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    I probably shouldn’t do this, but I’m going to anyway.


    It’s come to my attention that some things are maybe, possibly, being said behind the scenes that I would like to address. Understand that I don’t know who said what to whom, exactly. But even without knowing any specific details, I’ve decided to do this. Make of it what you will.


    I don’t post much about my relationship with TOO, for a couple of reasons. First, I’m just not very comfortable posting details about my current personal life. I was never all that keen on making our relationship public knowledge in the first place, partly because I feared it would cause unnecessary drama. And so it has.


    Second, I notice that, with most established couples in which both parties post here, each person kind of does his or her own thing, and they don’t interact all that much on the board— because they interact enough in RL. So, that seems to be the proper etiquette, and I’m comfortable with that.


    Now, I have no idea why anyone would give a shit who I see or why, but apparently it has been discussed. So, here goes:


    TOO caught my eye when he said he consulted on dictionaries. (I’m weird, okay? One time the Wu-Tang Clan was in my club, but I ignored them because I was starstuck by some guy who said he’d written reviews for the New York Times Sunday Book Review.) Anyway, I PM’ed. He wrote back. We were impressed with each other.


    Like me, he’s a language geek and a science geek—an unusual combination. Also like me, he’s got a borderline-unhealthy obsession with strippers & stripclubs. It doesn’t freak him out that I used to be a dancer—quite the contrary. I can tell him pretty much anything about my checkered past and he’s more intrigued than horrified. I like that in a guy.


    We both spend a lot of time in geeky intellectual circles, but we’ve both experienced the uglier, raunchier side of life in ways that make us feel out of place among those staid ivory-tower folks.


    We are both sort of pathologically generous, prone to committing acts of genuine altruism. I have no doubt that I understand this trait of his far better than most people would.


    For reasons that are far too personal to go into in public, we have phenomenal sexual chemistry. (This is not to mention his truly impressive technical skill, and the fact that…you know how sometimes you find someone who just fits you perfectly, in a purely physical sense, and gets you off like nobody else?) By far the best sex I’ve ever had. If that’s TMI, I apologize.


    He seems to “get” me in a way that very few people do. I am kind of unusual and weird. So is he. We’re a pretty good match. It’s a long-distance thing, and we both have busy lives, so we don’t see each other as often as we’d like. But when we do, we have waaaaaaaayyyyyyy more fun than should ever be legal. And that’s a profound understatement.


    I know he puts people off sometimes. There have been rumors, I’m sure, that he doesn’t exist or isn’t who he claims to be. He’s over-the-top, overly effusive in his posts. People who’ve met him, though, know that he isn’t full of shit. Sure, he occasionally embellishes, taking small liberties with the truth for the sake of a good story. He exaggerates (especially when it comes to my hotness, which I’ve asked him not to do. Repeatedly, and I do wish he’d listen. I’m uncomfortable enough with deserved praise!) But I really don’t think he’s being disingenuous when he does this. I think he sees the world in Technicolor sometimes, and when I think he’s exaggerating, he’s really just reporting his honest perception.


    And then there’s the way he talks about money. I understand why this rubs people the wrong way sometimes. But you know…There’s the person who was born with a silver spoon in his mouth, who has so much money that he doesn’t know what to do with it, and believes he can buy people like they were just another luxury item. Then there’s the person who starts out with very little, does well for himself, and is exceptionally generous because he remembers what it’s like to be broke and scared. Those of you who have had personal dealings with TOO will know which of these describes him.


    Okay, so this is the only time I’ll do this. I don’t go in for extravagant professions of love; it’s just not my style. Understatement is more my thing. Besides, I believe that in relationships, what you say isn’t worth much—the only thing that really matters is what you do.


    So, for the record: If anyone thinks that what goes on between me and him is “all about the money,” they’re dead wrong.
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    I'm really just using him for the sex.
    Last edited by Nicolina; 03-17-2007 at 05:30 PM. Reason: Better punchline? ;)
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    Good to know...

    ...I hadn't heard that particular rumour myself.

    I'm not a huge fan of the gratuitous mentions of riches that TOO seems to (unintentially, I think) throw out (near-constantly), and maybe that's what rubs other people the wrong way too. Stuff like that always gets rumours flying; analogous to how girls at work will gossip and hate on the girl who always brags about how much money she makes, and question the truth of her claims.

    In all honesty, though, I doubt that anyone cares whether you're with him for sex or money. Though I'm glad for your sake it's the former

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    That's quite a trick being able to find out it's the sex without having to check out all the poor guys in bed.

    It's also great to be with a rich guy when you know it's for the right reasons instead of the wrong ones. At least that way you're not a golddigger, even if the end result is identical.

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    *climbs out from under rock*

    what, all this time there's been a "behind the scenes"?

    it's kinda cool to be completely oblivious to shit. rock on, you pair!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nautilus View Post
    *climbs out from under rock*
    haha I was gonna post the same thing.

    I'm so daft sometimes, I never even notice any gossip and drama lol

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    Nope, me neither. And if there was, how petty!

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    Banning me won't make Nicolina any less of a pathetic golddigger, Alison/Chrissy.

    It also won't make TOO any less of a CHUMP who has to purchase his popularity and his sex life, and who takes it upon himself to act out for any woman who whines in his vicinity. He is actually the greatest chump in the United States, it appears. Any woman who hooks up with a guy like TOO just uses him as a trophy and parades him around as you're seeing done here. Of course he's going to be SO offended that I said something negative about his sex supply, but now he's got two choices: 1) act out and prove he's a thug and a criminal; or 2) deal with it.

    Oh, and go ahead and ban me. The net's a much bigger place than this, and I just put up a board for guys who are fed up with this shit and who should no longer be tipping these rude women. I used to be a VERY polite customer and the only thing I ever did wrong was question why I should tip dancers who see fit to go home with other customers, etc. Obviously they don't want to confront that, so it's easier to just bash me. In a way, it's like a minor form of extortion in that it seems money would stop this shit.

    At least that's the way it's being presented to the cops.

    Cut it out, all of you. Now.

    If you want to debate me, do it on another board. Since this thread is being linked to from outside, once the discussion leaves here, it won't come back, and I think invading my privacy like that is really, REALLY lame.

    See y'all around the net.

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    Nicolina & TOO, do you! God I hate haters!!!!!!

    Can they have their personal business back please!!!
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    Sweetie, I have no idea what you are talking about. BUT...i wanted to tell you to keep your head up. Don't let anything bother you. People will always talk, they'll always find something wrong with you and if they sense weakness...they'll never let that issue go.

    I'm so happy that you found someone that is so compatible with you. TOO, you are a lucky man, though i'm sure you know this.

    *gives a giant hug to both of you*

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    There's a wild side behind every innocent face.

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    I've been around for a few years and I didn't notice it either! I know TOO mentions Nic all the time, but I never put two and two together.

    I guess I always thought that, since we're used to being the butt of rumors all the time in RL, we were kind of above spreading rumors and speculating on things we know nothing about.

    It makes me sad that two people who are obviously happy together feel they have to explain their relationship.

    Hope you guys stay as happy as you are now.

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    I haven't heard any rumours either.I've met TOO on many occasions and he is a genuine wonderful person.I'm sure,Nicolina,you are as well.

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    I certainly haven't heard any rumors... but: Lucky you!
    Hope you guys have much happiness.

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    Well there will ALWAYS be naysayers nic, you know this, especially in this industry.

    People are naturally challenged by other's success. This comes in all spectrum. Considering the nature of this board, you should (and I suspect you are) completely familiar with this fact. Even a custy is intimidated by the thought of your locker room conversation with other women after he's shelled out 600 or so dollars trying to get your number and a dinner date.

    When/if he meets the guy that did it, he's going to compare, find differences, and dislike him for the things that make him better, regardless of the validity of the trait, it is almost natural to seek to discredit it. It's a horrible side of ourselves to say "Life would be easier for me TOO if I had that much money." or whatever instead of saying "Wow, what could I do to at least make life simple for me and enjoy myself." Since I believe everyone can be content in their financial and personal lives.

    I never thought TOO was about the money, which is why I believe he's so free with it. I believe the man probably has more than he ever expected to, therefor he makes sure he doesn't overspend, but anything above a certain amount he needs, he is very free with in use for fun.

    I admire this, 'cause I can totally see myself doing the exact same thing. If I had the same ability, I'd have the same "Why just let it sit in the bank when I can have fun with it AND make others smile?" mentality as well.

    But that's me, I admire the success, and even when rubbed wrong in the past, I ALWAYS knew it was a misunderstanding. I mean the ONLY thing I worry about with the guy is the fact that sometimes he talks as if there isn't much more to him than his wallet, which, frankly, is untrue. And I've never met the guy.

    I like the guy. I've even asked for advice, and on the occasions he's replied I've learned much. I've also talked about him to everyone I've met here at least once due to their morbid curiosity, but not just because of his money, but, maybe because of a little possibly-too-detailed-maybe-partially-cause-for-this-thread ( ) trip report on the blue side...

    The guy makes an impact because he's known, does well for himself, and people like him. This means more eyes are on him, and more critical ones are on him. Therefor people will always seek to make their self-view of lack-of-personal-success easier to take by discrediting him and his monumental success.

    People make their self-perceived feelings of lack of success smaller by discrediting the ones around them who have success (in the naysayer's eyes at least) and why they have it.

    "Hell I could date a stripper like her if I had that kind of money." and no one realizes how hurtful, painful, and just flat out self-revealing that kind of statement is.

    People have their hangups, he's flamboyant, but he's good hearted, and different. I can see why people would be challenged. But, I get annoying too. I'm not always funny, and I even piss people off. I've always respected that he was never above apologizing when made aware. I KNOW I'm only good in small doses, and respect that others don't like me. I've got a life to live too ya know?

    On a lighter note:

    I remember my very first pm to the guy, I asked for advice and told him I hope some day to be in his shoes. Fact is, I'm still on the path, but closer. I've asked for advice on many occasions and in the times he's decided to reply it's been worth every word in it's reading.

    I don't know the guy, who he is, or how he got to were he is. I don't envy him, or am jealous of him, or in some way comparing myself to him. I don't feel like he's challenged me or trying to, But I like the guy, I would love to have dinner with him and listen, Above all, he's got my respect.

    And with or without your help nic, I WILL buy him that drink.

    Mast.

    As for all the chemistry talk and the sex... I am totally happy for you. When you make an OUTSTANDING connection with someone in all other places besides the bedroom, the sex...is phenomenal.
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    Quote Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver View Post
    Good to know...

    ...I hadn't heard that particular rumour myself.
    Me either...







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    Aww... that was just so sweet!
    I must be hormonal, because that got me all teary eyed.

    I must admit, back in the day, when I first joined, I was skeptical of TOO. He certainly sounded too good to be true! But over the years I've come to understand that he is indeed "real" and (like you said) genuinely altruistic.

    Who cares about the BTS gossip? Or the blatant gossip either? When the ridiculous bitchiness gets beyond normal, laugh at how silly people are on the internet (and laugh at how crazy they must be in real life!)



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    ...the rumor down here is TOO has bought two tickets to Paris.
    "Peter, did you take Stewie to a strip-club? He smells like sweat and fear." - Lois and Stewie (Family Guy) ... "Through early morning fog I see, Visions of the things to be, The pains that are withheld for me, I realize and I can see..."

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    I hadn't heard any such rumors either, but it's obvious from seeing you two together that your chemistry is intense. You're adorable together so the hell with any rumors!

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    I still want to watch.


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    I am in the dark about the whole thing. I don't know who TOO is, but as long as you guys are happy together, thats the most important.

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    TOO is The Other Owner



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    Nicolina,

    Who you date is your business and from what I just read you sound like very happy pair. I'm sorry if you had to go through any drama over it and I hope it blows over soon. Take care!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nautilus View Post
    *climbs out from under rock*

    what, all this time there's been a "behind the scenes"?
    Wow I really have to stop hiding under the rock too! Man I miss so much! Wow I did'nt know SW have a behind the scenes. How do you get a vip pass to that! You know who you date is your business. As long as you guys are happy and the realtionship is healthy. ROCK ON! In life we do not get to many people we can relate to and the relation ship is great! So when we find that person. We should emjoy thier time and forget all the haters!


    When we allow negative engery into our lives. Thats, when things start to mess up! Dont allow those haters to bring negative engery into your life or realtionship. I feel something it is best to keep quiet about your realtionship.
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    I didn't know anyone cared what the relationship was about or not about. I also didn't know there was all this "behind the scenes" drama about it.

    Anyone?

    Anyone?

    Bueller??


    All I've ever heard was that a relationship existed, but that's been fairly obvious for quite some time to anyone who spends alot of time here and pays attention
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    ^Right? Is this pm BS? It's just jealousy. Like water off a duck's back...let it slide.


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    While the bts rumours are prolly out there, Ive yet to hear them. Of course I usually hear shit last round these parts anyhow.
    Nic I'm sorry ya had to post that, your personal life should be just that...PERSONAL. However I can take some of what ya say and apply it to Dea...she rocks my world in ways no one ever did and she GETS me, as odd and out there as I can be.
    I used to be a TOO doubter, til I talked to the man in pm's. I realized he's actually pretty down to earth and just likes t provide others some good opportunities when he can.


    Leave the couple alone ya cowardly shit talkers, let them be happy for fucks sake!

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