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    So I have this friend. AT first she was really critical of my choice to strip, and now that she sees how it's working for me she wants to do it, too. The problem is... love her as I may, she's not really that pretty. We're talking very overweight, very plain, etc. I think she's just enchanted by all the dough I've been making. So now she wan ts my tips for auditioning.. and I'm looking for a nice way of saying she ain't got what it takes.... anyone else been here

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    Ohh..I've been there. When I first started dancing, one of my not so close friends wanted to dance to. She had 3 kids that wrecked her body, stretch marks, lots of pudge, long frizzy hair, and she did her makeup terribly. Absolutly not attractive inthe slighest. I didnt want to tell her that tho, so I helped her get a job where I worked. It caused soo many problems. Night after night, she made zero money. Not only due to her looks, but also her style, which was just very crude and unpolished. She brough me down because she was constantly looking for reassurance. Do I look fat, do I loko pretty, do you like the way my hair is, I know Im fat, blah blah blah. It brought me down. At work, I dont want to constantly try to give someone confidance they just dont have. At work, Im there to work and make money, not sit in the dressing room for hours trying to make someoen have some confidance and self esteem.
    She got more and more jealous of me, making money every night when she did not. She started rumors about me, and started talking shit about me behind my back. She caued trouble when her and I went out together with mutual friends. Eventually, I told my manager I could not work with her due to her lies and rumors, and since she had been there for about a month and had yet to sell 1 single lapdance, they fired her.

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    yea i have been there too. you just have to be honest with your friend if you are close enough to do so. otherwise, tell her you can give her tips but dont help her get a job with you. learn from kaylinn's mistake. and dont let her be at the same club.

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    If there is something stripping has taught me, it's that everybody is somebody's fetish. Amazing, but true. You never know...she make money. So many times I've seen the not so hot chicks make money over the pretty ones.
    If you fear seeing her humiliated tell her to try working a club other than your own. Maybe say to her that you don't want work interferring with your friendship as it often does.
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    You may want to ask her if she feels strong enough to do it. Tell her that yeah, the financial rewards can be great, but ask her if she would be able to deal with all the negative crap that comes with the job. Tell her it is harder than it appears and she may want to give it more thought. She may wind up reconsidering.
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    honestly, I think you should spare her feelings, say the club isn't hiring, and don't flash cash to her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by trin0101 View Post
    So I have this friend. AT first she was really critical of my choice to strip, and now that she sees how it's working for me she wants to do it, too. The problem is... love her as I may, she's not really that pretty. We're talking very overweight, very plain, etc. I think she's just enchanted by all the dough I've been making. So now she wan ts my tips for auditioning.. and I'm looking for a nice way of saying she ain't got what it takes.... anyone else been here
    I wouldn't even throw in a personal opinion. Just tell her that if shes interested in stripping, the only way she can get hired is to audition at a club. If she gets hired, great! If not, then it's the club that might hurt her feelings and not you.

    Are there any clubs in your area that WOULD take her though? If your club rejects her you can always point her in the direction of another club. Here in AZ theres clubs that only hire blond hard bodied types, and clubs that hire the exact opposite of that. One club I work at has several plainer women, older women, full figured women, etc. etc. And some of those girls BANK. There really is a market for everything.

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    I agree with DollyRocker. You should be a supportive friend. Leave it up to the club to say no.

    A lot of time girls come in to audition in pairs. And a lot of times, we'd have to say, "You, but not you. Sorry."

    I try to not be too blunt, but something like, "You're not what we're looking for." Or I will put them on the stage (if the club was dead at that time), then when they get down, tell them we were looking for someone who danced a little better.

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    I started a thread about this not long ago...in the end, the girl ended up not dancing because every club I took her to basically laughed in her face when she told them she wanted to dance. I had to let her see for herself. I felt bad, but atleast she's not bugging me about it anymore!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    Ohh..I've been there. When I first started dancing, one of my not so close friends wanted to dance to. She had 3 kids that wrecked her body, stretch marks, lots of pudge, long frizzy hair, and she did her makeup terribly. Absolutly not attractive inthe slighest. I didnt want to tell her that tho, so I helped her get a job where I worked. It caused soo many problems. Night after night, she made zero money. Not only due to her looks, but also her style, which was just very crude and unpolished. She brough me down because she was constantly looking for reassurance. Do I look fat, do I loko pretty, do you like the way my hair is, I know Im fat, blah blah blah. It brought me down. At work, I dont want to constantly try to give someone confidance they just dont have. At work, Im there to work and make money, not sit in the dressing room for hours trying to make someoen have some confidance and self esteem.
    She got more and more jealous of me, making money every night when she did not. She started rumors about me, and started talking shit about me behind my back. She caued trouble when her and I went out together with mutual friends. Eventually, I told my manager I could not work with her due to her lies and rumors, and since she had been there for about a month and had yet to sell 1 single lapdance, they fired her.
    I have to say something becuse i read this hours ago and I kept thinking about this comment. 3 kids did not wreck your friends body your friend wrecked her own body by not takeing care of it. I have had four children yes four and I just got a job at a club that dose not hire everyone hell they did not even hire everyone that came in to audtion they day I did. I work out daily and eat right I take care of my skin and my hair. The fact the I have had children has nothing to do with my apperance today pregancy is a natural part of being a women not a scentence to unsexiness.

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    "I wouldn't even throw in a personal opinion. Just tell her that if shes interested in stripping, the only way she can get hired is to audition at a club. If she gets hired, great! If not, then it's the club that might hurt her feelings and not you."

    I like Dollyrocker's advice^^. But do warn her that it is a tough industry and she must be strong to flourish in it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by krchab99 View Post
    I have to say something becuse i read this hours ago and I kept thinking about this comment. 3 kids did not wreck your friends body your friend wrecked her own body by not takeing care of it. I have had four children yes four and I just got a job at a club that dose not hire everyone hell they did not even hire everyone that came in to audtion they day I did. I work out daily and eat right I take care of my skin and my hair. The fact the I have had children has nothing to do with my apperance today pregancy is a natural part of being a women not a scentence to unsexiness.
    Amen to that. I have a 5 year old and I am in better/healthier shape now than before I had him. And I was lucky enough to dodge the stretch marks. Woo hoo!

    But there is little you can do about stretch marks, other than prayer, vitamin E and lotion lotion lotion!
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    Maybe you could bitch about shitty customers to her? And make dressing room drama sound worse than it is, so stripping won't seem so wonderful to her.

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    I wouldn't tell her that she doesn't have what it takes. That would cause a lot of problems, I think. Just don't talk up the job around her. Let her audition if she wants to. She'll quit if she doesn't make any money and that will be that.
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    perhaps you could reccomend a club with for girl with a slightly larger size. Then take her to get her hair fixed. And then to a department store where they can show her how to apply which kind of make and how to do it properly.

    And as for style, guys do like some cute things, but it more about the over all look of a girl than just clothes. And as she does it, maybe she will learn how to improve.




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    I really believe that sometimes, people need to be told the truth, no matter if it's shitty. If you are REALLY close friends, I would tell her that she needs to loose a bit of weight and that you can help her with her make up.... in a nice way, of course. If you're not super close, just tell her your club isn't hiring and don't encourage her to dance, and like Lola said, don't flash cash around her.

    Personally, I know a lot of people get scared to say things that hurt people's feelings, but sometimes it is TOTALLY for the best. If somebody is always being lied to and told they're not fat, they don't drink too much, they don't do any dumb thing.... they will believe that. If everyone told them the truth, they would have more of an opportunity to make a change and see their behavior how it really is.
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