<<my edit: I mis-used the word "stalker" when I originally wrote up this post...I mention this in a reply...I was so huffed up about this that I used the word too freely. Just calling him a "harasser" would have been more appropriate at this point>>
I would never think that this would happen to me. It finally has.
I went on a date with an asian dude (I usually go for white guys, but this one sounded interesting, nice,educated, good looking,trendy in some ways, caring, etc...that's what it said in his profile). We had drinks at a nice lounge. I have good vibes about everything, for the most part...he's very intelligent, in my age range, etc... So I email him saying I had a great time, etc, love to see him again. I don't hear from him for 2 weeks.
Then I get a call today from him...I accidentally disconnect when answering the phone, call him back. He says he's in a cab, going to a dinner (but it's after 10PM...sorta doesn't make sense). I'm thinking why is he calling me if he can't talk? To leave a message? He asks if he can call me tommorrow, I say yeah. After that i'm thinking, wait, he hasn't replied for a couple of weeks, then he calls me out of the blue?
Then he calls me in a couple of hours, after 12 midnight...I know because it's his number, and all I hear is in the background weird silly noises and "loony." I think what this is he is prank calling me. Perhaps he is drunk-calling, after fooling around with guys at night (it is St. Patrick's day).Can you believe a 32 year old guy prank calling me? Prank calling a girl who did nothing to deserve it? I can see prank calling a guy...but a female...that's crossing the line. It almost feels predatory. Then, half an hour later, I get 2 calls in a row from a "restricted" number. I don't pick up. It's probably him, after using caller id on his cell phone.
I'm not having anything to do with this guy anymore. Clearly he's playing games, and thinks it's funny. What's shocking to me is that he seemed like a really decent guy, very successful, very intelligent, made himself sound like the "ideal" guy in many ways. But then he turns around and does this to me. Really for no good reason.
I've never had a stalker-ish relationship, or a harrassment kind of thing happen to me like that. I would think that in general I do a good job of screening out idiots who might be dangerous or what not. However this guy seems to have been a wolf in sheep's clothing, in very-well-designed, seems-like-real-wool sheep's clothing! It really is making me wonder about outside appearances...and how I really can't trust anyone...no matter how much it seems like they're "A-ok." Girls keep a head out for people who really are deceptive or who are playing an elaborate game. A human's potential to be sadistic and nasty...I guess it's limitless...there's no roof to it. And it's sick. Wasn't there some psychological study on that...I forgot who authored that.
I'm feeling hurt. I'm feeling offended. I'm feeling harassed. I'm feeling shooken up. How could someone do something like that? And i'm feeling worried...we met through online dating, and I exchanged my pictures (they were just basic head shots...definitely nothing explicit! i would never do that for dating) to him. It's just sooo sick. Am I just learning an important lesson here?
Is it because maybe deep-down some asians hate whites? Could that be some of it? Or could it also be that he's trying to play a power trip game? Just being a jerk? It just seemed like he's someone who'd never do such a thing. I guess i'm wrong.
I know I will not answer any more of his calls if he tries calling again.
I hope that karma will play its role and really fuck him over in life.
Have any of you known people who seemed "kosher" yet really were demons?
Any "advice?"
This is making me really scared in many ways of doing this online dating stuff ever again. It has really turned me off. I thought that writing about this is better than just trying to shake it off...maybe some of you can help unearth some lessons for me to learn? I don't know... It's just gross...for some reason it makes me think of cases where seemingly normal, educated,good-looking middle-class men murder their wives... It's sooo sickening.
Thank you soo much for listening, and especially thanks if you reply



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he could be a nutzo but you seemed pretty sure of you gauge of him and was surprised by this turn of events so i'm kinda giving him the benefit of the doubt.


) i gotta think he unleashed some heavy heavy shit in that overheard conversation for him to act that way. 
I think I was too worked up about the whole ordeal that I ended up using some words sloppily, inappropriately
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