfit and MAYBE a pair of shoes to try out. Hell, I'd say don't even bother buying shoes - use whatever heels you have if they're even remotely sexy. No one gives a shit if you're not wearing proper stripper heels to audition. Hell, all I bought for audition was one stripper thong, and I wore a miniskirt and top from my closet with birkenstock-type sandals. I literally walked in off the street just like that and got up on the stage to audition. Of course I was told to get some heels and better outfits for work, but the point is you do NOT need to buy a bunch of stuff before you've been hired. Save your money for 1) after you're hired or 2) something else if you don't get hired or decide you hate the job.

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    I agree with Bridgette. When I started it was pretty fast - there was very little prep work for me. More like, I broke up with my guy - so I was free to do whatever I wanted and I wanted to dance.
    Looking back, maybe I should have taken some more time to prepare myself, but there are some things you NEED for this job and I was lucky to get them more as I worked. Like very, very, thick skin. People will be asshats to even super models, just because they are jerks. A strong backbone to draw your limits - be stubborn with them!! Never comprimise your personal boundries for a customer, you will have a hard time getting out of that "The customer is always right," mentality that works for other jobs, but it will never fly in a club. The perma-smile, the feet of steel, the wide open eyes at 3 am, the where-are-you-from lines, what am I forgetting? But if you don't have these traits, you might never have them, and you'll be much happier playing to your assets in another line of work.
    Sex for money? Never! For jewels, and furs, and revenge, like a lady! But not for money!

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    I'm sorry Bridgette. I wasn't trying to be offensive to you or your opinion and experiences, and I apologise if it came across in an offensive manner. (I also didn't think you were actually saying you have the worst job in the world. I was using hyperbole.) My questions were generally for receiving clarification of your opinion, and not an attempt to convince you of anything or even to say that you are wrong.

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