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    Default How do you deal with Jerks?

    I realize as long as I work as a dancer there will always be the battle of the stripper stigma when dealing with certain ignorant customers. I have found on some occasions there are these sick [email protected]#!s that will say something to deliberately embarass or hurt you in front of thier group...for whatever reason.
    I don't come across this alot, but when I do it burns me that I can't say what I really want to to their face in the club because of the rules etc.., club environment.
    I really wish there was a way that these guys don't have this kind of freedom, like you could get a bouncer and throw these guys out for mistreating a girl so badly.

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    Jerks in the club? Depends on what they do. They generally get a look from me that says, "you're sad" and I walk away.
    ... Then I come on SW and rant about it and everyone gets to share THEIR horror stories and I'm feelin' better!
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    Default Re: How do you deal with Jerks?

    well I once kicked a guy in the face with my heels and broke his jaw but I did probation for that so after thinking about it, probably wasnt worth it.
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    sometimes i will just get up and walk away. sometimes i will pretend to be ingnorant to the fact that they are insulting me (this often confuses them and can be quite amusing)

    if i'm in an especially clever mood i tend to come up with witty, equally insulting things to say. i say them very sweetly with a smile on my face. they usually don't get it right away. if they're in a group with their friends their friends usually get it first and start laughing at the jerk.

    once i was doing a table dance for a group of guys and one of them said, "your boobs are really small. haven't you thought of getting implants??" i smiled and just said no and kept dancing. one of his friends was impressed with my confidence and bought quite a few dances from me.

    but some nights i'm just too sensitve to take it. then i hide in the dressing room and scan the floor every so often until i can find a sure thing to boost my confidence again.

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    How did I deal with jerks?

    I told them where they could stick it and walked away.

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    You can tell the customer off if you choose, and if he is overly obstinant, tell management and many times they'll handle it.

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    Well, i usauly dont TRY to even deal with em. but of course, sometimes its impossiable!

    if u say u cant say anythin rude or wutevercuz of club rules - perhaps a "talk to the hand" thing or a "L" on the head for loser..or flip em off. haha. thats what i usualy do when i cant think of anything witty to say. n and of course..the classic roll of the eyes, then walk away sexilly, and go flirt with sum1 else right in front of them.

    i get really fed up to...i jus try to ignore it. tho sometimes i want REVENGE! i dont try 2 make a big scene cuz i dont wanna scare every1 else off. so ill say something rude to them but in a sweet way.
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    I used to get really mad & sometimes slappy but it was usually pointless. Now I try to scheme up ways to make the guy sorry he's being abusive to naked women (yep, that takes a big man *sarcasm*) or just get him thrown out/ talked to by management.

    Why let a jerk ruin your night? You'll be giving him what he wanted in the first place, to ruin your night & make him feel powerful.

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    Why let a jerk ruin your night? You'll be giving him what he wanted in the first place, to ruin your night & make him feel powerful.[/QUOTE]

    ^^ Agreed. I usually just walk away. If they see that they have no power then they will look and hopefully feel like the idiots they are.
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    there have rarely been times, at least that i remember, that a custie has actually made me so mad that i can't play it off and smile and just walk away. i try to just smile and walk when i can while saying "Sweetly" "you have a good night, then." if i get upset, that upsets my whole night, and people can see the madness on my face. madness = no money for me..

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    Good management is important in this respect. My managers will not tolerate any rudeness to the dancers. I offered a guy a dance once and he said "do I get a gobbie too?". I was in a bad mood and chose not to ignore it as I usually would and told my manager who promptly told the customer that solicitation for sexual services was not welcome in our club and knock it off or leave. He sat quietly nursing his beer with a very embarrassed look on his face.

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    The severity of the customer's behavior is directly correlated with the "punishments" I give. I had a customer tell me, "Me and my boy are out lookin for a good time. You wanna be a part of it?" I simply intimidate. "You mean you want me to go out and get drunk and high and have sex with you and a bunch of your buds, right? Baby, I'm a Monet...Bill Gates can't even afford me much less you afford my time. This conversation is over."
    I simply call people out for the bullshit that they feed and I stuff it right back down their throat. Woman empowerment. That is the key. There is not a damn thing that customer can do to you. You don't even have to touch him, ie: kick, punch, bottle to the head, chair up the ass, etc. Hit a nasty customer right where it hurts...HIS PRIDE. You will rule the world.

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    I get them kicked out. But not before they buy me a drink. Mwahahaa!

    JK


    Seriously I have a big fat fucking temper, so with a LOT of patience I try not to explode. But when i do, it is soooo fucking entertaining.

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    I don't let the jerks bother me usually. If I'm at a club that doesn't support their dancers, I'll find another thing that will get the custy kicked out; I might say something like "That customer over there just tried to sell me drugs." Or "That customer over there is recruiting girls for [insert competing club name here]." One of those two things will get guys bounced pretty quickly.

    Or make it personal. I've told a manager that a custy claimed to be f*cking his wife (I'm evil, I know). Another one (if the customer looks young) is to say that a customer is underage. Say that he goes to high school with your little brother, and he is using fake ID.

    Find the work around, ladies. Sometimes the shortest distance between two points is convoluted.


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    it depends. it takes a lot to really offend me or piss me off. i'd say 90% of the time, i just give them a look and/or walk away. the other 10% ranges from witty comebacks to handing them their ass verbally and then having them kicked out.

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    mid-sentence (their's, not mine) walk away. don't say a word, just walk away. then i don't get too angry and they get super pissed off! perfect

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    Usually I just walk away. But if they're really asking for it, I just shoot back with some insult targeting their weakness (eg. an old guy once asked me if it was past my bedtime and I said, "Yes my boyfriend's waiting for me at home but at least he can still get a boner") and then walk away.

    No matter how bad the insult is, I always do it with a big smile and a happy, chirpy voice. This really confuses guys because they don't realise you've just kicked them in the balls until after you've left.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    I don't let the jerks bother me usually. If I'm at a club that doesn't support their dancers, I'll find another thing that will get the custy kicked out; I might say something like "That customer over there just tried to sell me drugs." Or "That customer over there is recruiting girls for [insert competing club name here]." One of those two things will get guys bounced pretty quickly.

    Or make it personal. I've told a manager that a custy claimed to be f*cking his wife (I'm evil, I know). Another one (if the customer looks young) is to say that a customer is underage. Say that he goes to high school with your little brother, and he is using fake ID.

    Find the work around, ladies. Sometimes the shortest distance between two points is convoluted.

    Those are awesome, haha.

    I usually try to just ignore it and walk away. If I give them a reaction they are getting what they want. However, if they invade my personal space or touch me in any way I deem inappropriate I reserve the right to smack the shit out of them.

    That happened last night, some fucker was trying to play tug-of-war with my g-string and I just smacked him right in the face. It was so hard that it stung my hand for a few minutes afterward. The sight of his friends making fun of him was enough satisfaction, but I did make sure he was removed from my stage. Douchebag.
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    If the guy is being such a jerk that I can't ignore it, I suddenly become very clumsy. Isn't it horrible how easy it is to hit your heel on someone's drink and have it go toppling right on to their crotch? Oops! Clumsy me!

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    The other thing I do is always try to be pumped up so that comments don't get to me. I watch Hedwig and the Angry Inch about twice a week for inspiration, and other movies and songs like that that just make me feel good and powerful. Yes, I am a geek:

    Don't you know me Kansas City,
    I'm the new Berlin wall
    Try and tear me down.

    I was born on the other side
    of a town ripped in two
    I made it over the great divide
    now I'm coming for you

    Enemies and adversaries
    they try and tear me down
    You want me, baby, I dare you
    Try and tear me down

    I rose from off of the doctor's slab
    like Lazarus from the pit
    Now everyone wants to take a stab
    and decorate me
    with blood graffiti and spit

    Enemies and adversaries
    they try and tear me down
    You want me, baby, I dare you
    Try and tear me down.

    On August 13th, 1961,
    a wall was erected
    down the middle of the city of Berlin.
    The world was divided by a cold war
    and the Berlin Wall
    was the most hated symbol of that divide
    Reviled. Graffitied. Spit upon.
    We thought the wall would stand forever,
    and now that it's gone,
    we don't know who we are anymore.
    Ladies and Gentlemen,
    Hedwig is like that wall,
    standing before you in the divide
    between East and West,
    Slavery and Freedom,
    Man and Woman,
    Top and Bottom.
    And you can try to tear her down,
    but before you do,
    you must remember one thing.

    Hey.
    There ain't much of a difference
    between a bridge and a wall
    Without me right in the middle, babe
    you would be nothing at all.

    Enemies and adversaries
    they try and tear me down
    You want me, baby, I dare you
    try and tear me down.

    Enemies and adversaries
    they try and tear me down
    You want me, baby, I dare you
    try and tear me down

    From East Berlin to Junction City
    Hello New York hello Missouri
    What you try and tear me down
    come on and tear come on and tear me down.


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    Last night, while encountering a Jerk, all of a sudden this lyric from a Doors song just popped into my head: "Women seem wicked when you're unwanted". I had to laugh out loud--that's the perfect "jerk mantra", and it's so true! These assholes hate women because THEY CAN'T GET ANY. They know they've got nothing and no woman would ever look at them twice unless they're paying for her time, so they resent women. In contrast, the gentlemen who are just out to have a good time and enjoy us, without whining for sex or haggling or bullshitting or being cheap, don't have this "I couldn't get laid if my life depended on it" problem.

    So last night, whenever I encountered a jerk, I repeated that lyric in my head. It never failed to make me smile, and allowed me to just laugh at them and walk away. They're already pathetic; they don't need a scathing comeback from me. Moving on!

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