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    How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    How do you deal with obsessive customers?

    You know the ones that actually believe they are in love with you and you are with them. The ones who think even though you never see them OTC that you are boyfriend and girlfriend?

    I have even had guys say (and i dont know whether to fully believe them or not, but they are so obsessed i find it hard not to...) they have moved over to Australia to study just so they can be closer to me, and have writing in resignations from job offers cos it will take them interstate and they dont want to be away from me.

    I feel sorry for some of them but others i am just like: Aaaaah get a life!

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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    I hate these kinds of guys. I have a regular at the moment who fits this category. He seems to live in a fantasy world. He recently went interstate for 2 weeks for work and when he came back and saw me at work he said I was the first thing he thought about when he got back to Melbourne and was asking if I missed him etc.

    He told me he will never leave me and I am his babe - ewwwww.

    I don't have an answer as to how to deal with them. Im just venting with u.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    tell them to lose weight if they want me to sit on their laps.
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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    yeah, i've had a few of these too. i just put up with it for as long as i can or until they give up...which ever happens first.

    i find these guys so mentally draining though...and they make me feel sad

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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    I fail to understand how they can actually THINK in their heads why i would honestly be their girlfriend or even want to be.... I mean they PAY ME MONEY TO SPEND TIME WITH ME doesnt some reality bell ring in their head to warn them this isnt real?

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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    ^^^^
    I honestly think some of them just don't get it Truce.
    Like they think the money part is similar to when you are dating a girl and paying for dinner etc.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    This is just one of the reasons that i try to not have regulars! LOL

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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    Oh tell me about it.

    I have a few clients who insist on emailing me 15 times a day and tell me that they can't sleep the few days before our appointment (I am an escort).

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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    For the ones like that... I believe them this *squishes fingers together* much. What's in it for THEM?! Like, what do they think they're going to talk me into?

    They're annoying, but I milk them for all it's worth. Fuck it.
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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    I have only had one.. and he followed me home once. it was the summer i started working in philly (sigs) and this guy, peter, would obsessively spend money on me and try to get me to see him OTC. he really thought he and this other girl were bf gf and when he found out she wasnt he became really into me. i shook him thankfully in the end when he tried to finger me in a couch dance by having my mgr throw him out (he got in fine the next time he tried our club lol our mgment sucked).

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    Default Am I an OBSESSIVE customer?

    Ladies, I gotta know...
    I've had the same girl dance for me on a regular basis for over a year now. We know a fair bit of each others personal lives, included would be addresses, phone numbers (used only for business purposes) etc... I buy her nice things for special occasions, and once in a while, just because I want to. We have been out OTC three times, once for my birthday,(her idea, shocked the heck out of me!) once as a favor (took her to the airport), and once, call it miscellaneous, (nothing expected, nor done). I'm friends with her dancer buddys from the club,(they think I'm gold) and the girls that don't know us call us a "cute couple" (blushing now) when we hang out before we head to the VIP. I do not want a "girlfiend" so to speak, because that would really cramp my life. She fits the bill perfectly: around on my days off, and fun to be with when we are together. Fun's fun, but should I pack it in? I don't expect anything - really - but somehow I feel guilty for feeling so good.
    NOW, Am I (a) Obsessed, (b) a good customer, (c) a single guy who really doesn't want to face the dating world, or (d) some combination of the above. Your thoughts would be appreciated. I'm a big boy now, I can take it...

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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    id say you are b and c def not obsessed. you seem like you guys are fun friends.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    Sooner or later these wackos "break up" with us. Thing is, you won't even miss the money...it's such a relief to be rid of their high maintenance bull shit!!!

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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    When I've had TRULY obsessed customer, I'm colder and more all-business than with other customers, just to avoid feeding their idea that we have something "special." Like, I won't hang out unless they are buying dances, I won't breaks of more than a song with them, and I'm really up front about it when it's time to go make money from other customers. I hope they get the message and understand they *are* customers to me. Usually, they disappear sooner or later.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    PHXFan, you're a good customer. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to or having time/energy for a real relationship, and that's what we're here for as long as you realize that we're NOT a real relationship. Not that your favorite dancer is faking it, just that that's as far as it goes, ya know?



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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    if you wanna get rid of them then try telling them something that is
    a)weird
    b)shocking
    c)akward

    try to do it sincerly without laughing.
    maybe this will help them back down.

    if that doesnt work you can drop the boyfriend bomb.




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    It isn't just customers who do this crap. I had a co-worker in my corporate job that thought we were dating. I had lunch with him in the food court several times a week and we talked regularly (socially) during slow times at work. Sometimes we carpooled to meetings etc. the only time I talked to him on my free time was work related.

    I had no idea that he was so obsessed until my boss took me aside and told me that I needed to stop dating Mr. X as it was against company policy, or one of us had to quit our jobs.

    Um... Excuse me? I told my boss that I was not now, nor ever dating Mr. X. She said that he insisted that we were an item and that we needed to discuss who was going to quit.

    I got all creeped out over that. After my boss and I broke the news to him that we were NOT dating, he acted all hurt like we had some big secret romance going or something. He quit not long after that.

    Some guys are truly clueless!


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    Default Re: Am I an OBSESSIVE customer?

    Quote Originally Posted by PHXFan View Post
    Ladies, I gotta know...
    I've had the same girl dance for me on a regular basis for over a year now. We know a fair bit of each others personal lives, included would be addresses, phone numbers (used only for business purposes) etc... I buy her nice things for special occasions, and once in a while, just because I want to. We have been out OTC three times, once for my birthday,(her idea, shocked the heck out of me!) once as a favor (took her to the airport), and once, call it miscellaneous, (nothing expected, nor done). I'm friends with her dancer buddys from the club,(they think I'm gold) and the girls that don't know us call us a "cute couple" (blushing now) when we hang out before we head to the VIP. I do not want a "girlfiend" so to speak, because that would really cramp my life. She fits the bill perfectly: around on my days off, and fun to be with when we are together. Fun's fun, but should I pack it in? I don't expect anything - really - but somehow I feel guilty for feeling so good.
    NOW, Am I (a) Obsessed, (b) a good customer, (c) a single guy who really doesn't want to face the dating world, or (d) some combination of the above. Your thoughts would be appreciated. I'm a big boy now, I can take it...
    You are not obsessed. You are a good customer. You don't fantasize about one day marrying your dancer friend do you? It is those fantasies of becoming romantically entangled with the dancer that is the problem here. These guys think that if they just spend enough money and time with their dancer, that eventually she will see how wonderful of a man he is and fall hopelessly in love with him, too.

    It ain't gonna happen. Dancers see that kind of neediness and profit from it. Their only thoughts of affection for that kind of customer is "Oh good! Mr. PL is here! It's is going to be a GREAT MONEY NIGHT!"


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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    Thanks for the feedback ladies! Funny you mentioned the "married" idea. Some of her friends tell her that she should marry me, I treat her like gold, and a few of my friends bug me that I should marry her, that they don't treat their girlfriends that well. To her friends I just turn beet red, and to mine, I tell them to take lessons, or I'll move in on their action!

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    Ya i have a regular that is soo obsessed w/ me. I tolerate it cuz the money is worth it. He also trys to act like my boyfriend by buying me expensive gifts and giving me money when i need to pay bills. But every time he comes in he buys hours and just talks about scary things (people dieing, him being in the hospital,car crashes exc) he creeps me out cuz if he's not making up crazu stories he just stares at me wide eyed shaking his head frantikly. He has followed me before cuz i saw him right next to me on the freeway then he just sped off! He really is obsessed w/ me i can't even explain everything this guy has done but i feel like he is going to snap one day and realize i will never see him outside the club/ nor be his gf and end up doing something crzy =0( i also made the mistake of texting him after he gave me his business card to see if he was going to come in this one night when i really needed money... ever sence then he has text me atleast 10 times a day w/ these crazy stories..so about 2 weeks ago i told him i had a bf and he couldn't text me like this ne more. So now he calls me daily from blocked numbers and leaves me scary messages that i can't even understand his blurred voice.... i don't know if this made ne sense but i had to get it off me chest.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with OBSESSIVE customers?

    Some people are very sensitive & feel very deeply (whether it's mutual or NOT) but they can also tend to be a little out-of-touch with reality. After one nice rejection you can go ahead and be meaner because you can't give them "false hope." This goes for any situation, not just In The Club. Some of my male co-workers at regular jobs were stalked by women, even one of my male high school classmates. Too many sad sacks in the world but that's not your problem. Protect yourself!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    It isn't just customers who do this crap. I had a co-worker in my corporate job that thought we were dating. I had lunch with him in the food court several times a week and we talked regularly (socially) during slow times at work. Sometimes we carpooled to meetings etc. the only time I talked to him on my free time was work related.

    I had no idea that he was so obsessed until my boss took me aside and told me that I needed to stop dating Mr. X as it was against company policy, or one of us had to quit our jobs.

    Um... Excuse me? I told my boss that I was not now, nor ever dating Mr. X. She said that he insisted that we were an item and that we needed to discuss who was going to quit.

    I got all creeped out over that. After my boss and I broke the news to him that we were NOT dating, he acted all hurt like we had some big secret romance going or something. He quit not long after that.

    Some guys are truly clueless!

    whoaaaa... thats so odd! you'd think one would be able to tell the difference between we-work-together-so-lets-go-eat-together and date time ooh la la! kinda reminds me of this guy i went on a few dates with (2 to be exact) and he changed his myspace status to be "in a relationship" and i became his number one friend (out of like 800+ friends!) after only meeting the dude two times. you'd think these guys could tell better.. but some really ARE clueless.

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