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    What is wrong with people on forums??? I am on a forum for english speaking Expats living in Germany; and everytime I post a question, I seem to get about 70% negative responses! Sure some are nice, but many reply as if I'm stupid to not know the answers! I just moved here and I have a lot of questions!

    Last time I asked a question, I got reamed out for not rushing back to my topic to thank everyone for their replies. I was away from the forum for only an HOUR and I finally said "for goodness sakes!" and went back and thanked them. Then I got a PM telling me I should put "Thanks in advance" in every topic I post.

    Now I know it's polite, but I seriously forgot! I'm going to get shit for it?

    I even had one ass tell me I should see a shrink possibly because I was worried about my kitty escaping through the window because Germany doesn't have window screens! He then proceeded to try to give me shit because my cat was front declawed. To that i told him I wasn't going to start an ethics drama. Oy....

    My husband is on there too and we've both been getting similar treatment. I don't get it; we do searches first, are polite, don't backlash at rude comments, etc. Very respectful newbies.

    WTF???????!! Can't people be nice? The common thread of the forum is supposed to be english speaking people from other countries living in Germany that help each other!

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    awww. just find another german expat forum? a nice one? heh


    or spend even more time on sw

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    People can be jerks online. The majority of the people their probably are snobby to begin with, or they're not receptive to newbies. They will warm up soon, I guess as soon as one of the senior posters recognizes you. You can't do anymore than what you're doing. You're a sweetheart...they don't deserve you.

    ETA: People also get rude online when they don't respect their forum. I'm pretty sure the hostility you're recieving is running rampant in that community.
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    Now I'm being called mean because I keep my cat indoors only and I'm in the countryside! So I'm a cruel and mean cat owner! My cat is a very happy healthy kitty being indoor only!!!!

    Stupid people made me cry. I know I'm a good pet owner and Lucifurr is a happy kitty, but they hurt my feelings and I NEVER cry over online stuff!

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    Screw them. You are a good and responsible pet owner. You can laugh at them when they poor cats die of some aweful contageous disease or get eaten by a dog or hit by a car, and your kitty is safe indoors living a spoiled and happy life. It is a proven fact that cats that live indoors live much longer lives than outdoor cats.

    And the fact that your cat is declawed. He cannot go outside! he is defenseless. Screw them. I'll teach you German.

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    LOL. I asked for my thread to be closed that had all this talk. I was being called "disgusting" for keeping Lulu indoors and front declawed. I was also called sick for keeping him indoors because "Cats are wild creatures meant to run around outdoors and hunt and play" and "Not meant to cruelly keep indoors just to look at".

    :cries: Horrible people.

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    CorsicaFire, Slowly.Step.Away.From.The.Computer

    Some people get off by making others really upset. I've been pissed online plenty of times by random posts, but it help's to keep things in perspective.

    1) Pack Mentality- It's very unlikely that someone on a rude forum to begin with is going to go against the grain. You would have to either get with the heat, or get outta the kitchen

    2) These people would probably love you in real life, but they are going off of very little and you know judgements based on online profiles are usually WAY off until people get used to your humor, tone, and post's.

    3) Give em heat back. Don't be nasty, but put a lil sarcasm in your posts. They may see you as an easy target. Sarcasm at aimed towards no one in particular will make them think twice before posting rude because they will know that you're capable of throwing heta right back to them.

    4) Last but not least.... Fuck em.... Unless you really want to make that community a home of sorts you may have to seacrh elsewhere. The internet can be just like high school sometimes, very clique oriented. Give it some more time ( how long will be up to you) and if they still aren't responsive then leave it alone. You will only feel slighted everytime you read your posts. That's never fun.
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    It's not like they're being rude with inane comments, they're attacking my decisions as a pet owner. It's not just one person either. One person said something, then another chimed in with a similar mean comment, and so on.

    And I don't understand how I could even fight back at ALL seeing as they're saying all these horrible things to me and I get a PM from the mods when I don't say thanks in advance!

    I'm sorry, this is embarrassing; like I said I never get this worked up over the computer. But I love my animals, attacking me and saying I'm a bad pet owner hurts my heart!

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    Well, many - I would say the vast majority in fact, of animal/cat rescue groups and people who you might say "specialize" in cat safety and happiness won't adopt out their cats to someone who lets them outside (of course we won't generally adopt out to people who declaw either, but what is done is done). There are other animals, cars and trucks, etc. Your cat will live a much longer and healthier life being indoors.

    As for people being mean - hate to say it, but we do it too. I think it has something to do with social dynamics in large groups, but without the normal ramifications of face to face contact?
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    Yes, people can be mean here too. For some reason, I can stand it here and once I turn off the computer, it's out of my mind.

    Like I said, I don't understand why I'm so worked up....

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    Then step away from the computer, warm up some tea, and imagine the posters in your head as lil pesky ants and step on em. You won't begin to feel better until you relax, and release. Imagine the posters as 50 year old customers who bug the hell out of you by being insensitive. How would you relax in that given circumstance? Apply the same mentality here. Also remind yourself that other's are entitled to their own opinion, despite how ridiculous and creepy they are. The way they fucked with you was wrong, but brush your shoulders off. Where is Lulu, somewhere comfy and cozy? EXACTLY! Just be glad that she's with you and not them. To get over irrational posts you have to keep them in perspective.
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    I guess it hurts more because I can't reach for him and cuddle his sweet kitty face to make me feel better He's still in Arizona with mom in law in his own (our) house until the 18th of April, then he flies to Germany with me.

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    Awww, I understand, you miss your kitty. Don't let those jerks make your day an emotional downward spiral. Lulu will be with mommie soon enough, in the meantime, please stay away from that forum.
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    This really pisses me off too. I was on a chihuahua forum and a woman from Scotland was bashing us for training our dogs to go on puppy pads when we're not home, saying that it's not right and we're bad pet owners. I was really offended since I love my little dog so much and would never do anything to hurt him or make him uncomfortable. Some people just cannot keep their opinions to themselves. Try not to worry about it, you sound like a very loving and responsible pet owner and that is all that matters.

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    The internet lets all the retards mingle with the normal people... Plus, people are more likely to be assholes online as opposed to face-to-face. As my ex used to call them... "keyboard pirates".

    People are generally nice on SW. There's another forum I go to that's just constant negativity. Like, "oh, I just bought these wheels, here are pictures"... the poster will inevitably just get totally flamed.
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    Something about the anonymity of the internet just brings out hatefulness in some people. Just take a deep breath and remind yourself of the old saying: "Arguing on the internet is like playing in the Special Olympics. Even if you win, you're still a retard."



    FWIW, I agree that cats belong indoors, especially when they've been declawed. When I was a kid I witnessed an outdoor cat fighting with a declawed cat that had gotten outside; the declawed cat wound up dying the next day of his injuries. Since then I've had a thing about NEVER letting declawed cats get out. Good for you for being responsible.

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    Ignore them... I bet they're all 40 year old fat freaks living in their mothers basements..

    FTR... I dont agree with declawing. It actually is proven to be more harmful to the animal long term, causes arthritis etc... My vet gave me this lecture when I got my last cat. Now that I know I would never do it again. But yea if you have a declawed cat it belong inside, not out.

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    Apparently you found the bitter, mean ex-pat forum. I would have posted something to the effect of:
    "Oh, sorry, I thought that this was a forum to support one another. My bad. I'll be moving along now."

    And leave it at that.


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    Corsica one of the things you find when you are an expat is that you need to find the people that want to be there, not the bitchy moany ones. Make the best of what is there, get used to what you can't change and make the inside your home your kingdom if necessary.

    I do have to add that SW is one of the better forums in general. Sounds like you stumbled on a bastard factory.


    Opinions are like assholes everyone has one, but that does not mean your going to show it to everyone or put it in their face, or expect to have it kissed either. LOL gross yet but it make sense.


    Also I find Europeans and some Kiwi's don't seem to get the concept of screens. I even had one go so far as to say "Well we don't have any poisonous insects here".

    What the hell? The US has poisonous insects? Bah everywhere has mosquitoes and they can carry lots of stuff! I tell ya there are some real fucktards and twatwaffles out there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    Something about the anonymity of the internet just brings out hatefulness in some people. Just take a deep breath and remind yourself of the old saying: "Arguing on the internet is like playing in the Special Olympics. Even if you win, you're still a retard."

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    Ignore them... I bet they're all 40 year old fat freaks living in their mothers basements..
    Indeed.

    Post some porn just to spite them. It's juvenile and tawdry, but somehow appropriate.
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    ^^ LOL give 'em green alien porn with midgets, or pterodactyl porn!!! Nah not a good Idea.
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    CF-If it makes you feel any better, one of my girlfriends was telling me she got the same kind of treatment in a fitness forum that she joined. She said that she got to the point where she didn't want to post any questions because she would be met with people just being rude in general. Everytime! I told her (she's an ex-stripper) to spend more time on SW, because generally we're not like that and, as I tell Boyfriend, we as a group know everything!

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    ^^ LOL SW is a modern day oracle. That's why I'm still hanging around.
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