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    I hope you laughed in these fool's faces? I mean, yeah, in the second date there's that mix of adrenaline, and many people get googly eyed and think the feeling will last a long time. It doesn't, the flames cool, and most of the time it doesn't work out unless it's a marriage, and even then it sometimes doesn't. You're supposed to quit for a maybe on the 2nd date?

    Yeah, riiiight....

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    i found a guy who didn't want me dancing naked for money until age 40 OR working a desk job i hated until i was 60.

    i'm marrying him saturday.

    i think that if you want a guy who prefers you not dance, that it be a guy who can present you with other options than dancing. so many guys want girls to not dance, but then don't want to clue them in to ways to earn a living that could offer similar income and/or flexibility. or worse yet, want to complain about the girl dancing, but want to use her savings for their own non-desk business idea(s).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    It's one thing if they ask out of curiosity, but it's another if they are trying to unwhorify you in their mind. That's why I prefaced the question with the dumbass extras comment. As if asking a woman if she does prostitution on the side is ever an acceptable thing to say. It just illustrates they have no idea what the business is like and they choose to draw their own conclusions.
    Unwhorify- ain't that the truth. The guy I'm seeing now, ok I confess he'll ask the "so how long are you going to do this for?" question. Ugh. I told him "Until I'm done school and get going on a worthwhile job I enjoy". But he still asks...

    Maybe it's a little different for me cuz I'm too much of a (cry)baby to be a stripper sometimes, but he's not asking me that out of concern for my psyche so much as he is trying to make me in his mind what he really thinks I already am. Emily put that much more succinctly...yes, unwhorify.

    Like I'll say something or other, and he misinterprets shit...I can see his face when he immediately jumps to some prostitution conclusion before trying to understand what I just said. I'm not going to trash him because he does care, but it bothers me when people try to mold me into something that I'm not. I get the feeling guys get this concept of me, and that's not really who I am, so I know shit's going happen eventually when the reality makes itself known. You wouldn't think you could idealize someone as "sweet and naive" who is a stripper, but you can apparently.

    Ukh, it's hard. I think Viola you're right...in some ways you just have to make due? The booty call guy I was seeing all last year really served the purpose, but then I had to end it "looking for something more", but that's so complicated and difficult sometimes. I do wonder if I'm any better off now than I was then. I feel more cared for, but I also feel like I have more to (inevitably?) lose.

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    One problem you might be having is that you are in Florida, lol--I've never seen so many stupid people in one place in my entire life. Stupid people want to believe the stereotypes, and they want to control each other.

    Try to relax, don't worry about dating or planning a family yet. Enjoy being yourself, and not needing anyone right now. In time you will attain what you desire most.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    I'd rather have it be a second date than almost a year in, as in the case with this ex-boyfriend...

    http://archives.somethingawful.com/s...readid=1519760
    Wow, that guy's a whiney little bitch. Calling the cops because a woman hit him (and he wasn't even injured)? Someone needs to clean the sand out of his vagina...
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    dude, that is viola's ex-boyfriend!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    Ugh, I am always so baffled by how CLUELESS non-strippers (men and women alike) are about the nature of our work.
    This is a real conversation I had the other day with a friends husband.

    Him: So, whaddya do?
    Me: I'm a stripper.
    Him: Oh, at the oil fields?
    Me: No, at the strip clubs.
    Him: Really? You don't do it all the way do you?
    Me: Um, what do you mean?
    Him: You don't get ALL THE WAY NAKED do you?



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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    Other variations of this question are:
    "how much longer do you think you'll dance?"
    "do you ever want a real job?"
    "It's not like you're doing extras. They aren't allowed to touch, right?"
    "Have you ever gone home with anyone you met at work?"
    I hate those questions. I almost always expect them to come up sometime in the time I get to know them. I really want to fuck with them and answer the questions all wrong but can't because it will just fuel the fire.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    But second date - goddam that is early to be setting out ultimatums.
    For real now! Second date and those types of questions are coming out of his mouth. Geez...run run far away. Good that you did. What could have been next? - "I want to control every aspect of your life now."
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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    I'd rather have it be a second date than almost a year in, as in the case with this ex-boyfriend...

    I noticed the date your ex-boyfriend made that post. September 11, 2001.
    So, on that day, he decided to whine about a breakup? Was there nothing else going on in the world, more important shit? Anything?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Thank God It's Francis View Post
    Wow, that guy's a whiney little bitch. Calling the cops because a woman hit him (and he wasn't even injured)? Someone needs to clean the sand out of his vagina...
    Who moves in with anyone after 8 days? That's just a bad idea in itself.
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    You know...it's not about "wanting the best of both worlds" Of course we do not want a guy who gets "oh so turned on" by having a girlfriend who strips for a living. They are the lame guys who brag to friends and really are not into the woman for much else beyond sex.
    STILL, we do not want a guy who makes us choose because he can not handle it.
    I know for me personally, I do want the guy to be accepting of my decision because it is a part of who I am. I want a guy that can perhaps get a little jealous...keep it to himself... and then realize "hey these men are paying her bills by getting a little teasing...but "I have her when she comes home!" That is the mentality I want my guy to have ideally.

    I got the same question...it sounded like an ultimatum...he said if it was for a little while he can deal but if it is longer he is not sure...As soon as i said ,well this wont work there will be resentment, i think he took it as though i was choosing dancing and he said he would be ok with it as my career. I know that probably wont be the case and i will be in a sucky situation down the line. At this point i do not care....i have alot of things i want to fund...i graduate in may and i am not sure what i want to do exactly....but i want to live on my own timeline regardless!
    He is not funding my expenses...
    Good for you, standing up and being strong Viola.
    You guys will hear the rest of my story when i go back next month...

    As far as career strippers go... I think a woman that will be set to live off investments...ect ect... after dancing is a great friggen thing. It shows alot about character,,,,some men are just too dumb to look beyond the sexual aspect of stripping. A woman that actually makes it through the industy well grounded and polished like you are , Emily, should be a woman that every man admires. It means you have your life together and are not needy!

    Every judgmental man i ever met has admitted that they would do this job if they could..... that says alot....use it if you got it and you can.

    I dunno im fascinated with stripping. I love it all. Not just the money, but the liberation I get. Exotic Dancing empowers me. In a good way, not in the " i need attention or i feel like shit" kind of way. Ofcourse i had my moments when i worked and thought it wasnt worth it. I dated losers, they did not ever make me feel better about it. Im graduating in May and I am going to work full time as a stripper. I do not see anything wrong with it, I have an internship during the day to keep busy so i still have other experiance under my belt. My life, My timeline.

    Sorry this thread was sort of hijacked by my rant...i just got done a "going back to stripping gotta get in shape" workout...so i am definitively pumped by this thread and the "independant" twist is took!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    I'm not going to be doing it forever, it just sucks that no one wants to deal with it in the meantime. I'm a great girl! I'm a really good girlfriend!
    Oh I so can totally relate !!!!!

    This is why I do work now and decided to make the decision to not date even it means I am single (and a little lonely from time to time) for many many years to come. It just isn't worth the bother for me as too many guys are NOT turned on my stripping.


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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    I don't think I'd want to date a guy who thought stripping was cool, mainly because I'd feel like he was dating me because I am a stripper, not because of the person I am. I DO want someone who is possessive and jealous to a healthy degree. I can't imagine any nice guy who would be in love with me and be ok with men touching me, hence, why I need to stop dating for now.

    There's always my booty call guy.
    I'm actually the complete opposite in a way. If the guy has proved to me he has put in an effort to know me as a woman and human being first and foremost and really truely sees the stripping like I do (as a business) and he then gets turned on by the stripping because he knows it is what I am good at and excel at etc and not because i am a stripper... then hell yeah!

    The being turned on by dating me or whatever because I am a stripper before being a woman and human-being is the huge turn off for me and actually pisses me off. Guaranteed to bring out the bitch in me and cut you out of my life.


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    Ahh, Brevardians at their finest. Ugh. Don't worry hun, I'll be yer boyfriend. I wont ask you to quit
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    Try to relax, don't worry about dating or planning a family yet. Enjoy being yourself, and not needing anyone right now. In time you will attain what you desire most.
    I second that. I remember saying the same thing as you, Viola, in the summertime. Around this time last year, my girl and I were having a smoke, talking about our shared regular and scheming about how to get more money from him when we both just kind of agreed that all we really wanted was to have a happy life with our SO's and children (she already has one but I sometimes romanticized the possibility). Amongst all the drinking, drugs, dirtiness, rejection and off kilter schedules, no grass seems greener than the normal, happy family life.
    The big thing that I wish to highlight is that true love happens when it's ready to. Setting up numerous dates for the purpose of trying to meet someone worthwhile never worked for me. I usually have to meet people in "natural" settings and have friendships first before I think about dating them. You will find someone when you least expect to. I almost guarantee that.

    In the meantime, work on yourself. Make your money, have a good time being young (and still having a hot body) and the family stuff will all fall into place when you are ready to. I also used to think of husbands/children as "burdens", but now I don't feel this way at all. I see my family members (and the future lil' one) as positive accents to my life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xxxKarl View Post
    Taking off work for a date is 1st mistake! I only once asked a stripper to take off work for me....but I gave her MONEY for the time....Best is, go out for lunch and after lunch go shopping WITH HIM!!!!!be with him for 3-4 hours and you know almost anything what´s important.....don´t get desperate, there are worthy man out there....and best is to find out A.S.A.P. and not a year later, i.e.: there was this dancer in Utah who "dated" a business partner of me for for about a year, they even made plans together to move to Vegas and buying a house there, I mean they made a trip to Vegas looking for houses....one night I entered the club and she was on stage...I got to the stage "hello" and gave her some $$$, she: "f..k me, he does not f..k me"......poooooor women did not figure out that he was GAY!!!!!But my friend who was me told her at this night!!!!!!
    Did you even read the thread? Typical guy ignoring everything said and making his own interpretation.

    She doesn't want to "date". She wants to date. And she wants to date a guy that respects her. You probably are not aware of this, but we're human too.

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    deleting mention of a loser
    Last edited by ViolaStrings; 03-16-2007 at 02:20 PM. Reason: fear for my sanity

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    He seems a bit bitter. Just a bit.

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    I really shouldn't be bothered by it.
    Last edited by ViolaStrings; 03-16-2007 at 02:19 PM. Reason: fear for my sanity

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    Uhh wow he's a bitter loser. I bet he hasn't had sex since the last ice age.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PaigeDWinter View Post
    Ahh, Brevardians at their finest. Ugh. Don't worry hun, I'll be yer boyfriend. I wont ask you to quit
    I'LL be your other "boyfriend" hehe

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    Quote Originally Posted by velvet View Post
    I'LL be your other "boyfriend" hehe
    I need a posse.

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