Basically, my boyfriend has expressed his discomfort with my decision to go back to work. He did not know of this as soon as we started dating.
It sounded like he had gave me an ultimatum. He said if it was short term he was ok...but he was not sure about the long term. I told him I could not put a time frame on my goals. I asked what HIS time frame for me was? He had no answer. I told him i do not see how it can work, he will start to resent me.(I said this in general, im not sure if maybe he took that as me making a choice to not be with him?"That was not what i meant)
So after that, he said that he would be ok with it...and that the one thing he IS sure of is me. He said even if i wanted it as a career it would be ok.
I still think this will start to get screwed up regardless of what he said.
I am 22, I am about to graduate with a degree, but i want to dance still. I am not sure how long...i am doing an internship this summer and want to dance at night. Even when I get a dayjob, I would like to make dance money as long as possible to help fund my pursuits in Burlesque and travel. I would like to be a traveling dancer sometimes...i want to buy nice costumes when i am booked to perform burlesque....i also need to get my own apartment...car...ect ect. I wasted away my money the first time around dancing....i want to start over while i am still young enough.
He is an understanding, great guy...does not have any controlling characteristics as far as i can tell after 10 months.
Does this sound like it can still get sticky?
He is VERY supportive of my burlesque, he loves burlesque...he is just uncomfortable with lapdances.
I was thinking maybe for now i would do a club with just stage shows. Come May though....i want to make more money.
This is hard because he did not necessarily give me an ultimatum after we talked...but i am insecure about the situation.
There is lots of information on here about the boyfriend who makes his girlfriend choose...what about my situation...do you ladies think he will eventually make me choose? I really like him...but I need to get dancing out of my system. I told him we can talk more later when i am more ready. I still have some toning up to do.
My plan was to go back for two weeks without telling him...to see how i feel...if i feel great about it then i will have to let him know i plan to GO
Please give me advice.....especially the veterans on here.



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