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    How do you girls beat the stripper blues and just get your ass to work? I have this tendency, because I live in Long Beach and work in Hollywood (over an hours drive to get to work), of just NOT GOING and it's not like I do anything productive: I just play with my pet cat, sit outside and listen to music, overeat tasty delicious things and think about how much in debt I am and how I could change that. Am I just too immature or spoiled? I'm 22, in college, and I've never had any help from my parents- I've been stripping for a year now...before this, at restaurants and cafes I was such a hard worker. I may have been late a few times but I always covered shifts, took extra tables and stayed till the very end polishing and cleaning up. But it killed me ya know? That lifestyle or working so many hours, feeling like I needed to drink off all the stress later and then waking up for class. I know alot of girls who treat tripping like a regular 9-5 and THEN some but I'm just really really comfortable with being a bum all day. How can I get fired up and get my shit together?

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    Default Re: No work ethic, no motivation

    listen to some upbeat music, read hustle hut, call someone and tell them you are going to work tonight... these are things I do.

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    I just remember how good I have it... stripping is such a good job!

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    Oh, I also have to admit that I get lazy like this too. I try to remember that this is a real job and I have to treat it like it is.

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    Yeah, sometimes it seems like the hardest part is getting your butt out the door. How to deal with it... just go. Make up your mind in the morning (or the beginning of the week if you work a full week) that you are going in and go, even if you don't feel like it. It will be good for you.
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    Well I still am lazy but I used to be EXTREMELY lazy. Like I worked one shift a week. I relied on my parents a lot, well my mom. But another problem was I worked at a relaxed club where I could get away with going in on only one night a week. For girls like you and me, a structured enviornment is good with strict scheduling. It doesn't even have to be like strict, like make your own schedule but know that the club will be pissed and there will be some sort of reprecussion for not showing up. Working in a structured enviornment has helped me tremendously. I don't think you are immature if you know you do this and are trying to fix the problem.

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    ^^^LOL. Yes. You know, I find I only REALLY enjoy my free time when I know there are other things I should be doing. Like right this second, i should be napping or studying.

    Make a mental schedule and just go, no matter how much you don't want to. Make a set time you have to start showering or whatever. Sometimes, it is easier to do it after class or the gym cause you are already on the road. Keep your stuff in the car, it helps soo much.

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    One thing you could try is setting up an account that automatically with draws money from your account and puts it directly into a savings, IRA, or mutual fund account on a designated day every month. That way you'll have to scramble to get the money in there before it's withdrawn. When there are bills you have to pay, like a car payment or rent, you always manage to get into work and get it taken care of. With a job like stripping, it's all too easy to go in only when the bills are due. If you create bills that are due, because they are being automaticaly withdrawn on a specified date, it will be easier to get in there.

    I truly appreciate stripping, and have those occasional really fun nights that make it seem like the best job ever, but on the whole I'd rather lie in the center of my living room floor and stare at the ceiling all night than go into work. I go in because I have to, and setting up my savings/investments like they're bills I have to pay forces me to get in there. Otherwise, savings becomes that ambiguous thing you swear you'll get to, just not tonight.

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    I have this problem as well, and not just for stripping. The best solution I found for going to the gym was to have a gym buddy. Now, this doesn't work quite the same way with work, since I'm not really close with any girls at work, but I keep meaning to post something here about it. It would be like virtual work buddies - you make a pact with someone or someones on SW that you'll both go to work certain days of the week. The next day you have to PM about whether you went or not - no cheating! I find if I'm accountable to someone besides just myself, even if it's just on principle, I'm much better about doing stuff. Besides, then you can encourage eachother beforehand, if necesary.

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    Default Re: No work ethic, no motivation

    Easy.

    Sit at home and not earn a cent or even have it cost me money (as in spending it even paying bills) or go to work and earn some money.

    Hmm....

    Put it to yourself plain and simple: Stay home and sink further in debt (find your motivator -- it could be getting yourself out of debt, it could be do so you can afford something, etc) or go to work and even if you come home with $50 ....... you earnt money compared to NOT earning a CENT when you are at home.


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    Honestly, I make myself take off for a week, and only give myself access to 500$. When the weekend comes around and I can't go to dinner with friends b/c 100$ is suddenly so much I get upset, and vaue my money soooooo much more!

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    I know what you mean. My last jobs were SHIT. I worked like 55 hours a week on top of college classes in high school (yea yea Pooka was in high school last year) waiting tables, bussing tables, scrubbing toilets, working doubles all weekend every weekend, and still being broke. And now its hard to commit to three days a week just because I don't HAVE too. But...what I do is like what they said...just GO. Just close the laptop, shut off the tv, text my room mate to let her know Im headed to work, and just...leave. It takes me an hour to get to work too, so I know what you mean. It helps me to get ready at work. That way I take a shower, and leave. No time to talk myself out of it getting ready.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PookaShell View Post
    That way I take a shower, and leave. No time to talk myself out of it getting ready.
    yep!!!!

    Also, that way I don't have to blow out my hair, just stlye it. Healthier-ness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shakti View Post
    I truly appreciate stripping, and have those occasional really fun nights that make it seem like the best job ever, but on the whole I'd rather lie in the center of my living room floor and stare at the ceiling all night than go into work. I go in because I have to, and setting up my savings/investments like they're bills I have to pay forces me to get in there. Otherwise, savings becomes that ambiguous thing you swear you'll get to, just not tonight.
    Ha ha ha very true. Chillin' out is rad! I laughed when I thought of all the other people in the world laying down, staring at the ceiling, contemplatin' in the living room. ha ha ha.

    Thanks for all the advice! I scheduled an online bill-pay of about 1200 to various companies. So yeah, knowing those payments have gone through makes me quick to keep from going for broke. Good strategies...all around.

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    This job is not for everyone. This is like a commissioned sales job. Girls who lack ambition to have financial security, who cannot accept rejection, who cannot be around smoking, drinking and drug use and abstain from it, and girls who cannot take the touching and sexual overtones of many of the customers, won't make it either.

    That is the problem with dancing nowadays. Girls without a strong desire to get ahead, and who cannot work independently without direction, will always find ways to put off going to work.Too many girls dancing today just aren't money driven and disciplined to deal with all the obstacles that go along with being self employed. They see this as quick money, and there is no quick money in any type of work.

    So, I say Kennedy, to take a good hard look inside at what is REALLY keeping you from going to work. If you had an 8-5 M-F job with a guaranteed salary, you would commute 1.5 hours each way in rush hour traffic or risk being fired, wouldn't you?

    You and MANY other strippers who don't regularly work need to really search for the answers inside that cause you to not treat making all the money you can every day seriously.

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    Oh, heck, I became a dancer so that I didn't need to adhere to a work ethic. Somehow I always seem to find the motivation to go to work when necessary. Occasionally, I've ridden the line of broke/lazy but it doesn't stay that way for very long.

    I pick something to be my motivator. Even if it is to keep me moving so that I don't get fat. A good motivator is something that you are saving up for...a vacation, a new car, a home, some new clothes, plastic surgery. Then go to work to reach your goal.


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    God. I just responded to a thread about the "effects of stripping" and here it is!!!! This is my biggest problem as well. I sit and stare and watch the clock as the time gets closer and closer to when I should be leaving my house....and I just don't get up....I keep sitting there. Doing nothing. Nothing at all. I as well used to work my BUTT off at various jobs and college and for pennies....and now....man I'm spoiled.

    I wish I had a stripping buddy who relied on me for a ride to work or something, so I had no choice but to leave the house and go!

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    Wow, so two years ago I started this thread!! Ha ha I have definitely stepped it up since then. In the last two years I was able to pay off my car loan and school loans (20K) and save up 12K!! Of course it was because I moved really really close to work though, no more sweating my butt off in traffic for an hour and a half. Overall, I guess I was just being lazy, resting on my laurels and congratulating myself for learning to strip....it took a minute for me to hit my stride but I'm way more motivated now. I stopped drinking alcohol too.

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    Ha Ha. Your "online" personality has evolved (grown up?) Since then. I'm glad this was resurected though because this is how I feel lately.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Minette View Post
    I have this problem as well, and not just for stripping. The best solution I found for going to the gym was to have a gym buddy. Now, this doesn't work quite the same way with work, since I'm not really close with any girls at work, but I keep meaning to post something here about it. It would be like virtual work buddies - you make a pact with someone or someones on SW that you'll both go to work certain days of the week. The next day you have to PM about whether you went or not - no cheating! I find if I'm accountable to someone besides just myself, even if it's just on principle, I'm much better about doing stuff. Besides, then you can encourage eachother beforehand, if necesary.

    Hey, I actually thinks this makes alot of sense. Does anyone want to try this? Basically, just share the days we are going to work, then post afterwards that we made it. I think that would help me motivate & go. Because right now, I only have me to answer to cuz my hubby could care less about it & doesnt like to talk about it. So I'd love to have someone on here in a similar situation. We could encourage each other prior to shifts also if needed. PM me id you'd rather
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    thats how you feel? damn well, All I can suggest is a little time off and then coming back with something fresh. I recently sat on a curling iron and have been unable to work due to the large blister-burn on my ass. So I'm starting to think about next week what I'll wear, dance to, and if I'll wear a wig or dye my hair. I guess this technique might not work for someone who has an established style that works for them. But lately I shift through several different modalities to keep myself interested and excited about working. I am 80's girl with neon outfits, either natural hair or blonde wigs. I am dancer girl with leg warmers, bikinis and alternative music, the burlesque star with a reg wig or my natural hair curled dancing to swing, rock chick with black accessories and badass attitude, sporty-party-girl with hair up dances to club hits and electronica, the gentlemen's glamour-puss with rhinestones and maybe a dress or classic lingerie usually dances to trance or R&B. And so on and so forth...gotta have a gimmick

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    My opinion? Stop looking at it like a choice. I don't have a choice. I need money. The money isn't going to make itself so I need to go to work. Sitting there upset that I dont have any money isn't going to help the situation.
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    I find it's easier to just not think about it. Just get in the car and go! Once you're clocked in and have to be there anyway... it's a lot easier to motivate yourself to work.
    That's the only way I can do it. I'm so lazy!
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    Quote Originally Posted by KennedyWinters View Post
    How can I get fired up and get my shit together?
    After I enrolled in stripandgrowrich.com, I learned that stripping will pay you based on the amount of effort you invest. If you treat stripping like a business, it will pay like a business. Also, the more dependable your schedule, the more customers will be able to come in for some time with you. Lastly, having learned how to sell my services as a dancer/conversationalist, it's easier to work so I don't have those insecure-dreading-work nights.
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