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    I went to stripclub last night and the girl was like- you could touch me, just be gentle and dont get close to my vagina.

    But honestly if your being very gentle and staying away from her private areas, does anyone actually have a problem with that....? I dont go to strip clubs that often so you know...whatever!

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    Are you asking if you can maul our breasts and us not mind? The answer for me is no. My rules are no touching my breasts and no touching anywhere that my thong touches. Stay out of my crack and my inner thighs and we'll be fine.

    But do we like it even if we allow it? No, not usually. Most of the time we're putting up with it so that we can get your money. We like your cash not your hands all over our private parts.
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    But honestly if your being very gentle and staying away from her private areas, does anyone actually have a problem with that....?
    It all depends on your location, club norms and dancer boundaries.
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    I've had dancers on many occasions take my politely placed to the side hands and put them where they may. I just make a habit of respect their boundaries and going with the flow.
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    Quote Originally Posted by James00 View Post
    But honestly if your being very gentle and staying away from her private areas, does anyone actually have a problem with that.....?
    I dunno. Would you have a problem with someone touching and objectifying you? My club is one-way contact, for which I am thankful. I save the nice touches for home, with my honey.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rozz View Post
    I dunno. Would you have a problem with someone touching and objectifying you? My club is one-way contact, for which I am thankful. I save the nice touches for home, with my honey.
    I wouldnt mind if its a hot chick doing that to me...lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer View Post
    It all depends on your location, club norms and dancer boundaries.
    I agree with this response.

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    I expect some tame touching during dances, sometimes I like it and sometimes not, depends on the guy. Either way though it's kinda unnerving for me to not be touched at all, or at least get some dialogue when dancing- I feel like I'm sailing without a compass when I get zippo feedback. Like this guy I was really diggin recently- he mentioned he rarely got dances and I believe it because he seemed petrified to touch me at all. And devil be damned, I *wanted* it from him, but the most I could coax outta him was hand holding and gentle embraces. Now, it's wonderful that he was such a considerate gent, but guys take note (especially if your name is Marcus *sigh*), when a girl is rubbing herself into your hands she WANTS you to touch! lol

    The downside is some guys misinterpret that as an invite to push the envelope- I'll forgive them the first time if they go back to where I lead and are content, if they don't then I'm gone immediately or at the end of the song depending on offense.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    Are you asking if you can maul our breasts and us not mind? The answer for me is no. My rules are no touching my breasts and no touching anywhere that my thong touches. Stay out of my crack and my inner thighs and we'll be fine.

    But do we like it even if we allow it? No, not usually. Most of the time we're putting up with it so that we can get your money. We like your cash not your hands all over our private parts.
    Wow way to blow his question completely out of proportion

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    Default Re: Touching a stripper during a dance

    It varies from club to club, from state to state, from community to community, and from dancer to dancer. It is best to ask the dancer what the rules are, and if she just cites the club rules, ask what HER rules are. For instance, almost everywhere you are not allowed to touch the breasts, butt, or crotch. However some dancers will stop you several inches from those areas. It is always polite to ask, and then don't push it.

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    The answer for me is no, this may result in losing fingers




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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackSheEp3 View Post
    I wouldnt mind if its a hot chick doing that to me...lol.
    How about a socially backward old drunk fat bald chick who has to pay money to see a guy naked?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sunshine73 View Post
    How about a socially backward old drunk fat bald chick who has to pay money to see a guy naked?
    HAHA, yea I see where you are coming from. I would never touch a girl unless she asked me too or she physically placed my hands on her.

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    I'm still figuring out my boundaries. So much depends on the individual custie and his attitude, my own personal mood, club rules, etc.

    The club I work at allows "minimal" contact in non-sexual areas (which can be taken many different waysv ), and I really don't mind a caress on the leg or anything like that. It's the "Grab and Squeeze" guys who make me angry/uncomfortable.

    However, like one person said, it feels strange dancing on the lap of a guy who can't or won't give me anything to go off of. The best dances I've given involved the custy lightly keeping his hands on my waist and not trying to stray into the Forbidden Zone. That way there is a nice connection where the guy gets a little touching action while I get to remain in control of the dance and get a sense of what he want.

    I guess I'm happy when can control the touching and contact. It's a compromise, really. Guys want to touch. That's the bottom line. I don't have a problem if the guy is passive and lets me dictate the flow of events. Of course, that doesn't happen very often, but I can dream.

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    I work in a no contact club which suits me perfectly as I don't like being touched at all whatsoever.
    But if the dancer told u to then it's fine.

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    I have never worked in a club where two way touching was acceptable. However, I get creeped out when guys try to touch me.

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    Funny you bring this up, I was in a club on Friday night taking break from plowing snow. I decided to get a LD from one of the ladies, she was giving a great dance, and I was being a good custy keeping my hand at my side and blah blah blah.... she looks at me and says ," am I doing something wrong, why arn't you touching me? " I manage to stammer umm just behaving myself, as I placed my hands on her waist, she smile and the dance continued.
    It was kind of awkward, but I think as it was stated above, each club and each dancer has their own set of rules

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    Rumor has it that the powers that be are about jump on the "Crack Down on Exotic Dancing" bandwagon here, so even our minimal touching might become a thing of the past.

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    I like Andygirl's philosophy. And her photos are awesome!
    I date strippers, especially if they love to model for me.



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    I don't like to be touched at all, what really pisses me off (besides the kitty, boob grabbing, etc.) is when you work in a one way contact club and guys will rub the outside of your thighs with their hands down so the bouncers can't see and so they're not "really totally breaking the rules", I fucking hate that, especially when it's a $10 dance and they don't even tip! I don't mind having the outer part of legs rubbed if it's in VIP, but on a $10 dance, don't touch me at all! I know this sounds harsh, it's just my personal thing, I don't like being touched by strangers, I couldn't survive this business if touching was allowed/encouraged at my club, I'm ok with touching a customer, just not ok with them touching me unless I ask them.

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    Obey club rules and her rules, be clean and respectful and don't surprise her. Just common sense and courtesy. If she says no then and it is not OK with you, just finish the dance, thank her, and move on. Now, if she takes offense at your common sense and courtesy. I would just move on without thanking her. she should be in anoher line of work, or at a club that enforces customer common sense and courtesy.
    Uhhh, BTW, where do I find one of those?
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    Ahhhhh the other night some dumb fuck touched my leg and I said no touching and he goes "Oh Im about to leave anyway so it doesn't matter if I get kicked out"

    What sort of fucked up piece of shit attitude is that? Yeh it's only coz u will get kicked out that I don't want your filthy scum-ridden hands on my body arsehole.

    I promptly ended the dance and kept his money - that's another club rule darling.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    Ahhhhh the other night some dumb fuck touched my leg and I said no touching and he goes "Oh Im about to leave anyway so it doesn't matter if I get kicked out"

    What sort of fucked up piece of shit attitude is that? Yeh it's only coz u will get kicked out that I don't want your filthy scum-ridden hands on my body arsehole.

    I promptly ended the dance and kept his money - that's another club rule darling.
    Well, that guy needs to go to a different club. Plain, simple.




    To the contact Dancers, do you mind if we touch your stomachs? Sweet christ on a pogo stick some of you have such sexy stomaches! Is that okay, as long as we leave the navel rings alone and don't go down enough to hit the V=Vendetta region?

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    I will, for enough money, tolerate you touching my boobs. NEVER my crotch area, it is off limits and priceless. But no, I do not enjoy it or get anything sexual out of it. Sorry to ruin the fantasy, dude.
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    God loves strippers and when guys do things like that its an automatic ticket to HELL!


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    Perhaps you stopped spending money on her. Strippers need money to operate. They are like coin operated juke-boxes of love.

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    And all this time I thought they just loved it when I felt their boobs while I was talking sexy to them telling them how horny they made me.
    I date strippers, especially if they love to model for me.



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