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    Hey ladies

    My ex just called me today and wants to take me out for a date this saturday. he is a wealthy doctor, and took me to NYC and such and took me shopping every once in a while. I dumped him about 5 months ago, not because he did anything wrong ( he was always a gentleman) but he was just waay to old for me. Im 20 and hes 53. I didnt think it would bother me that much but I got kinda stuck up I guess and thought I could do better, lol. Well now that I look back I think I couldve hustled the whole thing alot better. So now that he wants to date again how do I negotiate gettting pampered alot more i.e. rent, utilites, car, etc. without sounding trashy? any of you have any experience in negotiating with potential sugar daddies? I would appreciate any help! thanks!

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    Well, on your date, tell him you're considering seeing someone else, nd he'svery nice, wealthy, ect. Say then that you'd rather date mr. ex doctor guy what's his name, b/c you already hav e a great bond, but this other guy wants to take care of you, pay your bills, and so on.

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    ehhh sugar daddies go with the territory of stripping. lola said it right. make it sound like the "other" guy had it made for you but that you'd prefer to date him.

    Love it!

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    yea I'm definately not an escort- I just have high self esteem and think i deserve to be spoiled, but I dont want to sound like money the only reason that I want to date him, which is true he really is a nice guy. But I have needs and expenses.

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    How do you ladies find guys like this? I feel like chopped liver Just like we have a booty clap 101 thread, we need a sugar daddy 101 thread from a true veteran lol

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    I had a doctor sugar daddy. He was a great friend and mentor, good looking guy in his 40s who I really loved. we were together about a year and a half, and had some really special times.

    But by chance, is this guy married? If he is, HEAD FOR THE HILLS. If not, godspeed. I was in marriage counseling with the ex and his wife last week. Not fun.

    What you need to do is make it obvious is...

    1. That your time is money, and everytime you take off work to spend time with him, you're losing money.
    2. That you really need the money for pursuing some bigger, noble goal (finishing school or starting a business, paying off debt, etc) and you can't do it without stripping.
    3. Remember everytime he gives you money to make a big deal of how sweet it is that he's doing this for you. If he feels like you just expect it then he's going to undercut you. Encourage and reward generosity.
    4. Make it obvious how demeaning you find stripping (even if you don't) and how you wish you could reach your personal goals without it.

    Older guys LIKE to give you money, I promise. You just need to encourage and reward it. He can't feel like he's just throwing his money away. The good sugar daddies tend to try and "groom" you for something better (trophy wife or longterm mistress), and getting you out of stripping altogether (as in, not having to work at all) is a good first step.

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    All of us who have been dancing awhile are confronted with guys who are smitten with us, and who want platonic or non platonic relations with us.

    PLEASE KEEP ALL RESPONSES TO THIS THREAD SERIOUS!


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    I would wait until you two are steady again before making any requests like that. (But don't wait too long, either!) Then, simply saying, "I need help with..." or "I want..." should work. Depends on the guy, though.
    If you think school is hard, try being stupid.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post



    Older guys LIKE to give you money, I promise.
    That is true. I caution you not to ask for money if at all possible. Let him offer. Write him a thank you letter if he has been epsecially nice to you, and in that letter let him know that you will never ask for money and that you like gifts from his heart.

    That way when you end things with him down the line, or he finds out you have a boyfriend or husband, he can't say in court you were using him. Keep a copy of the letter.

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    viola..
    you went to marriage counsling with the ex and his wife?
    whoa

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    Yeah this is the first time I have seen a stripper get involved in saving the marriage.LOL.

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    Do you care about this man on any sort of emotional level? If so, please reconsider doing a huslte job on him.


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    Girls, go for it. It's normal in other countries for pretty young ladies to be compensated for entertaining well-to-do older men.

    Do protect yourself though, like Tina said. Wise idea.

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    Quote Originally Posted by velvet View Post
    viola..
    you went to marriage counsling with the ex and his wife?
    whoa
    Yes. Last Thursday. It was god fucking awful. I never want to talk to that lying coward ever again.

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    This is what I do with mine.

    Im finishing school and can only dance part time and my bills are late.
    My kids need...
    Im sick and I need...
    I want...


    Id say 98% of the time he offers to give me money, send money or write me a check. I do however, talk to him ALL day via text message and he expects me to sit all night with him ITC.

    Its exhausting, but Im just getting what I can.

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    OK, I know it's a sugardaddy thread, but here's a thought:

    Why not find a rich boyfriend?

    Then you want to text message him all day. And on top of that -- you want to rush home to jump his bones at night. You love his smell and his eyes, you want to wear his shirt around the house all day, you can't stop looking at him and you pout when he's not around.

    He also pays all your bills, buys you outrageous gifts, wires cash into your bank account whenever you really need it, buys whatever you may want, is amazing in bed and even gives great phone sex.

    I mean, come on. It's not that rare. You are amazingly hott, remember?

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    TOO, you should start a matchmaking service for strippers. :-)



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    Quote Originally Posted by The Other Owner View Post
    OK, I know it's a sugardaddy thread, but here's a thought:

    Why not find a rich boyfriend?
    Just remember the example of poor Anna Nicole and get it in writing with a prenup.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sinful333 View Post
    This is what I do with mine.

    Im finishing school and can only dance part time and my bills are late.
    My kids need...
    Im sick and I need...
    I want...


    Id say 98% of the time he offers to give me money, send money or write me a check. I do however, talk to him ALL day via text message and he expects me to sit all night with him ITC.

    Its exhausting, but Im just getting what I can.
    Sinful, I'd gladly be your sugardaddy if I weren't perennially broke myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Other Owner View Post
    OK, I know it's a sugardaddy thread, but here's a thought:

    Why not find a rich boyfriend?

    Then you want to text message him all day. And on top of that -- you want to rush home to jump his bones at night. You love his smell and his eyes, you want to wear his shirt around the house all day, you can't stop looking at him and you pout when he's not around.

    He also pays all your bills, buys you outrageous gifts, wires cash into your bank account whenever you really need it, buys whatever you may want, is amazing in bed and even gives great phone sex.

    I mean, come on. It's not that rare. You are amazingly hott, remember?
    Rich guys marry girls who look good on paper - from good families, ivy league schools, the kind of girl you can take to the country club. Those girls are boring when they're young and intolerable by the time they're middle aged. This is why sugar daddies exist, because they don't want to divorce the girl who looks good on paper that they married when they were young and lose half of what they own. They're bored. They don't think to marry the fun girl (who might not look good on paper or at the country club) when they're young. Poor, dumb shithead rich guys.

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    Quote Originally Posted by UtahMike View Post
    Sinful, I'd gladly be your sugardaddy if I weren't perennially broke myself.
    Haha, well time to get a second job!! =)

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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    Rich guys marry girls who look good on paper - from good families, ivy league schools, the kind of girl you can take to the country club. Those girls are boring when they're young and intolerable by the time they're middle aged.
    Well said! (By the way, this in no way exempts these shit-head "daddy's" from betraying their wives. In my opinion, these men are simple cowards for being unwilling to divorce and risk loosing half their "stuff." )

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chicagoeditor View Post
    Well said! (By the way, this in no way exempts these shit-head "daddy's" from betraying their wives. In my opinion, these men are simple cowards for being unwilling to divorce and risk loosing half their "stuff." )
    Yep, simple cowards. Selfish bastards who want to have their cake and eat it too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    Rich guys marry girls who look good on paper - from good families, ivy league schools, the kind of girl you can take to the country club. Those girls are boring when they're young and intolerable by the time they're middle aged. This is why sugar daddies exist, because they don't want to divorce the girl who looks good on paper that they married when they were young and lose half of what they own. They're bored. They don't think to marry the fun girl (who might not look good on paper or at the country club) when they're young. Poor, dumb shithead rich guys.
    Exactly!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    This is why sugar daddies exist, because they don't want to divorce the girl who looks good on paper that they married when they were young and lose half of what they own.
    Then they are idiots.

    Look, I'm not talking about dickless cowards who are just fooling around on the side because they are sticking with a harpie and they are afraid of losing half their net worth. Trust me, spinning off a marriage that doesn't work and replacing it with all manner of relationships with dancers will be far and away the very best money you have ever spent. It will also be one hell of a lot more honest.

    But my post was looking at it from the other direction: Why do dancers even think to settle for a sugardaddy? There are enough funny, rich, interesting and hott guys out there for them to actually like, and be taken care of in a way that is free of all the sandtraps and bogus emotional baggage and second-guessing that goes along with suggardaddydom.

    Girls, come on, you are hott. You don't need this crap. Work it a little.

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