Waiting to audition because you're working on your body is one thing. Waiting to audition because you're trying to get up the nerve is another. Let's just get this out of the way - if you're waiting because you are
seriously losing weight or otherwise improving your body, I'm not talking to you. Apples and oranges.
But, I'll say it again: If it takes you weeks or months just to get up the nerve to audition, you should NOT be a stripper!!
What makes this job so different??? Take all the really shitty negative things that go with normal jobs, and multiply it by about 1000. Abuse, harrassment, meanness, backstabbing, rejection, belittlement, degradation and more - all out there in your face all day long, day in and day out. This is a TOUGH job. If you haven't done it, of course you want to think it's just like any other. BUT, if you haven't done it, and you're still trying to get up the nerve - that right there is the best indicator of how different it is. Most people don't have to spend weeks or months just to get up the nerve to apply for a normal job - unless they have some abnormal anxiety issues or something.
Why do you think we make the money we do?? It's mostly because of the simple fact it's a HARD job to deal with so there is a premium in price. The vast majority of women simply cannot handle it, so for the few who can, it HAS to be lucrative in order to make it worth it. It's not just because of the relation to sex - it's all the other shit that makes it a high-paying job. Any schmuck can get drunk, fling her clothes off and wiggle her ass in front of a cheering crowd (cheering merely because it's FRESH MEAT). But it takes a whooooooollle lot more to do it night after night, when the crowd is no longer cheering just because you're new, and you have to figure out how to MAKE them want you and want to pay you, AND deal with all the negativity and utter crap that will be constantly thrown at you from all sides.
This isn't a "plan and decide" kind of job, sorry. It's a "get your ass in gear and make shit happen or get eaten by the sharks!" kind of job. If a girl isn't bold, brave, tough, crazy - whatever, enough to get her ass in gear and just AUDITION already, she doesn't have what it takes to survive and do well in this job. So many girls get eaten alive in this business, it's ridiculous. Mostly because they simply bit off more than they could chew. Spent weeks talking themselves into it only to find out it's aLOT harder than they could've imagined. OP found it out for herself, obviously, that was part of the point of her post.
Furthermore, if you're still "waiting and planning" weeks or months later, that's just your own sugar-coated excuse for the REAL reason you haven't done it already: F-E-A-R. You can't be afraid if you want to be successful in this business. If you are that afraid, you'll be doing yourself a huge favor to realize it's not for you and move on.
A bit of stagefright is one thing. We'd all be lying if we said we weren't nervous at first. But being nervous and going for it is FAR different from being so nervous you have to "wait and plan" for weeks or months.
I knew my statement would be unpopular, and that's fine. Actually, in this context, if it WERE popular, it wouldn't be true

Also grasshopper, you strike me as being very young. That's not a bad thing, but a common trait of young people is to disbelieve or discount what older, more experienced people say and plow ahead anyway, only to realize later that the older/experienced ones were right after all and usually regret not listening
Finally, I am not saying this to slam anyone, as I said before. Not being tough or crazy enough for this business is NOT a bad thing. I mean this advice to be helpful. I would rather see girls move along and not risk the scarring than talk themselves into doing something that is so clearly not for them, and suffer the consequences later.
>>Edit to add: I have done this job for going on 12 years, and I have done many other jobs in my 20+ years of holding jobs. While I like this one the best, it is also the HARDEST by far. But I like it in part BECAUSE it keeps me challenged. I LIKE challenge. I do not have to get up the nerve to do anything, which is why I do well in this business. I am not saying every stripper should be like me, but if you're gonna do this job, you should make sure you're closer to the side of "go for it!" than "I'm nervous and need to talk myself into it".
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