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    Angry Should hot girls settle for bad sex?

    Lately I've been having this issue with guys who are bad in bed. I feel that I put so much effort into being sexy and seductive for a living that men should put effort into being attentive during sex. Is it ok to tell a guy straight up that he's not making you happy during sex? I don't think that we should have to "fake it" so that we don't hurt their feelings when they're getting pleasure at your expense. I don't really want to put in the effort to "train" a man every time we get naked either. He should already know what he is doing. Is it ok to call it quits in the middle? How do you girls handle this?

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    I have the same problem. My guy has this romantic but lazy concept that if you think about sex during the act, or plan for it, then it'll be bad. He thinks that things will fall into place. Again, that is romantic but lazy. Point out your efforts, adn the efforts that you wish that he could make.

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    He either has it or he doesn't. I think mindblowing sex is only meant for occasional indulgence, like "bringing the good china set out."

    Of course I'm a nympho so I'm always happy to get any....& I'm never satified so they get an easy out. LOL

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    Jane, your boy should find a happy middle. Absolutes never work with women (Though Absolut Vodka does, at times ). I'm sure there's space in there for Romantic and Active rather that romantic and lazy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine View Post
    Of course I'm a nympho so I'm always happy to get any....
    glad to know im not alone.

    Love it!

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    I agree with all the other points, but I also think that it has to do with chemistry. You might feel better in bed with someone you really click with. Otherwise, some guys just suck in bed. They might be selfish, or they might be just plain unskilled. When it comes to selfish guys, kick them to the curb, cause it'll reflect on the rest of the relationship. If they are just unskilled/inexperienced, either get rid of them (you deserve more if you feel like it) or train them like the cute lil puppies they are!

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    I'm pretty sure while they may be hurt, if they're looking to please their woman, men want to be told what to do and what not to do. So speak up! Ugly or gorgeous, no woman HAS to settle for bad sex. I'm also a firm believer in feedback. If your man is attentive and you choose not to give him some pointers, your allowing that bad sex to happen.

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    I don't think any woman should settle for bad sex. Hot or not.

    In fact, it's been my experience that the hotter you are the lazier you can be in bed. I did a lot of that when I was younger. If I wasn't that into it I wouldn't put in any effort. Obviously now that I'm married that's not an issue, but it was when I was younger.
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    No one should settle for bad sex. If he's got potential, tell him what you like. If he's just being a selfish prick and unwilling to do anything for you, kick his ass out.

    I have stopped in the middle of sex if the guy was too bad. If someone sucks and I try to tell him what I want but he still doesn't get it or doesn't even try, I'll be damned if I'm gonna let him get HIS jollies while I get crap.

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    Tell him whats up. If he can't perform hell no you shouldn't fake it. If his feelings get hurt he should learn how to be better in bed to prevent it. Tell him whats up and go after what you deserve.
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    It depends on what he's doing. If he seems bored with it all, then speak up. If he seems like he's TRYING but just not doing things the way you like them, try to guide him nonverbally before speaking up. And when he DOES do something right, reward him with an, "ooo, I like that", or something to that effect.

    I've found that it usually takes a while for me and a new partner to sort of "click", you know? It's hard to find someone who just KNOWS what and how you like it right away.
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    Bad sex can turn into great sex with a little communciation and willingness to work together. Wether that happens or not depends upon how invested you are with the person in question. If its casual to very casual, boot em and move on. If its somewhat more than that, then it might be well worth it to guide him a little (or at least find out if he is willing to listen to what you have to say and work with it).

    Personally, I feel that sex is a mutual contact sport. Its not particularly fun for me if its not particularly fun for you as well. I do what I can to make it great for you, because that makes it great for me too.

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    I guess its depend on what's making it bad. My ex was horrible in bed because he was too romantic all the time. I like romance but I love animalistic, dirty sex most of the time cuz that's what really gets me going. He was a wonderful guy but the sex was way too vanilla because he wasn't comfortable with some of my fantasies. There was nothing I could say to make our sex life better because we wanted different things (sexually).

    Instead of telling him he's not making you happy, why don't you tell him what really gets you going? I think it's important to protect your man's ego because IMO it plays a huge role in sex. If he's feeling insecure about the situation it will affect his performance.

    Try this:
    You: "I had the hottest dream last night"
    Him: "???"
    You: "You were touching me like......and hitting it like.....I couldn't control myself"

    See what happens.

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    If you aren't getting yours and its just shitty sex, HELL yes quit in the middle. I mean that is time you will never get back and for what, to be the nice guy?

    I have quit in the middle and even was hot and heavy with this guy and went back to his place. He got undressed and I said nevermind and left.

    Im not going to waste my time on something that isnt or wont work for me.

    Good luck! =)

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    Communicate if he shows potential, if not, cut him loose.

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    COMMUNICATE ! A lot of guys think they're super-studs while they're female partners think they're mostly duds. Sex is like anything else. For most of us it's a learned skill requiring time, effort and lots of practice,practice, practice. There are very few "naturals" out there.

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    I dont want to be the woman who has to teach.. I would rather my man be trained already.

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    Sinful- What do you do ? Hold auditions ? How else would you know for sure ?

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    Like I said... I have left or stopped in the middle. No auditions, no time for that. =)

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    The lady always goes first. And second and third.... If I can't make her moan and groan then I'm not doing what I oughta (fortunately rare).

    Unless you're just following doctors suggestions for makin' bacon, sex is supposed to be FUN for all involved. I mean a lot of fun!

    If this guy can't do it for you and has little potential for improvement, let him go find another who likes his style.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sinful333 View Post
    I dont want to be the woman who has to teach.. I would rather my man be trained already.
    But people like things so very different. One woman might get off on having her ass smacked and hair pulled, while another would get totally freaked if a guy tried that.

    Unless he either is "just like you" or had a woman prior to you that has the same tastes in love making, you are likely to have to train each other on the best way to get it on.

    Sometimes just talking about what makes each other hot is good foreplay all on it's own.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Sinful333 View Post
    I dont want to be the woman who has to teach.. I would rather my man be trained already.

    In other words, unless they innately or fortuitously know what you want and like, they get tossed away, sometimes even in the middle of it all.

    Damn harsh.

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    When I speak of being trained... I mean lasting more than 5 minutes in bed, doing the 'normal' things that sex involves.

    The post I was referring to said practice, practice, practice and sex is something that men learn.

    My point is I dont want someone with out that experience. Ill tell them WHAT to do to me, but HOW to do it... Nope.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Prester_John View Post
    In other words, unless they innately or fortuitously know what you want and like, they get tossed away, sometimes even in the middle of it all.

    Damn harsh.

    Haha, fortunately I have only had to do this a few times. Once for being to small (harsh yes, but when I had to double take to make sure... not going to work for me) and twice in the middle of it.. after repeating what I like and such.. and NO effort. I got up and was done and went home to my vibrator.

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    Haha Sinful, I love you! I feel exactly like you do. I've tried the whole train my boyfriend like a puppy thing and it worked but it took a looong time. I'm talking about booty call hookups. If I'm going to be with someone JUST for sex, I want it to be good right away. And if a guy just has no clue, no amount of explaination is going to give him the mental picture to do it right. I think if a guy is turning you off more than on during sex, its ok to put the kibosh on it in the middle. LOL, I guess it is never too late to say nevermind.

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